To have called the police?

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Over a year now of listening to my neighbour verbally abuse his wife every single weekend without fail when he’s drunk.
He’s almost retirement age and the stuff he screams at his wife is vile.
I’ve asked for advice on here before and it’s been a 50:50 divide of some people saying that reporting it would make it worse for her and others saying I should report it.
I’m almost certain it is just verbal abuse, not physical from the things he’s screaming, and during his 3 hour rants she stays totally silent.
She’s pretty timid and won’t even look you in the eye out on the street.
Anyway tonight I made the decision to report it.
He’s been screaming at her solidly since around 2pm and his language is vile.
I hope it doesn’t make things worse for her.
Also selfishly worried he’ll know it’s me and I’ve got young kids in the house.

I think you’ve done the right thing.

I think it’s good you did. I wish someone had done that when I was with my ex; it might have made me realise I needed to leave before it got as bad as it did

If it’s close housing/ next to road,anybody could of reported it.

That’s what I’m wondering. If she’s been praying for someone to call for years. And because this is a “naice” area people keep themselves to themselves and wouldn’t think to report it.

Nope , you did right . This is 80 percent of what I get called out to , day in , day out . I’d call it in if it were I that heard it .

You've done the right thing.

They’re sending a police car round tonight. I’ve just peeped out of my window and their house is all in darkness.
This is what happens when he’s drunk by 2pm, he passes out about 9pm.
At least we don’t have the screaming late at night I suppose.
But I can’t even let my kids in the garden at the weekend because of his language.
Even my dog shakes out there when I let him out for a wee because of the screaming.

Good on you for calling

Hope she gets the support she deserves

I don’t reckon she’ll say anything to the police.
And if he’s asleep/passed out then they won’t see how abusive he is.
So am I meant to call up every single time I hear it from now on?
What’s the protocol.

They’re sending a police car round tonight. I’ve just peeped out of my window and their house is all in darkness.
This is what happens when he’s drunk by 2pm, he passes out about 9pm.

It’s good that you’ve called, but if this is the case perhaps you should have done it earlier so that the police witnessed his abuse...

Poor woman,you’ve probably helped her more than she can help herself

From your last post, yes, ring the police ever single time!

I would . Every single time . Even if she won’t speak to police , the fact that neighbours are reporting multiple incidents will flag up warning signals . Even if he’s asleep now , they’ll keep trying to speak to her, even if it’s over the next few days .

Call every single time. Even if he were on his own and screaming at the TV, the fact that your children can't use their garden because of his language is enough reason to complain. If you call them before he passes out, they will catch him in the act.

God, I’ll be the polices most frequent caller.
It genuinely is lunch time onwards every single Saturday and Sunday without fail. Come rain or shine.

What does he shout at her about?

Well done. You’ve done the right thing. At least if it happens regularly it should be easier to evidence.

What he is doing is a crime so yes o would report it every time.

Did you phone the police while it was still happening so that they could witness it?

Yes please keep calling. Can you record the rants?

Do you know if they own or rent house

Can you record it next time?

Cross post with Mummy

When I was a kid we lived in a house next door to an abusive drunk and we heard all the shouting which scared the hell out of me and we weren't even in that house. Slamming doors still make me jump.

You did the right thing, and keep reporting him.

90% of the time the arguments and screaming are about ridiculous stuff.
Tonight’s was “I’ve fucking told you to stay in that room. Don’t you fucking try to leave that room. You’re purposely winding me up”
And “you stupid fucking bitch, you’ve left the hosepipe out. How fucking dare you. You do this to annoy me. I’m gonna fucking get you”
But it will be the same rant over and over for hours.
Another favourite of his is “why do you always close all the fucking doors. I’ll smash your face off one of these doors if you do it again”
It’s so bizarre as she does not say a single word in response.
From what I can hear it’s just all ranting and he’s not being physically violent. But still.