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Aibu vomiting and school run

76 replies

MRSMARMITE3 · 04/02/2019 20:55

So I'm 28 weeks pregnant. School run is an 35 minute walk there and the same again back. I don't drive and work evenings so I do it with my child. DH works 8:30-5:30 a 30 minute commute away. I've been projectile vomiting on and off all day (not from the pregnancy) walked to get my child after school. Got half way down the road of his school and threw up three times then again when got home. Been sick twice more since then. Just asked DH if I'm still being sick (I've still got mega stomach cramps) tomorrow if he will take DS to school and go to work late. He said no and that I will have to keep DS off school (he's 6 if that makes any difference). He thinks it's ridiculous that if I'm ill he should be late.

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YetAnotherThing · 04/02/2019 20:56

Poor you. He’s an absolute arse.

Stuckforthefourthtime · 04/02/2019 20:58

He's an arse. Do you have any friends or neighbours who do the school run and could help out?

SymphonyofShadows · 04/02/2019 20:58

You are ill and you aren’t the only parent. What an arse.

rightreckoner · 04/02/2019 20:59

What a horrible man.

Quartz2208 · 04/02/2019 20:59

Oh ffs he is a parent he needs to step up and stop being a twat

Original poster
MRSMARMITE3 · 04/02/2019 20:59

I don't live near the school and my school friend does and doesn't drive. My friends who live near me take their kids to a different School and work after. My family live miles away as does his.

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MRSMARMITE3 · 04/02/2019 21:01

It would only make him late by an hour. I would have thought it was a reasonable request but he looked at me like I had three heads. Hopefully I feel better tomorrow! It was not fun vomiting outside the school.

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cliffdiver · 04/02/2019 21:01

Is there a school breakfast club your DH could drop him off at?

Outnotdown · 04/02/2019 21:01

Agree. Arse

justasking111 · 04/02/2019 21:01

how will your son get home. And yes he is being an arse.

Quartz2208 · 04/02/2019 21:03

Not only isnt it fun for you it is spreading a virus so you cannot go

But your son cannot miss school simply because his father cannot go

whatsthepointthen · 04/02/2019 21:04

I remember saying to
my sister what if I am ill am I still expected to take my
kids to school (im a single parent) she said yes as the school will wonder why you have no other support! So keeping them off when there is 2 parents seem mad to
me! he is being very unreasonable.

reallyanotherone · 04/02/2019 21:06

Honestly, i don’t often say ltb but I’d be asking him why you should keep him around if he can’t do a simple thing like take his child to school while you are ill.

Afte all, with him gone you have less work to do - you’ll still have to look after the kids but there’ll be 50% less work cooking and cleaning for the adults.

Unless he’s got brain surgery to perform at 9am he can be an hour late.

RedWineIsFabulous · 04/02/2019 21:06

It sounds hideous and you clearly have norovirus.

You can’t go . A : for you as it's extremely unpleasant and B: you could potentially cause an outbreak at your child’s school because you are clearly very contagious right now.

Your husband needs to step up and that’s all there is to it.

Schweetcorn0000 · 04/02/2019 21:06

Inconsiderate arsehole.

HavelockVetinari · 04/02/2019 21:07

WTAF is wrong with your DH?? He sounds like an absolute bellend! Sad

edwardcullensotherwoman · 04/02/2019 21:07

What's ridiculous is that if you're ill your child misses school!
FFS, he needs to get a grip and do the school run. If you have a bug, throwing up in the street is disgusting and going to spread germs like wildfire!
Apart from all of that, you're his wife, you're ill, he should respect that and be trying to make life a bit easier while you get better!

winesolveseverything · 04/02/2019 21:09

Could you contact the school and ask for help?

When I had a horrible sickness bug recently, there's no way I could have got my children to school. I phoned up to say they would be late in and the head offered to come and collect them. Also assured me they would be cared for after school if needs be until getting them home could be sorted out.

Husband collected them from after school club that day and dropped them at the early breakfast club the day after on his way in. Thankfully I recovered after that.

Hope you feel better soon...

Pastaagain78 · 04/02/2019 21:10

Nasty man. Sorry you are ill. He should absolutely take him.

jayho · 04/02/2019 21:10

He is the other parent and so this is his responsibility. End of.

What would happen if he was ill on his watch?

Does he have a watch?

TulipsInbloom1 · 04/02/2019 21:12

Is there a breakfast club?

JennyOnAPlate · 04/02/2019 21:14

He's a massive twat and of course he should do the school run.

pippety · 04/02/2019 21:14

Poor you OP, that sounds horrible. You husband is being inexcusably awful - you’re sick and pregnant but he can’t start work a tiny bit late?! Does he have form for this sort of thing? Really hope you feel better soon Flowers

doodlejump1980 · 04/02/2019 21:15

Pj Day for you and your little one tomorrow. Hopefully he won’t have caught it and passed to all the school too!

CatsPawsAndWhiskers · 04/02/2019 21:16

I phoned up to say they would be late in and the head offered to come and collect them. Also assured me they would be cared for after school if needs be until getting them home could be sorted out.

That's so nice. I have heard of this being offered by staff at a school locally to us. I suppose it's in their interest as attendance is a priority to schools but they could have just said you need to get them here and not actually helped.

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