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AIBU or is this the most romantic proposal ever! (Not)

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GirlOnIt · 18/02/2019 21:06

Background: we've discussed marriage and all that. Dp had a proposal planned but we've been struggling a bit with adapting to life as parents so I said for him not to ask.

Cue today. Ds isn't well, he's been feeding on and off all day and hasn't slept at all. Dp came home early from work to take over and managed to get him to take some expressed milk and fall asleep, yay Smile

I got a bath while Dp was settling Ds and when I got out he said he'd go get us a McD's, so we could eat and rest before Ds woke again. Not really sure what came over me but I burst into tears and in the midst of comforting me he said "god I love you so fucking much, please marry me". Stood in the kitchen, me with wet hair and wearing one of his t-shirts and not in a cute rom com way, I look a mess.
I mean it's romance novel stuff right? (If I say yes).

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BigSandyBalls2015 · 19/02/2019 08:32

Completely agree with CeeCee

Lweji · 19/02/2019 08:32

Awwww. He's lovely.

Just marry him already. Why not another year?

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GirlOnIt · 19/02/2019 08:50

Ds still not very well. We're going to take him to the doctors. I'm pretty sure it's just a viral and there's nothing they can do. But Dp thought he sounded a little chesty and he's only 4 months so I think better to get him checked out (or we're just being over protective first time parents).

Dp's taken the day off so if Ds is ok, we're going to go for lunch and look at rings. He gave me one he'd bought to propose with last night, but hasn't bought a real one. He said he went to buy one four times but each time thought, what if I spend such a lot of money and she doesn't like it. I'm rather glad he didn't buy it though, he showed me what he was thinking and it's a bit much for me and too expensive. I'd have been annoyed at him spending that on a ring.

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GirlOnIt · 19/02/2019 08:58

Waiting a year at least.
Because I don't want to get married when Ds is only young and I'm still breastfeeding and focused on him. I want to be back and settled at work and I need to know that our blips since Ds's arrival are just that.

I love him and I know he loves me and Ds. But we haven't had the easiest of times. We're talking a lot more now and I get the 'why' I do, but I need time to be certain.

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Halloumimuffin · 19/02/2019 09:03

A proposal that involves McDonalds is everything I could ever dream of

Billballbaggins · 19/02/2019 09:07

Aw congratulations OP. There’s no harm in waiting a bit either.

My husband proposed on Valentine’s Day (cliché day!) when our baby was around 2 months old. I was sitting on the sofa in a huff because it was afternoon and he hadn’t even got me a card (I was hormonal still and VERY sleep deprived). He came in with a rose in his teeth, gave me my card and as I opened it he got down on one knee and proposed. I was wearing my scabbiest clothes, DS was asleep in the Moses basket next to me and the living room was a mess Grin so not romantic AT ALL.
We didn’t get married for another 3 years because I couldn’t make up my mind about what kind of wedding I wanted and we had another baby in the meantime and, like you, I didn’t want the wedding to be when she was too young.
Enjoy ring shopping!

PBo83 · 19/02/2019 09:21

A proposal, McDonalds, wine and a nap...That's the stuff dreams are made off right there.

Congratulations.

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GirlOnIt · 19/02/2019 09:52

Ha! I text my friend and she replied, oh god a McDonalds with a proposal that's so you. Not sure if I should be a little offended or not.

Dp suggested we ask if they do weddings like they used to do birthday parties (do they still do birthday parties?) and we can have a Ronald McDonald wedding cake. And give out happy meal toys as party favours.

Not sure Dp realises that it's pretty easy to change your mind on a engagement. I don't even officially have a ring yet......

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GirlOnIt · 19/02/2019 11:47

Ha! That won't be happening Pyongyang.
Ds just has a viral (cold) and we've got some drops for his stuffy nose. I think a walk in his pram might be good for him anyway so we're going to go ring shopping. Haven't a clue where to start though. Dp's budget seems ridiculously high. I'm thinking we could do the whole thing with what he's budgeted just for a ring.

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goose1964 · 19/02/2019 11:52

At least he asked you to marry him mine just said shall we make our holiday a honeymoon. Mind you that was nearly 31 years ago so I suppose his heart was in the right place

ToffeePennie · 19/02/2019 12:14

Yes what a lovely proposal. Similar to mine when my husband just said “well will ya?” With a ring nearby. Proper and real and very “us”

SadieContrary · 19/02/2019 12:24

I think it's lovely. It's heartfelt and in the moment. Congrats!

My DH proposed after we'd been out for dinner, we'd come back home (slightly tipsy) and I was dancing around our living room whilst he poured us another drink. He then sat the drinks down, joined me in dancing for a minute then just stopped and cupped my face and said "I want to do this forever, please be my wife"

Called my Mum to tell her and she said, "I'm in ASDA, can you phone me back" 😂

PyongyangKipperbang · 19/02/2019 15:43

The thing about rings is that you need to think that you will be wearing this every day for the rest of your life. Also, high street jewellers are rip off merchants, so its worth having a look for styles and stones you like then going to a ring designer and have it made. You buy the stone and then pay for it to be set in your choice of metal, it costs about half the cost for the same ring in a high street store.

I have platinum and it is very hard wearing but it goes dull very quickly. I dont mind it looking like that but my friend hates that she has to have it polished to keep looking shiny whereas gold doesnt need that. White gold is plated so will need to be replated regularly, which costs each time so worth bearing in mind.

Alsohuman · 19/02/2019 15:48

Good advice. And if you like traditional designs, preloved rings are also much, much better value. I know some people feel a bit uneasy about them but some Edwardian and Victorian rings are beautiful.

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GirlOnIt · 19/02/2019 17:10

Thank you PyongyangKipperbang and Alsohuman. I would have really liked a vintage ring but honestly don't have a clue where to look or what I'd be looking or asking for.
I've picked one out that's lovely and very similar to what Dp had in mind, just smaller and without diamonds on the band because that looked too much on me.
The sales guy was explaining diamonds cut etc and the one Dp was considering was a better diamond but I honestly couldn't tell the difference at all.
And this way he's got money left over so we've been to book a holiday for the summer. Smile

Need to wait a few days as they didn't have my size so are ordering it in.

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GirlOnIt · 19/02/2019 17:14

This one, although I think slightly smaller and it looks nicer on.
My mums going to treat to my nails doing tomorrow, because they're a mess was a bit embarrassing trying rings on Blush

AIBU or is this the most romantic proposal ever! (Not)
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Alsohuman · 19/02/2019 17:17

Lovely, you have a beautiful ring to go with your fabulous proposal. It’s a great way to start a marriage.

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GirlOnIt · 19/02/2019 18:52

Thanks @Alsohuman. I'm a little excited. Really didn't think I was all that bothered for him asking or in getting married. But I have to admit the way he did it was pretty perfect for us and I'm glad it wasn't a big thing like he was originally planning because it did feel very genuine and like he's really wanting a marriage and all that entails not just a wedding because he feels it's the next step so we should do it.

We've had a nice day, even with a still slightly poorly Ds. Dp is currently trying to convince his mum we definitely don't want an engagement party and we'd just rather a family meal if she must do something.

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Notreallyhappy · 19/02/2019 19:00

That's so sweet..congratulations in order...

MeganChips · 19/02/2019 19:12

That’s a lovely proposal and a lovely ring. Congratulations!

DH proposed to me when I had a pen and paper out and was working out how much we could afford to spend on mortgage payments when we were considering buying a house!

Dinoraptor · 19/02/2019 19:14

Do you know what? That is lovely. I'd take that over a cliché Paris proposal any day.

WonderTweek · 19/02/2019 19:23

Ahh that's lush. I'd take a Mickey D proposal over a fancy Paris one any day. Congratulations!

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GirlOnIt · 20/02/2019 09:47

Thanks for those later congratulations! I did read and mean to reply but Dp's parents called round to offer their congratulations and bring champagne. Then we ended up having early night Wink

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gingerbiscuits · 21/02/2019 16:33

The fact he's so hands on with baby AND goes out for Maccy D AND does it when you look & feel not your best makes it pretty good in my book!

My hubby dropped to his knees one Saturday morning while I was at the office desk paying bills in my PJs - he proposed then promptly sneezed on me as he had a stinking cold! Romantic it was not!! Still together almost 20yrs later though. 😂

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