Are you expecting a Valentine’s Day card or gift?

[Justagirlwholovesaboy]

Would you be upset if you got nothing? Or is it just another holiday?

No I won’t be upset, DH will sometimes pick up a nice bunch of flowers the next day when they have a decent reduction. We’ve got a joint account, been together many years and always manage to have something of greater importance to spend money on. This year a failed MOT.

Card yes, presents yes. Even though I insisted he didn't.

I'd be sad with no card but the present I wouldn't care. He writes lovely things in the card ❤️

No gift is ok...At least he needs to do something to express his love to me, like preparing a dinner or simply write me a card or send me a message.

Would you be upset if he forgot?

I'd be astonished. His online calendar rules our lives!

I wouldn't expect anything and neither would my dh. I hate Valentine's day with a passion. I don't need a day for companies to try and make me waste my money on crap to 'prove' to my dh that I love him, or visa-versa. If it makes others happy, then good for them.

No I wouldn't be upset. He's just got back from A&E with a fractured foot and torn ligament so I'll let him off this year 😂 He's good at showing his love and being thoughtful all the time. It's one day that neither of us buy into much any more. We usually just give cards, but I don't think either of us is particularly bothered. Also it was my 40th recently and he took me away for a surprise break to Barcelona. He outdid himself, I've certainly no complaints.

My dh popped out yesterday and came back with a lovely bouquet and a card.
We are late 60s.

We both forgot this year due to going through a very stressful time, but normally we remember and do something small. we don't get stressed if the other forgets though. X

No I won’t be upset. DP made it clear a long time ago (been together 19yrs) he doesn’t ‘do’ valentines, or any other public display of love or affection, mostly.

I’ve received the odd card in the past, but never presents. Last year I didn’t bother getting him a card and he bloody well came home with a card and flowers, we had a big row.

So, this year I’ve bought him a card on the off-chance I’ll get one, otherwise it will go back in the drawer until next year

I’m expecting a card but not a present. If I don’t get either I’ll be a bit disappointed but not a massive deal.

St Valentine’s Day is not a holiday it’s a saints day that’s been commercialised. I won’t get or expect anything from my DH. But I have bought chocolates for the girls at work any excuse to eat

No card no present. Have had the cards and presents before but we don't feel the need now. It is my day off and dp is going to take a day off (self employed) and we will do sonething together. Dd is at a retreat so we have some precious alone time. Was actually pissed off that it turned out to be valentines as we had planned a nice meal out but decided against it because everything will be overpriced and overcrowded.

I got a single rose. From my boss. As did all the other women in his team. The blokes got heart shaped biscuits.

I think he’s been abducted by aliens. He’s usually an awful cunt.

There’ll be nothing from DH. Nor will he get anything either.

Not expecting anything here and it's a normal day not a holiday.
I'm happy being single

Dh and I exchange cards and keep them in our room.

I used to work in a card shop when I was 16. It was in central London. Men used to spend 10 secs choosing a card for "the wife" and a much longer time choosing a bigger, more gushiest and expensive card presumably for the other woman, normally to the One I Love on the front. I realised from a very early age that St Valentine's Day is a complete commercial event that has no meaning and there is nothing romantic about it. I have never marked this day. I have received a few cards over time, a couple were at work by an anonymous person (not flattered, a bit spooked) but my DH and I don't "celebrate" it. It is a complete irrelevance to us.

We don't bother. I don't really like the vibe of YOU MUST BE ROMANTIC ON THIS SPECIFIC DAY, it feels forced to me.

DH and I agree each year whether we will bother. This year we are not bothering as money is super tight having recently moved house.

Got a card and present already this morning. I didn’t get him anything

In a word. No.

No, we agreed we wouldn’t do anything this year as we have too much else on. It was my idea not to do anything so I’m perfectly happy. Still love him and he me.

I tried to get a card from him every year for 12 years because it meant something to me. In the last three years I realised what a narcissist he is as he deliberately makes me feel crap on Birthday, Valentine’s Day, Christmas. I don’t love him anymore so I haven’t got him anything this year for the first time. And it feels liberating. I always used to spoil him in the hope he would think about being kind back but I am pleased my self esteem is preventing me from trying to please him. It means I am closer to letting go completely.

I'm not but I did overhear a huge argument next door last night about 10pm because he nipped out in the car and she 'knew he'd been out to get her a card and wasn't impressed'
Perhaps a grander gesture was expected. These new builds have terribly thin walls....

It seems like a lot of unnecessary pressure and disappointment all round.

I would; we don’t do much but a card and a bit of time together is nice. I get why a lot of people don’t bother with valentines but we’re so busy with kids, work etc that it gives us a reminder to remember us within all of it.