To be revolted by husband swearing at 9 week old baby

[Fate32]

I heard my husband swearing at our nine week old baby because she had a bit of reflux, AIBU to be revolted by this?

[LotsToThinkOf]

YABVU, and precious. First baby?

[Xmasfairy86]

I swear at mine (7&10) daily - 99.9% in my head 😂 it’s out of frustration most of the time.

Think you’re over reacting a touch.

[anotherwearytraveller]

Is he otherwise kind and loving towards her and you?
If so then I wouldn’t bat an eyelid tbh and I’ve sworn at mine (when they were too young to comprehend) when they woke me up (again) and I was tired and grouchy.

[JasperKarat]

Text exchange with DH yesterday;
DH - how is my gorgeous little boy today?
Me - he's being a dick, he's tired fighting it and crying constantly unless I do a weird lunge walk with him, he's pee'd on me, pooed on me and just licked my neck while pinching me. What time are you home today?

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Jasperfunny how you miss those days when they’re gone . Probably because you don’t remember the nightmare that they are. There’d be no second babies if you did

[U2HasTheEdge]

Total overreaction.

YABU.

[TidyDancer]

Oh gosh yes, you are hugely overreacting. I've said worse to mine at that age. It doesn't mean anything, it's venting.

[JenniferJareau]

YABU. That is not swearing at the baby, that is expressing exasperation.

[pinkhorse]

Wow! Massive overreaction there op!

[Ohnonotuagain]

YABVU. I'm sure I've said the same or similar at least once.

[Queenofthestress]

I've said this on another thread but yesterday, my two year old cried to go in the pushchair, cried to come out the pushchair, cried to go to school in slippers, cried to go in trainers, cried to jump in the puddle, cried because she had wet feet, cried because she wanted picking up, cried because she wanted to go down all in the space of half an hour
hour

Then she was exhausted from all that crying...which lead to more crying...

For fucks sake (dc name) was muttered under my breath and in my head ALOT

[IncrediblySadToo]

🙄

Seriously?

Revolted by it?

[PerryPerryThePlatypus]

I give my kids the finger when they're not looking. Mine are older teens and preteens. Shouting For Fucks Name is a standard phrase in my house.

[Guavaf1sh]

I like that ‘go the fuck to sleep’ book too. It’s nice knowing we all are pretty much the same and the ‘perfect parents’ who never swear in their baby’s presence are few and far between. YABU

[twattymctwatterson]

You need to calm down. He's not swearing at her, he's just swearing at the situation

[IncrediblySadToo]

QueenOfTheStress. Hang in there kiddo! Take lots video of it. It’s a fucking nightmare at the time, but funny & cute when you look back on it. Eventually. After quite some time! Until then, find something to look forward to when she’s down for the night. I found the thought of a very cold glass of wine got me through. Often I was too knocked to bother/fancy it, but the thought of it was nice!

[QueenofmyPrinces]

Good Lord I used the word fuck in my baby’s direction (both babies) when they wouldn’t go to sleep and I was frustrated and exhausted.

My youngest is 17 months and when he’s pissing around at 2am I’m always saying “Will you just go to fucking sleep!!”

Have you ever heard of the book called “Go the fuck to sleep!!” ??

It’s very funny and the reasoning behind the title is because everyone says fuck about/towards their baby at times of frustration.

[Wallsbangers]

Oh "for fucks sake LO" is a common one here, probably worse ones during the endless sleepless nights at 8 months. He's also referred to as a dickhead on days when frankly he's acting like a dickhead and I've told him I'm going to take him the tip and leave him there.

None of this changes the fact that I love him so much that it makes my heart hurt.

[TheBigBangRocks]

I wouldn't have liked it's either. Yes the baby is too young to repeat the language but there are millions of words to use without resorting to bad language. I hate swearing in general though.

[rainbowstardrops]

You need to calm down a bit!

[Cheeeeislifenow]

Are you even a parent if you don't matter "oh for fuck sake" by the time they are three months old?

[HedgePlastic]

I would say that's not an issue.

[hazeyjane]

I too have sworn when my darling tiny baby puked.....in my bra, and then seconds later, I swore at my lovely dh, for laughing.

[Birdie6]

I'd let it go. He was frustrated - it's not the end of the world. I'd be more upset if he swore at a child who actually knew what he was saying, or if it got personal and he called them a c... or something similar. I'd cut him some slack this time.

[Phoebesgift]

Totally unreasonable. Many parents say things like this in the middle of sleep deprivation. I know I did!