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Aibu vomiting and school run

76 replies

MRSMARMITE3 · 04/02/2019 20:55

So I'm 28 weeks pregnant. School run is an 35 minute walk there and the same again back. I don't drive and work evenings so I do it with my child. DH works 8:30-5:30 a 30 minute commute away. I've been projectile vomiting on and off all day (not from the pregnancy) walked to get my child after school. Got half way down the road of his school and threw up three times then again when got home. Been sick twice more since then. Just asked DH if I'm still being sick (I've still got mega stomach cramps) tomorrow if he will take DS to school and go to work late. He said no and that I will have to keep DS off school (he's 6 if that makes any difference). He thinks it's ridiculous that if I'm ill he should be late.

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Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 04/02/2019 21:16

I think yabu.

I've suffered from HG and still managed to take my daughter school do a day's work and collect her.

Yes I've had to pull over and be sick, leave meetings and be sick but you just have to get on with it.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 04/02/2019 21:16

If he was being sick every few minutes while you were supposed to be working, would he still get your child to bed or whatever he does? Or would he ask you to go on a bit later to help?

Either way, expecting your 28 week pregnant wife with terrible vomiting to either walk an hour while being frequently sick, or care for a child all day, is beyond mean if he can help.

Please keep an eye on yourself, it's easy to get dehydrated when your pregnant with a bug. Hopefully you'll feel a lot better tomorrow. You'll still be married to an arse though. Sorry

TulipsInbloom1 · 04/02/2019 21:16

Maybe you should lick around his coffee cup in the morning so he catches it.

AlsoBling2 · 04/02/2019 21:16

Hes a dick.

Can he drop earlier at your friend who lives close to school?

TulipsInbloom1 · 04/02/2019 21:16

Dh that is not the child.

Kaykay06 · 04/02/2019 21:16

That’s rotten, could you get a taxi for tomorrow? Think your other half needs to remember this is his child too and if the shoe was on the other foot he’d be tucked up in bed whilst Ill 🤒 hopefully you’ll feel better tomorrow but I’d be taking child to school and back to bed do not feed your dh and let him fend for himself

Babyboysarenowbig · 04/02/2019 21:16

Another one saying he’s an ass!!

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 04/02/2019 21:18

I think it''s different to HG. HG is not contagious. HG does not come in tandem with diahorrea like some vomiting bugs lead to. HG can be long term, she is asking for help once

CatsPawsAndWhiskers · 04/02/2019 21:20

I've suffered from HG and still managed to take my daughter school do a day's work and collect her.

🙄 Wow, you are so amazing.

OP. He should get his child to school, you are ill and he needs to step up. I hope you are feeling better soon.

snowball28 · 04/02/2019 21:24

You’ve probably got norovirus which is highly contagious so what’s he going to do when he gets it as he inevitably will 👀 hope he won’t be asking for any help from you! In fact I’d take myself off out for the day and seeing as he’s at home ill he can do the school run whilst throwing up, you know cause it’s sooo easy . .

GabsAlot · 04/02/2019 21:24

erm what happens when u have a baby a 6 year old and youre ill-will he still refuse to help

snowball28 · 04/02/2019 21:25

I've suffered from HG and still managed to take my daughter school do a day's work and collect her.

I currently have HG and have had three months off work, swings and roundabouts lol 🤷🏼‍♀️

LadyFilthPacquet · 04/02/2019 21:25

@Thesnobbymiddleclassone What a silly and thoughtless comment. The OP doesn't have HG. She has norovirus. It is highly contagious. Norovirus vomiting is frequently accompanied by violent diarrhoea. I would challenge anyone to 'pull over' for that one.

OP, your husband is behaving very, very badly. I would find it hard to forgive him for this.

Obi73 · 04/02/2019 21:25

Would the school be willing to help? My DD’s school are lovely and will pick up and drop off if parents are struggling/poorly. It’s worth ringing or messaging and asking.

Mummyshark2018 · 04/02/2019 21:31

@Obi73 that's some service your school provides- I wish my dc's did that! However this is not an emergency. The Child has a father who should make adjustments to his day to accommodate this. Keeping a 6 year old off school cos daddy can't be arsed to rejig his day a little is ridiculous. Plus expecting his pregnant wife to walk 70 mins when Unwell is disgusting! Op I'd suggest starting some driving lessons.

BigBumandMumTum · 04/02/2019 21:32

A few weeks ago my friend posted on Facebook that she was ill and could anyone drop her kids at school. She lives in the next town over and her kids go to a different school to mine. I dropped mine at school, drove over, picked her kids up and took them to school. They were a little late but made it.

I will do favours for people if they need it (not cf) so maybe your friends will aswell?

Caterinaballerina · 04/02/2019 21:36

I’d suggest an plea for help from other school parents and hope your DH catches this bug too!

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MRSMARMITE3 · 04/02/2019 21:39

My friend who's kids go to school in the opposite direction said she would take him tho he will be late . I'm very grateful. She feels bad he will be late. I told her she shouldn't feel bad and that my DH should.

OP posts:
Obi73 · 04/02/2019 21:39

Mummyshark2018
I’m with you that dad needs to step up but to help mum maybe the school cane are the situation. Mine are fab and get family life is difficult - it’s worth asking.

Believeitornot · 04/02/2019 21:40

Why @Thesnobbymiddleclassone does the OP need to martyr herself when she has a perfectly capable partner who can take his own child to school?

His wife is ill. His dc needs taking to school. He’ll be an hour late? I bet mums in his workplace manage the school run.

Bubbinsmakesthree · 04/02/2019 21:44

Is your DH a surgeon due to perform life-saving surgery first thing tomorrow? Or on his last warning and could lose his job if he’s late?

But if it’s just a case of him not wanting to take an hour out of his day to help his poorly DW then YANBU.

defineme · 04/02/2019 21:45

So what are you going to do about your shit husband?

m0therofdragons · 04/02/2019 21:46

I love the mn idea that surgeons all work crazy hours. Is it just my hospital where the consultants work hours that allow them to do school runs?

glitterfarts · 04/02/2019 21:55

Brush your teeth with his brush, then when he gets it, go out with the car keys and leave him to do the school run on foot.....
seriously.

Ellie56 · 04/02/2019 21:58

Your so called "D"H is the one being ridiculous, and a complete knob.Why doesn't he take a day off work to take DS to school and look after you like other partners would do?

I hope he catches your bug and that you do nothing to help him.

Does he have form for being an unmitigated twat?