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Pet dog?

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nugget900 · 16/02/2019 22:03

DD wants a pet dog.. I don't.

I find them to be annoying as hell!

I've seen news online that even trained dogs have bitten people.

My sister has a dog and she's almost 2. Is that still a puppy? She has been taken to several different dog training sessions yet is still disobedient. There is a chance (if we get a dog) that it will have the same behavioural problems or similar.

My sister took her and her family over to mine for one week as a mini-holiday in December, the dog did countless annoying things and shed hair constantly. The hair even somehow got in the fridge - it got everywhere. The dog chewed the carpet and did her toilet business on my carpet three times in less than an hour. The dog would, when she thought we weren't looking, eat food from our plates. I discarded of the food straight away and had it replaced because that dog eats her own shit.

My daughter is aware of all of this as she was there when my sister and her kids came around to ours, but she still wants a dog anyway.

I don't want her to have one.

Aibu?

OP posts:
PositiveVibez · 16/02/2019 22:08

You should not get a dog just because your DD wants one. They are a huge responsibility and most of the work will fall to you.

We thought long and hard and chose very carefully once we made the decision.

We wouldn't be without our gorgeous puppy now and she has definitely enriched our family life.

Point being, everyone was on board.

You cannot get a dog if you're not 100% committed.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 16/02/2019 22:10

Don’t get a dog. You are not a dog person. That much is clear.

Kittykat93 · 16/02/2019 22:10

How old is your daughter? If old enough tell her to volunteer walking dogs at a local shelter. Don't get one if you aren't fully on board and committed.

Maelstrop · 16/02/2019 22:10

Yabu and you shouldn’t bow to pester power if you don’t want one. You have to be committed. Your sister’s dog can have all the training classes in the world but she clearly isn’t backing it up at home, nor has she correctly toilet trained it.

Babyroobs · 16/02/2019 22:11

Don't do it without a lot of thought, it will be you doing all the work and it sounds like you will resent it. They are a huge commitment and a huge amount of work. I made a snap decision with my second dog and much as I love him I regret not thinking it through more thoroughly. He takes up hours of my day and my energy !

Teddysmum7 · 17/02/2019 00:36

You don't sound like a dog person so please don't get one just please ur daughter as you'd probably get rid of it after a few months and not only is it heartbreaking for ur daughter but terribly unfair to the puppy who knows no better

victoriaspongecake · 17/02/2019 00:55

Please don't get a dog.
For the dog's sake.

Bambamber · 17/02/2019 01:14

It is clear that you absolutely don't want a dog. It would be very stupid for you to get a dog. How old is your daughter? She will have to wait until she has her own home

ilovesooty · 17/02/2019 01:19

Don't get a dog. You obviously dislike dogs.

Perhaps a pet earwig? Grin

PodgeBod · 17/02/2019 01:20

If you don't want a dog, don't get one. It's serious responsibility. DD can get one when she has her own home.

Lovingbenidorm · 17/02/2019 01:21

You must not get a dog.
You have not a fucking clue of owning a pet

Angie169 · 17/02/2019 01:38

I agree with most of PP , as you will probably end up been the main person ( or DH /P ) looiking after it .
Can your DD help look after Dsis dog ? or is there a neighbour that would like some help with their dog walking / training / grooming etc .

Lovingbenidorm
You have not a fucking clue of owning a pet
that is a very harsh and sweeping statement , how do you know this for a fact ?

IAmNotAWitch · 17/02/2019 01:44

My kids want a dog. I quite like dogs.

But it just isn't going to happen. I will be the one who has to do everything and I just don't have capacity.

The cat is part labrador anyway so she will do for now.

labazsisgoingmad · 17/02/2019 02:18

you should not have a dog its life would be a misery

AJPTaylor · 17/02/2019 02:26

Lol. Yanbu.dogs aren't for everyone.

cricketmum84 · 17/02/2019 02:37

Agree you really don't sound like a dog person (no judgement at all. I'm not a dog person either).

It would be wrong to get a dog because your DD wants one, it's on the same level of responsibility as having another child.

As an example for you my kids badgered and badgered for pet hamsters. I agreed on the proviso that they cared for them (ages 9 and 14 so more than capable). 6 months down the line guess who handles them every day, feed and waters them and cleans out their cages????

BusySnipingOnCallOfDuty · 17/02/2019 03:32

I volunteer at a local dog rescue, its super rewarding. Ive also been walking beautiful ex racing greys, we are one homecheck away from taking one home. But i will still volunteer.

Many rescues are crying out for help.

Justagirlwholovesaboy · 17/02/2019 03:36

Do not get a dog, you don’t like them and it would be like me getting a pet spider. I love dogs, my dog is great, does not bit or sh*t everywhere, because I love dogs! But if I had a pet spider I would hate the evil thing as I don’t understand them. You have to love a thing to invite it to be part of your family, that’s what a pet is

Pillowaddict · 17/02/2019 03:39

I adore my dog, everyone knows, and she lights uo my life - but occasionally she has accidents indoors, barks incessantly at delivery men/rubbish men/passers by and sheds hair on my carpet. I forgive her because she adores me, and I love her, and I love dogs in general, but it still.annoys me a LOT. Bottom line, do not get a dog or vulnerable animal who will rely on you to love and care for them if you will be unnecessarily harshly critical of things they have no control over. Not fair on either of you, no matter how much dd may love one.

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