To think you can get a man to pursue you?

[Plankty2]

Following on from another thread, do you really think it’s possible to get the man of your desires to pursue you and if so , how?!

I’ve heard little dobs of peanut butter on cheese is good.

Tbf peanut butter on cheese would work for me

As for a man, I think the key is whether he wants to in the first place

I think if the chemistry isn't there then it isn't there. You can try and maximise your chances by taking an interest in stuff he's interested in,etc and trying to maximise opportunities to talk to him. But if he's not interested he isnt interested.

Yes, I ran naked through the Guinness Brewery with the key to the store room between my teeth.

I tell him we are going somewhere, and then navigate us there myself, walking slightly faster than is comfortable for him (I have long legs).

I worked in a chippy at uni and used to go out straight after work. Men used to say I smelled nice, like chips.

I once tied a couple of steaks to my ankles and ran through the local park. All I picked up was the local pooches who had poor recall

Sounds like you picked up the man of my dreams, I'll have to try this!

I smear marmite all over because if a man doesn’t like marmite, he ain’t the man for me.

I hear you, Spider

I've tried impaling men in the belly button because I've heard the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.
This doesn't work well, and I'm currently serving 8 life sentences (to run concurrently).
So, don't try this one, ladies!

OP,

The Rulez: www.amazon.co.uk/All-Rules-Time-Tested-Secrets-Capturing/dp/0446618799/ref=sr_1_2?tag=mumsnetforum-21

hth

Kidnap for a few months, be so kind that you evoke Stockholm syndrome, release and he'll come running back, all yours

@punishmepunisher I worked at a chinese and would go out after, apparently the scent of spring rolls is very alluring.

Bathe in spring rolls, OP, preferably vegetable.

Pursue him yourself. If you like him, ask him out.

I tell him we are going somewhere, and then navigate us there myself, walking slightly faster than is comfortable for him (I have long legs).

This is what I do with do, although I'm actually trying to lose him!

Thanks for the belly laughs 😂😂😂stuck in the bed sick so too much time to think!! Anyway, basically I’ve been too available and fawning over this man I think so I see him losing a little bit of interest. Wondering if pulling back a little might help or have i rightly messed up?? Does it work or will I bother??

Yes to all the above.

Ime if he was interested he'd have responded to the fawning. Unless you were totally OTT awful.

Well if another thread is anything to go buy, you just make him lunch becuase it’s an intimate thing to do for someone.

You shouldn’t have to play games you should just be able to be yourself. So I’d say if he’s losing interest then lose him. If he was really into it wouldn’t matter how available you’ve made yourself etc. Hope you feel better soon!

Put a noose round his neck, run like the wind and he'll have no option but to pursue you.

Works for me every time.

if you have been forward and open about liking him, and he hasn't responded then he really isn't that into you, but is too shy/much of a drip/scared to say "no thanks Plankty"

and really who wants to go out with a chap like that?

Unless you have gone the full Mrs Doyle crazy lady on him in which case, yes, dial it back a teeeeeeensy bit.

basically I’ve been too available and fawning over this man

There's no such thing as too available (unless you stay in 7 nights a week awaiting his call). If he enjoys your company he'll show you, if he likes you, he'll show you, if he's backing off or losing interest, he's not the one for you. I hate the whole "rules" concept, that you'd consciously have to behave a certain way or differently to make someone want you. Lovely people don't play games. And you only want a lovely partner, so shoe him off and let him pursue someone who's willing to lower themselves to that kind of nonsense.

Rob his iPhone (chuck it back at him if he has an android though, you don’t need that kind of nonsense in your life).

He’ll come a jogging after you then, no problem.

He wants to take things slow. I want to go faster. I don’t have many hobbies or pastimes , he does.. so I fit around his schedule . I’m always available, I’m always willing to drop everything to be with him but he is very disciplined and routined so he really is in charge of making the arrangements for us . I’d like to see him a lot more . I’ll see him later on and I’ll see him on Saturday for a few hours , all organised by him !!! Yet here I am in my house on my own for yet again another weekend and he is only a few kilometres away from me! He is busy he says! Relaxing with his family and friends ! Watching the footie , playing footie . Honestly, am I a fool? If I say I’m not free to do something or go somewhere, he is fine with that . Does not get disappointed . Just rearranged for the following week ! He wonders why I get antsy if he tries to pull out of meeting up for lunch or brunch! Have I been a walkover ?