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AIBU?

To think this is a really fucking weird thing to do?

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SummersB · 15/02/2019 06:00

Brought a cake into work the other day - Banana & Blueberry, it was bloody lovely!
One of my colleagues asked me where I had the recipe from and I told her the author. I’ve previously made this before and have shared the recipe with a few of my colleagues, but in the interest of full disclosure I had no intention of sharing it with this particular one because to be honest I can’t stand her (she is a higher banding - band 6 nursing staff - and due to a massive chip in her shoulder she makes junior staff’s working life a misery by being patronising and belittling at every opportunity and is therefore really unpleasant to work with).
Another colleague just told me that a few days after I had brought my cake in she came into work with exactly the same cake, obviously having google searched the recipe and attempted to recreate it. We had a bit of a laugh about it because apparently it was shit as she’d burnt it and managed to make it really dry. But am I right in thinking that’s a really odd thing to do? Who tastes a cake their workmate baked, goes home, looks the recipe up online and comes in two days later saying “ta-da, look, you know the cake you made the other day - well I could have made any other cake in the world but I’ve decided to look it up and make exactly the same one and bring in to work too”? Or is it just me?

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Belenus · 15/02/2019 06:51

Depends on the context. It's one of those things that could be part of a pattern of competitiveness, or could be a colleague baking a cake and bringing it into work.

I've worked in offices in which everyone brings cake or other food in with some frequency so it would just have been another cake. And if it was that bad and obviously burned, I doubt she's being competitive. I ask people for recipes or just guess and recreate them quite often. It's good to get different ideas for things.

Jenasaurus · 15/02/2019 06:52

if its this cake then I understand why she wanted to make it, its lovely. be nice to her though she wants to be part of the team, she brought it in to share with you and you bitched about it, that's mean,

www.mumsnet.com/food/recipe/2358-Blueberry-and-banana-cake

londonrach · 15/02/2019 06:55

Op. its not strange at all. Tbh its more strange you didnt share the receipe.

You might want to see if mn deletes this as you sound very nasty in what you have written. If her cake was dry sounds like she might need abit of advice as your cake was so nice.

Interceptor999 · 15/02/2019 06:59

It is just you, get a grip.

pinkunicorn20 · 15/02/2019 06:59

Maybe she just liked the cake and wanted to have it again?
I guess you have a better idea of this person's motives as you know her but I wouldn't waste energy on thinking about it too much. Just secretly enjoy that yours was tastier :)

Mari50 · 15/02/2019 07:01

We had a bit of a laugh about it because apparently it was shit
You sound just lovely too.
Nice work environment all round I imagine.

junebirthdaygirl · 15/02/2019 07:03

I find your attitude very mean and nasty. I would rather miss out on cake than work in a place where someone had such a nasty way of talking. Be the bigger person every time as its a far more attractive trait.

Bluntness100 · 15/02/2019 07:04

You're being incredibly petty. It's a cake. Get a grip.

Holidayshopping · 15/02/2019 07:05

I don’t actually think that’s weird-she clearly likes the recipe as she asked you for it. Bringing in cakes is clearly normal as you do it.

*Who tastes a cake their workmate baked, goes home, looks the recipe up online and comes in two days later saying “ta-da, look, you know the cake you made the other day - well I could have made any other cake in the world but I’ve decided to look it up and make exactly the same one and bring in to work too”?

Someone who really liked that cake? I’d take it as a compliment.

SavoyCabbage · 15/02/2019 07:05

I don’t think it’s weird. You knew she wanted to have a go at it and she did. Then she brought it into work which must be fine as you’ve done it.

Of course she ‘went home and Googled it’. You wouldn’t give her the recipe and it’s 2019. That’s what people do. Google things they want to know. What did you want her to do? Peep though Nigella’s window until she caught her making it?

ivykaty44 · 15/02/2019 07:08

You don’t like the woman so you’re going to make a point of not liking what she does...we all do this to a certain extent.

Drop it and move on, probably best to change your recipe for next time

sackrifice · 15/02/2019 07:09

It is obvious she was trying to get one up on you.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 15/02/2019 07:10

Ueah yeah so weird ..... sarcasm

I mean how weird some one asked for a receipe, then cook it themselves. I would have thought that that was the whole bloody reason she asked you for the receipe. Or did you think she just wanted to stare at it written on a piece of paper.

Also your receipe, its not, its james morton's. Its avalible to any one not just you. Do you have excl6suve distrubution

We had a bit of a laugh about it because apparently it was shit

Well aren't you and your colluage just lovely. Not.

Sorry the weirdest thing about this post is your attitude and behaviour that is fucking weird yes

Cazziebo · 15/02/2019 07:12

Do you eat that many cakes at your work?!

Only weird thing here is your reaction and attitude. Would it hurt to be a bit nicer?

WFTisgoingoninmyhead · 15/02/2019 07:13

I think you just don’t like her, no matter what she does!!

dashitauntagatha · 15/02/2019 07:15

I don't understand the 'shared my recipe' bit.

But it's not your recipe? It's from a book! Not sure how you can be self congratulatory about not being precious about a recipe that isn't yours!!

Strange old world

CuppaSarah · 15/02/2019 07:15

Did she say anything about it? Like that she was looking to improve and wanting con crit from people who had tried yours? Or mentioned she loves yours so much she'd already attempted her own?

If she just brought it in without saying anything it would be kind of odd.

lotusbell · 15/02/2019 07:16

So, so petty. I'm.glad I don't work in places like that anymore, what a huge waste of energy!

grumiosmum · 15/02/2019 07:20

This reminds me of an episode of This Country.

Not2BBs · 15/02/2019 07:21

You and your friend just come across as horribly bitchy.

greendale17 · 15/02/2019 07:22

I can’t stand her (she is a higher banding - band 6 nursing staff - and due to a massive chip in her shoulder she makes junior staff’s working life a misery by being patronising and belittling at every opportunity and is therefore really unpleasant to work with).

^This colleague sounds nasty

Pippa12 · 15/02/2019 07:22

She enjoyed your cake (as did your colleagues!?) she made it and brought it in for you to all enjoy again...

You declined to give her the recipe (yet you give it freely to those you like)... laughed about her baking attempts with your colleagues, then came on mumsnet complaining about her actions and calling her not fit to burn as a person... yet she’s a nasty piece of work and a bully

You need to “kill these people with kindness” not copy their behaviour. Your students must love working with your friendly team!!!

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Rhinosaurus · 15/02/2019 07:23

Sounds like someone is jealous of her being a higher grade.....

pictish · 15/02/2019 07:23

Either way, this is not something that you should be concerning yourself with. If she wants to replicate a cake and bring it in, it’s no skin off your nose.

pictish · 15/02/2019 07:24

“We had a bit of a laugh about it because apparently it was shit as she’d burnt it and managed to make it really dry.“

What a lot of clucking over baked goods.

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