Are you expecting a Valentine’s Day card or gift?

[Justagirlwholovesaboy]

Would you be upset if you got nothing? Or is it just another holiday?

No, I bought myself some red roses and pampered myself, much better xxxx

Nope. Can't remember the last time I did get anything. He claims it's because he doesn't want to subscribe to the hallmark created event/commercialisation etc but really it's because he can't be arsed. Whilst I do agree to some extent and wouldn't want him to pay twice the price for a bunch of flowers or an expensive gift, I do think it's a nice idea to remind someone that you love them. That could be a homemade card/favourite chocolate bar/making extra effort with dinner etc (and it wouldn't have to be on 14th Feb)

DH of 20 years+ asks me every year 'Do we do Valentine's Day?'. Answer is always 'Fuck no.'

We always get each other a card. Been together 27 years. I asked him not to get me any chocs, fizz or flowers. I've bought steak for tea which will be nice, although not romantic as teenage dd will be sat there as well.

DH bought me a board game and I bought a gorgeous £4 bunch of flowers, both were handed over in the week as not so bothered to go to the effort of hiding anything.

We dont bother with valentines. We have been married for 14 years and have child free nights out / go away a few times a year instead.

Always get each other something. Have done for over 30 years. Doesn't have to be anything expensive. We spend less than a tenner each, and always get a card.

The bitchiest comments about Valentine's Day always come from women whose husbands/partners don't bother thinking about them on Valentine's Day (and not much during the rest of the year either.......)

I always say 'don't take it out on ME because you're bitter and angry that your man didn't give you a thought. Talk to HIM about it.'

You can get a card for less than 50p, and a bunch of flowers for less than a fiver. Anyone who says it's too much pressure and is a rip off/commercialised etc, is just making excuses. Bet these same people spend £40 a month on a phone contract, £30 on new nails every couple of months, £30 a month on gym membership, £20 a time on a spray tan, or a tenner a time on smokes, etc, etc, etc, but then claim that Valentine's Day is a 'con.' Hilarious.

We do cards, we actually have a competition every year to find the most hideous/cheesy card we can and every year work really hard to top each other! Last year I won with a gross A3 number which had a hideous 3D heart on the front. A complete monstrosity. So I’d be disappointed this year if he didn’t play and let me win by default!

We normally do cards and something nice in for tea and turn it into a bit of a date night with the DCs go to bed. Not because we're old romantics or a marketers dream but just because we don't do it often enough and it's a good excuse.

This year however he's working the world worst shift pattern, i'll be surprised if he remembers what day of the week it is never mind the date! He did arrange for MIL to have the DCs at the weekend so I can have a preplanned night out with friends on Sat though which was a lovely gesture as I said I wasn't going to ask her and take up her weekend, so that gesture is worth more than a card!

Anyone who says it's too much pressure and is a rip off/commercialised etc, is just making excuses. Bet these same people spend £40 a month on a phone contract, £30 on new nails every couple of months, £30 a month on gym membership, £20 a time on a spray tan, or a tenner a time on smokes, etc, etc, etc, but then claim that Valentine's Day is a 'con.' Hilarious

I'm one of those that says it's commercialised and and a rip off. But I spend £10 a month on my PAYG phone. Don't have false nails (or any nails so to speak) don't belong to a gym,never had a spray tan and don't smoke.
I think I might be a bit of a slob after reading that. Or a bloke.:-)

No. I forgot. I have got him a card which is un written in my handbag.

We both forgot to say happy Valentine’s Day this morning.

It’s not an issue for us, we know we love each other so it’s jusy a day.

But how can it possibly be a commercialised rip-off? You can get a bunch of flowers, a box of chocolates, and a card for less than the price of a packet of cigarettes!

Such bullshit.

It's like people who say Christmas is too commercialised and a big retail con. Errrm, no it's not. Not unless you MAKE it. Me and DH spent less than £250 on Christmas last year - including gifts for each other (and 2 adult children, and close family and friends,) all food, and all booze, and 2 nights at the pub on 23rd December and New year's Eve!

I'd probably die of shock to be honest. Lovely DH - married 43 years get cup of tea in bed EVERY morning without fail. Not a romantic bone in his body but really don't need a special day to be in love. He's still drop dead gorgeous after all these years.....

No but getting cooked a 3 course dinner!!!!!

I got him a card and a few small bits

I'd be very surprised today if I got anything.
Things are rough, I'm staying at my dads with the children and I've had more texts saying how it's all me and how I behave.

Every year before I have received something though, despite being not especially bothered either way.

My DP warned me yesterday that he'd been to Sainsburys to look at cards and that they were so vomit inducing that he walked out, he knew I'd hate them all. Which I was relieved about because I hadn't even thought about getting him a card! He made me one last year and I didn't get him anything He did wake me up this morning by jumping on me and singing happy valentines in my face and I got a little bag with tiny heart shaped chocolates and a slice of cake wrapped in clingfilm to have later with coffee. And he text me a couple of Spotify links to songs from work just now with a soppy message. I got him a red currant bush and wished him happy consumerist bullshit day. I have no idea why he likes me

I'm hoping for a chocolate cake and a few packets of beef Monster Munch. Dead classy me.

Been married nearly 33 years and we still do it. It's just a card (and chocs) but to me it's lovely and that he cares enough to bother. It's the little things in life and celebrating them because you can.

Dh informed me on the way out this am that he'd buy me a card on the way home! I have got him a card. That's about it. I would be a bit sad if no card but wouldn't be a big issue. Pre dc we used to make more of an effort!

Nope, nothing. But we discussed it last week and are both of the same opinion that Valentine's day is a load of rubbish, just a hallmark holiday to make money for the greetings card companies! Plus we have bigger fish to fry, like an I'll 5 month old DS that doesn't sleep well at the best of times.

But crack on those that do celebrate it, it's always good to have more love in the world!

Nope - feels like something you do at an early stage in a relationship (Good old courting!) Rather than something for married or settled couples

Not fussed about a gift, but yes I'd be upset with no card.

I got him a card and chocolates, he got me nothing. Guess who won't be having the nice dinner I'd planned to cook?..

Nah. He did go and sort a new tyre for my car though, that’ll do.

DorisDances Nope ...married, very much . Been together 35 years. We do it because we still celebrate Valentine's Day. Husband plans dinner out and buys roses chocs etc because he loves to do it. He always likes to buy me little treats and often comes home with my favourite chocolate. It's just nice to be able to.