To ask who died and made him Trinny?

[justilou1]

A bit of background here - I have lost a LOT of weight. Not a humble brag, but I have lost more than my current bodyweight, in fact. This is relevant to part of this conversation, because sometimes I think I'm married to Mr Magoo.

I was putting away my laundry, and my DH noticed that all of my clothes were black, white, grey and green. (Genius - I capsuled the lot about two years ago. I love it - it works for me). He asked what had happened to my "colourful" dress. I had to do a major think about it, and realised that the thing he was talking about was from my fat days, and pointed out that it had gone in a charity bin, as it would have been like a parachute on me, and asked why he wanted to know. He said that my wardrobe needed a "Pop" of colour. I am nearly 47 years old, I work, study full-time, do most of the kid-wrangling, house-keeping, shopping, cooking, vet-trips, etc..... Doesn't leave much time for glamorous events, does it? For some reason his unsolicited opinions on my clothing are really pissing me off. (Possibly because he thinks I dress for him, maybe?). Of course I am ignoring him - and maybe contemplating branching out and buying beige just to annoy him. I don't comment on his wardrobe!!!

Why am I so cross about this???

Ok No Navy.

what about a lovely silk kaftan. Modenised. Ive got a few of these. Wonderful for our Hot Ausssie weather😻

www.facebook.com/pages/category/Clothing--Brand-/Silk-Islands-157523070951252/

Make him pay for it 😜

I’ll go all out and get one of those Camilla ones. They’re about $600, right? Honestly, I don’t like them! I’d be swamped in fabric and I’d feel like I was wearing a spinnaker. I think I will just potter along doing my own thing and if he brings it up again, I will point him at the nearest mirror and ask when he last thought about his own image.

Buy it for him 😜🤣

Seriously tho, I do understand ((Hugs)))🌻

for HIM to wear, I mean. Oi. Off to bed. Brain shut down sleep mode already.
Night

For a "pop" of colour . . .

www.gocomics.com/overboard/2019/02/04

@Kedgeree

I have neutral coloured wardrobe. My DH often suggests I buy something colourful/ print or "pretty", as he would say. I think he's internalised the whole "women are pretty little doll-like creatures whose many functions include being decorative"

Playing devils advocate here (after all, only you know your DH/the intention behind his words)... Perhaps your DH is clumsily trying to suggest that you're better suited to colours rather than neutrals? My DH will often suggest items/colours I would never have considered when out shopping and he's usually right. I do the same for him.

DH looks particularly handsome in a certain shade of blue and I can't resist saying so... "Ooh you do look gorgeous in that colour". I feel that it would be a real shame if he decided never to wear the colour(s) that suit him (and although I'd respect the decision, it wouldn't stop me loving the colour on him).

Perhaps I'm playing into the 'clothes hanger' game, but I suppose it doesn't feel wrong because DH and I do it in a mutually beneficial and respectful manner.

Trinny? What or who is that?

As to your DH, be grateful he notices you and what you wear. I would take it as a compliment, that he cares enough to notice and thinks you are attractive in colours. If he was belligerent I could understand your reaction, but if all he did was comment on his favourite dress of yours, that's lovely. It is natural for spouses to like a certain outfit, shirt, dress, whatever on their partner. That's normal. Why would anyone be upset at a perfectly harmless - and quite sweet - compliment?

@LunafortJest Mon 11-Feb-19 03:35:19
Trinny? What or who is that?

TV show. What Not to wear.

Pop of colour 😂😂 has he been reading cosmopolitan or Elle? I think I'd burst out laughing if my DH uttered that phrase!

Men are hard to please with clothes IME. Mine complained my work wardrobe has 'too much grey and black' and that I used to wear more colour. I do wear lots of grey, black, navy and maroon to work but that's because it's a professional environment. I also wear tan, mustard and teal sometimes. He likes me in bright red, or floral dresses. But too colourful/clashing and he thinks it's 'too 70s!'

Can't win 🤷‍♀️

@Poppins2016 That may be the case, although I doubt it. However, I don't care. I like my neutral coloured clothes whether they suit me or not, whether he likesthem or not.

grateful he notices you and what you wear. I would take it as a compliment, that he cares enough to notice and thinks you are attractive in colours.

This really doesn't sit well with me.

Fair enough for him to say that he likes to see those colours on you , but it's still only a personal opinion. There are no absolutes and positive or negative it is still a judgement on what you choose to wear.

Who wants that?

Obviously the fact that he's asking after an item of clothing I haven't worn in years tells you how much attention he pays to what I wear. The guy's bloody oblivious. I could wear a bag on my head. Tempted to buy something tacky, red and "Valentiney" - bet he wouldn't notice that either.

The Pop of colour is the thin end of the wedge.
Next thing he'll be suggesting a "red Lip" or a nude heel (both singular)

I see valentine underwear set in fushia in your future!
He is just paving the way lol.
Brace yourself.

Also bloody well done, how did you lose it?

A "pop" of colour? Is he going to start suggesting you wear a little patterned scarf for a certain "je ne sais quoi"? Has he been watching Lorraine?

Out of curiosity, where are you buying your black and grey capsule pieces in Australia? I'm a similar age with similar tastes and similar peri crankiness, it seems.

@chickensalt - love Decjuba for basic pieces (I avoid anything with words and sparkles though. Not my style at all!!!) Their jeans seem well-made and they seem to have sales often. If you are on their mailing list, you get 10% off full-price items all the time.