To offer to pay the difference

[NormaTheHippo]

Friend and I are going on weekend away together. She is fairly skint at the moment, whereas I am (relatively) flush. She would rather go to a perfectly nice but cheaper hotel outside of the town centre, whereas I'd rather go to a fancy place in a great location which is about £70 more. WIBU to offer to pay to make up the difference? Or do you think that would be rude/make her feel uncomfortable?

NB - at the moment we are both being vv polite saying we don't mind either way but it's pretty obvious that we both have our preferences!

Thanks!

If you do be careful about how you word the offer

I think you would cause her embarassment and would be rude

Just say you’ve found a deal and book it- she can give you what you was going to pay and you pay the rest.

I wouldn’t.

I think it depends on the nature of your friendship really so only you can make the judgement. If in doubt just go with the cheaper place and enjoy the weekend without money pressures

Entirely depends on friendship. With a good friend this would be fine and i and my friends have done versions of this over the years. But for a less good friend, it would be awkward.

With a good friend this would be fine and i and my friends have done versions of this over the years

I don’t agree. Even with really good friends, money can be awkward

Hmm, ok, thanks. JasperKarat I was going to just say that as I haven't been away for ages because my DP has health problems I have plenty of money to spare in my holiday fund.. maybe I'll just say we should go for the cheaper option though..

I’d do this for a friend and be grateful if someone did it for me.

Could you say to her that you've seen a hotel you would really like to stay at but as it's more expensive than the other one you will pay the extra?
I'd have no problem saying that to any of my friends nor would I be offended if a friend said it to me!

Like above poster, I have done this before for my friends and I've also had lunch etc bought for me when my budget didn't allow for it and I was very grateful. What goes around comes around and I think it's a nice gesture.

Yup say you found it at the same price as the cheaper one. X

There's no reason on earth why you shouldn't pay for what you want! I would.

Arg! There doesn't seem to be a consensus! Can't say it's the same price as we've already discussed it!

If you’d said that to me I’d feel obliged to come up with the difference.

I like the idea of saying you found a deal (cash back website or something?) and it will be X transfer it and you pay the difference that way?

I would offer to pay the difference - and would be happy to accept in the reverse situation.

I think it's a lovely thing to do if you are good friends.

Why not just ask if she's comfortable with it, say there's no obligation to accept but you would be happy if so. If not say you are happy to go elsewhere.

Can't say it's the same price as we've already discussed it!

Use your imagination! Say you've suddenly spotted it at the lower price.

Agree with PP; depends on how close you are. If I were her, and my friend offered to upgrade us because she was flush at that time, and it generally all evens out over time, I’d love the luxury! But if it was a friend who I wasn’t close enough to to have a honest discussion about it, it might make me uncomfortable.

I would rather stay at place X but know it's a stretch but I'll pay the difference, if the tables were turned I know you would do the same. Tell her it's an act of kindness, not RAOK because you know her.

I'd love it if a friend wanted to treat me to a nicer hotel. Just ask her.

Imho I wouldn't.it would possibly embarrass your friend and put a slant on the rest of the holiday.

I’ve done this with a friend before and it was fine! She was grateful and I was happier in the nicer hotel. We’re good friends and it wasn’t awkward at all.

Whats ROAK??