Early weeks of breastfeeding - hellish for everyone?

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Breastfeeding Ds2 two weeks old.
And finding it horrific.
He feeds all night, up every 90 minutes sometimes, spends half an hour fussing at the breast before latching on then spends another 90 minutes feeding both sides.
I must be getting about 2-3 hours broken sleep if I am lucky. He sometimes does the same through the day.
I’m Also anaemic after a significant blood loss during cs.
I have never felt tiredness like this!

Ds has been checked for toungue tie, doesn’t have this, latch is fine. No known reason for him to do this.

Plus ds1 is competing for my attention and playing up. He is very jealous of the attention on the new baby. Dh due back at work next week and I am panicking about coping!
Is it like this for everyone? Is breastfeeding supposed to be hell on Earth for a while?

I quit at this point with ds1 and I really want to try and persevere this time..... but if things continue this way I can’t see how!

It gets better, sorry to hear you're struggling. The time to get onto the boob sounds strange and I'd assume tongue tie. Are you helping him get the boob in his mouth? You've tried other posit? We used to cosleep and I think I slept through a lot of feeds in the early days.

It's not clear from your message if you are in pain or not? How is weight gain going, is it slow or fast - 45 minutes per side is a very slow feed, even with a new born?

DS was like this, spent forever feeding. I think it's that my supply was just really slow to build. If you do think the issue is slow milk transfer, google compression feeding - it's where you squeeze your breast to help the milk flow faster and make it less effort for your baby. The other one that can help is switch nursing - give the first side for 15 minutes ish, then the 2nd for 15 ish, then go back to the first and stay on that side until sucks slow down to comfort sucking, then back to the 2nd, and keep repeating as needed. They get a slightly faster flow of milk after the breast has had a short time off so it helps them get more milk in less time.