Mother said she’s embarrassed of our rental status

[Blackcelebration73]

My mother told me yesterday that she’s embarrassed of our status as renters. Her husbands kids have just bought an expensive big house for a million quid. She’s ashamed that we never bought and we live in a tiny rental house.
I don’t even know what to say I am so shocked she’d verbalise this.
Aibu to be shocked? It’s really made me feel shit/ a failure etc.

I'd be tempted to tell her you don't want to embarrass her anymore so won't be contacting her again...... and certainly won't be sending lavish gifts.
We were first time buyers last year at the grand old ages of 42 and 49..... took us 10 years to save £20k deposit, money for furnishings and have fallback savings.
Sorry your mum is a snob

So because she married again to a wealthy man she suddenly expects her children to suddenly become 'rich' as well.

I would be telling her a few home truths about her attitude and that I will be spending a less of my and my families time and money in her self centred and shallow self. And that I will be teaching my children to be more understanding and expecting people for who they are and not for their HUSBAND money.

Yes the bouquet part was very funny hyacinth sounds like op’s mother!

Has your DM got a Million pound house?

If not tell her to sort her own housing out first before criticising you, her step children must be embarrassed their parents aren't as rich as them.

Parents are just like this sometimes though aren't they. My dad was embarrassed that I was a single mum then, when I did remarry, he was embarrassed that I didn't change my name. He was born in the 30s though and lived his life according to the very strict rules of the time.

I didn't take it personally but that's a judgement call whether people are being offensive or are just a product of their own insecure upbringing.

I'd probably be tempted to come back with a PA retort about how lots of people have had huge handouts from their mums to fund their deposits and you're embarrassed not to have had the same.

Parents are just like this sometimes though aren't they

Not the decent ones, no.

I think is so true. If your living life the best you can, then let others be worried over nothing.

I feel like i constantly have to justify my life to her

Well, you DON'T have to, so stop doing so. Respond to any digs about you renting your home with silence, or a short 'I'm tired of hearing about that.'

And she can expect away about the expensive presents, can't she? I wouldn't give her a thing more.