To be worried about dd and her maths

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She is just three and can’t count to 5.
She knows if she’s got one, two, three or four of something but that’s as high as she can go.
She can’t even count by rote to 5.
Ds was miles in front at the same age. Dd has absolutely no clue and no matter how many times we practice and sing counting songs and play games it makes no difference. She only retains it for a few hours and then it’s gone again.
It’s so random because she can remember nursery rhymes, she can talk about things that happened nearly two years ago. But she can’t count to five.

Does anyone have any rips apart from counting everything with her which is what I’m doing anyway. Currently she touch counts to 4 and then after 4 inevitably says 7! It’s so odd because most children her age would know the sequence and 5 would just naturally come after 4. She has totally no idea and we’ve been doing this with her just naturally really since she was very small.

Relax that’d be my advice

My biggest tip is don't stress out because she's only 3 and what's more she will sense your anxiety and lose confidence.

I got a U in my maths GCSE.

U.

I still got a degree and have a lovely life.

My Dd couldn't count til 5 until she was 5! Relax would also be my advice

YABU to stress over this. She’s only 3!!

My 3 year old can recognise numbers to 20, count using one to one correspondence and loves numbers... however he can't speak in sentences and has only recently started speaking full stop...

If i were you id be delighted with your obviously very bright daughter.

My son is at the peadiatrician next week as we await a possible ASD diagnosis.

I'm a teacher.. honestly just keep doing what you're doing, your daughter sounds as though she's doing fab. Be proud.

I wouldnt worry about a 3 year old, Id just gently encourage w counting books, games etc.
Neither would I subscribe to the "I'm barely numerate and it's fine" boast. I really struggled w maths and its been a total pain career-wise. No way I'd be sitting back and laughing it off if my kids were struggling by school age.

OMFG 😮😮😮😮

I thought you were going to talk about a child doing their GCSE!!

Chill out. She's only 3!!

I find this post a little depressing.She's probably busy learning something else like jumping or managing her socks and shoes. Maybe she doesn't need to count at the moment whereas learning to say please and Thankyou has always mportance to her.Please don't compare it really isn't healthy for you or useful for DD. Let her develop at her own rate. Your input is a minor part.

I read this as I was worried that my son (4) can only count to 10 and seems to not have much interest in numbers or letters, although he is obsessed with science, mechanics and 'processes'. I thought he would be behind when he started school.

Going on what is being said here by other posters, I obviously shouldn't worry and neither should you! As it happens, I could read really young (according to my mum I was 2.5 but I am a bit 🤔, about that) but I'm hardly what you call a high achiever! I just enjoyed learning but wasn't confident in being heard, and many people I know who have done well in life have done so because they have took opportunities, not because they are amazing at maths.

Look at what your daughter's strengths are and try to work with them. She could be great with people and a fantastic organiser which will put her in a good position in the future.

YABU

she’s three ffs!

It’s far more important for her to learn to dress herself, to take turns, to open her own lunchbox and things in it, to speak up for herself, to be kind to people and animals and all the other skills that will make her a good person.

Numeracy and literacy are important of course. And at three years old you count things together like ducks on a pond or shoes in the hallway and read to her and use a wide vocabulary when you talk to her. She will learn maths in her own time; she’s not even “behind”, she’s THREE!

Yabu.

Op . Think of it this way
.her brain is incredibly busy laying down neural pathways for so many things - learning to read facial expressions and hopping and jumping and putting her coat on. Children will all learn these millions of things at a different place and in a different order.

I must admit I also have thought this would be about a school age child.

Op, please relax about this, not every child will find maths easy.

However once she is at school if she is having issues I would support with extra help. But please don't pressure her now.

It’s fine to say chill out she’s three but it’s not long until school when suddenly they get a loaf of objectives they have to meet and are classed as not meeting, meeting or exceeding expectations.

There’s nothing ‘only’ about being 3 anymore I’m afraid.

In fact people I know with children even younger than 3 and in childcare have already had judgements made about where they are operating and where the should be.

load obviously!

There’s nothing ‘only’ about being 3 anymore I’m afraid.

Yes there is. Being 3 has always been being 3. You may choose to subscribe to the competitive ethos that is common amongst parents, but you don't have to.

Besides once she's 4 she'll work out soon enough that her next birthday will be her 5th one....

Out of interest, what would happen if you asked her whether she wanted 4 chocolate buttons (or similar treat) or 5?

It’s fine to say chill out she’s three but it’s not long until school when suddenly they get a loaf of objectives they have to meet and are classed as not meeting, meeting or exceeding expectations.

So chill the fuck out just now! Let her be a kid.

My advice to you op is to move/get new friends.

Your second response is awful, truly sad. I'm imagining you're surrounded by people who talk/worry about this stuff. It's wrong, totally wrong.

Have a look around at your adult friends, and their varying success. Can you tell which ones could count at 3? Clue, no, you can't.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3439387-To-be-worried-by-how-bad-at-maths-numeracy-dd-is

^ You really need to chill out, before you are going to cause huge issues for your child(ren)

My children don’t have any issues.

But if people think that there are no expectations for 3 year olds they are sadly mistaken.
Kids I know in preschool get homework now.

State preschools.

school readiness expects you to recognise 1-10 before reception. if she recognises how many 4 is think you're on track. more than just reciting a sequence

Galactic said they WILL have issues. Not that they already have. There's a good chance they will have though, if you, and everyone else who thinks this is normal, continue in this vein.
At the lovely preschool my girls went to, a state school, England, there was no expectation on the 3 year olds. As there shouldn't be.

When I taught reception we would have had no worries about a child only being able to recognise and count to 4, but struggling past 5. Reception is all about learning through play. You really need to clam down.