Tell me, how can I work harder to improve my lot? And yes, I damn well do think I deserve the same luxuries as someone who doesn't claim UC
Totally agree @Frequency, but at the moment, it looks like you are doing everything to turn your life around and be ome self sufficient. That is exactly what many posters are suggesting, to do exactly what you are so one day you will.e able to afford the life you aspire to.
There is another thread going about encouraging daughters to marry rich and this makes me want to scream. So what? They can remain at their mercy that if they decide to leave they can be left vulnerable and having to try even harder to get the education they could have got at an earlier stage of life when it would have been so much easier?
I do have a lot of esteem for single mums who do what you do. It's hard, very hard, but you'll be one of those people who get there not because they are 'lucky' but because you work so hard at it.
The excuse of 'I can't volunteer because I don't trust the dwp not to withhold my benefits' totally reminds me of the excuses my teenage kids come up with! There's no point in doing tbis piece of work because our teacher hasn't taught us that module, and when I ask 'we'll have you spoken to her about it and ask her what she expects, I get 'no', she'll tell us to do anyway'. Then he speaks to her and oh surprise, she gives some directioms of where to find support'.
Surely it doesn't take a brain surgeon to look for a volunteering opportunity and then speak to the work coach, explaining what the volunteering job entails, ask if it is allowed and then ask for confirmation in writing. Some people though will always focus on the 'buts' rather than consider solutions and then moan that it's not their fault they are still where they were months/years ago.