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AIBU?

To think this is a really fucking weird thing to do?

218 replies

SummersB · 15/02/2019 06:00

Brought a cake into work the other day - Banana & Blueberry, it was bloody lovely!
One of my colleagues asked me where I had the recipe from and I told her the author. I’ve previously made this before and have shared the recipe with a few of my colleagues, but in the interest of full disclosure I had no intention of sharing it with this particular one because to be honest I can’t stand her (she is a higher banding - band 6 nursing staff - and due to a massive chip in her shoulder she makes junior staff’s working life a misery by being patronising and belittling at every opportunity and is therefore really unpleasant to work with).
Another colleague just told me that a few days after I had brought my cake in she came into work with exactly the same cake, obviously having google searched the recipe and attempted to recreate it. We had a bit of a laugh about it because apparently it was shit as she’d burnt it and managed to make it really dry. But am I right in thinking that’s a really odd thing to do? Who tastes a cake their workmate baked, goes home, looks the recipe up online and comes in two days later saying “ta-da, look, you know the cake you made the other day - well I could have made any other cake in the world but I’ve decided to look it up and make exactly the same one and bring in to work too”? Or is it just me?

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BoringPerson · 15/02/2019 08:28

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Decksdark · 15/02/2019 08:31

No it’s not that weird. You sound petty and bitchy

Solasshole · 15/02/2019 08:36

Given we are only seeing your opinion of your colleague here, OP, it would be just as plausible that it's actually you and the other colleagues who bitch about the band 6 nurse that are the actual assholes here.

I have seen it plenty of times in my career where there are a bunch of bitchy, sub-standard individuals in a department who resent being told to stop being shit at their jobs by other competent staff and therefore brand them as bitches and slag them off.

My boss has a reputation for being a cow in my field but she is a lovely, lovely person who just does not put up with incompetence from other people, especially when they try and deny it.

Given you've decided to come on here to bitch about your colleague over something so ridiculously trivial I wonder who is actually the bitch in this situation.

Aridane · 15/02/2019 08:36

The weirdest thing is you refusing to disclose even the author of the recipe to Objectionable Colleague

FeedMeBooks · 15/02/2019 08:37

I think it is a bit weird. Googling the recipe and trying at home with family/friends because you thought it lovely is not weird but taking into the same workplace within a week bit weird.

TheRealHousewife · 15/02/2019 08:37

I’ve witnessed passive aggressive cake wars in the workplace, they are crumby

More importantly have you a link for the recipe please :) Google didn’t bring it up for me, just one with bananas 🍌

Costacoffeeplease · 15/02/2019 08:40

It’s pretty weird to go to the bother of posting on mumsnet. It’s a cake, get over it

ravenmum · 15/02/2019 08:42

I don't think it's at all surprising. She asked for the recipe, knowing that you share your recipes with everyone else, and you refused to give it to her as a sign of how much you dislike her. She must have felt embarrassed being openly snubbed and left out of a group. So she brought the cake in to say "See, I don't need your friendship anyway".

hendal · 15/02/2019 08:42

I’m glad I don’t work with any of you. You all sound like a bunch of petty bullies.

ravenmum · 15/02/2019 08:44

The Goodfood carrot cake really is delicious!

Halloumimuffin · 15/02/2019 08:44

She asked for the recipe, what did you think she was going to do with it?

DailyBaileys · 15/02/2019 08:45

I think it is a bit odd to bring in a copycat cake (as this one was fairly unusual), just a few days after yours.
Especially if she's not known to bring in homemade cakes.

A couple of months later, maybe, OK.

PaddyF0dder · 15/02/2019 08:45

You sound as bad as each other.

Movinghouseatlast · 15/02/2019 08:46

That isn't weird, no! She loved your cake so much that she wanted to make it herself. I quite fancy making it myself, it sounds lovely. It sounds like there is a culture of cake making at work? So I would take it as a compliment.

I mean this nicely, I really do, but do you always make everything about you? It isn't a trait that is particularly easy to live with.

I have a friend at work who commented that I was 'showing off' and trying to 'show her up' when I made home made Eater eggs last year. She made my gesture about her.

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 15/02/2019 08:46

It’s weird your so bothered by it tbh.

She liked the cake as did your colleagues. What weird to make a cake knowing that everyone likes it.

Bit bitchy there too op. Don’t think we are getting the whole story.

PBo83 · 15/02/2019 08:48

I wish I could goto work and my biggest issue that week was that a colleague I didn't particularly like asked me for a cake recipe.

Wheresthebeach · 15/02/2019 08:48

Bloody hell...mean girls on a ward with a cake...

DailyBaileys · 15/02/2019 08:57

btw--

Was this a layer cake, with frosting?
Or more of a banana bread with blueberries in it?
Just wondering.

PositiveVibez · 15/02/2019 09:10

We had a bit of a laugh about it because apparently it was shit as she’d burnt it and managed to make it really dry

How pathetic.

PinkiOcelot · 15/02/2019 09:12

Clearly, some of you people have never worked with an arse hole bully before or had your life made a bloody misery by one!! Well lucky you!

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 15/02/2019 09:16

We have Pinki and they behave similarly to how OP behaves.

FiveRedBricks · 15/02/2019 09:17

"my recipes"... Err now love you got it from a book 😂

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Snappedandfarted2019 · 15/02/2019 09:19

It’s a non issue really just something to laugh about and move on. I find it odd you’ve been that bothered to make a thread about though 🤷🏻‍♀️

icannotremember · 15/02/2019 09:21

It doesn't sound weird. She likes the cake. She tried making it. She brought it in to share. What's weird about that?

ErickBroch · 15/02/2019 09:22

YABU, it's not weird. I am not saying you have to like her, but she obviously thought it was a great cake so wanted to try it out. Not weird at all.

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