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‘Your house is really messy’

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Worthygirl · 01/02/2019 11:34

DD 6 had friend to play & I overheard her friend saying to her ‘your house is really messy- my mummy tidies my room up’ (the mum doesn’t work!!)
Aibu to be embarrassed? Our house is a bit messy but it’s not that bad- it’s just not show home standard as I work full time!!

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EmUntitled · 01/02/2019 11:35

She's only 6 I wouldn't take it to heart.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 01/02/2019 11:37

If you are embarrassed by your house then make a bit more effort to keep it tidy. But if you’re not then don’t worry. It’s you that has to live in it!

Racecardriver · 01/02/2019 11:39

At least you don’t clean up after a six year old.

Seline · 01/02/2019 11:39

Kids say weird things, I wouldn't worry.

My three year old looked at my hands in horror and told me to go and get my nails done last week. I've just had twins and haven't had time for my usual acrylics that I've worn every day since before he was born. Grin

Original poster
Worthygirl · 01/02/2019 11:41

@ilovemaxi well I am a bit embarrassed but find it hard to keep on top of it all. I am more worried that the girl will embarrass my daughter in school

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roisinagusniamh · 01/02/2019 11:41

I loved having a 'messy house' when mine were small. It looked cosy and lived in.Toys everywhere...drawings half finished on the dining room table...washing never put away.
Miss those days....sigh!

ILoveMaxiBondi · 01/02/2019 11:45

What are you struggling with OP? Theres a great group on FB called TOMM (the Organised Mum method) that sets out a schedule with different levels so you can do just the basics every day that keeps you on top of everything or you can do a bit more if you feel like it.

Ragnarhairybreetches · 01/02/2019 11:46

My DS friends said, 'your house is tiny', you can get WiFi in all the rooms!. His house is huge and has a cinema in it, I can't compete, but hey, his mum says that he says my food is better than hers! Just relax OP. It's kids, for all you know she may see messy as good!

theworldistoosmall · 01/02/2019 11:47

I remember a mates kid saying this. Theirs was a show home, her mum was mortified.
My 'mess' was a mug on the kitchen side, a couple of things hanging up to dry, toys out and some painting drying on the table. Oh and the mop bucket blocking a room that had just been mopped.

I could never relax at theirs

NoSquirrels · 01/02/2019 11:47

One of my DC's friends said once "You are SO LUCKY your Mum doesn't make you tidy up your bedroom - my Mum makes us tidy everything up every day. I wish I had your room."

I chose to look on the bright side Grin

Oblomov19 · 01/02/2019 11:48

If you think it's bad, that's not good. You can sort that.
Mine is quite tidy, but then I only work part time.

BertieBotts · 01/02/2019 11:49

When DS1 was 6 his friend came over and said "Your toilet has brown stuff in..." Blush the limescale was all stained.

Kids that age have no filter.

rainflowerstar · 01/02/2019 11:53

Everyone's different. I hate having a messy house but my kids do have their toys out to play but they tidy them up once finished. I can't relax in an untidy house.

SeaToSki · 01/02/2019 12:03

One of my dc had a friend home to play after school, aged about 6. They got in my car and said wow your car is really messy, my Mums car is always tidy. I chose to look at the funny side. I am sure his Mum was very good at keeping their car tidy (unlike me) and I am sure that there are other things that I do better at. Swings and roundabouts.

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RangeRider · 01/02/2019 12:21

I would have loved to have lived in a house that was not obsessively hoovered when I was a child. You couldn't relax or make even the tiniest mess in mine.

Dimsumlosesum · 01/02/2019 12:25

Nah don't pay it any mind.

theworldistoosmall · 01/02/2019 12:27

RangeRider - did you also have the pleasure of the tidying during parties?
I have pictures and in the background, you can clearly see people cleaning up. And that's all I remember. As soon as anything was empty it was whipped away. Oh a crumb, let's get the brush out. Sides wiped down millions of times.

Justmuddlingalong · 01/02/2019 12:30

‘your house is really messy- my mummy tidies my room up’
You're taking it as a criticism. Perhaps she meant how relaxed and fun it was to not have someone constantly hovering tidying up and fretting about untidiness.

howabout · 01/02/2019 12:35

My house is a tip because I don't work - too busy living in my home to bother tidying it.

That said I would take no notice of what a 6 year old says on such matters. My 7 year old is the chief mess creator in my house and all toys left out cannot be tidied as they are work in progress. This just encourages the rest of us to leave our stuff around to reclaim some space.

Otoh when I finally break and get her to clear the carpet and the table said 7 year old loves the opportunity to start with a new project.

Mess to a 6 / 7 year old is generally a compliment ime Grin

Bluntness100 · 01/02/2019 12:37

Perhaps she meant how relaxed and fun it was to not have someone constantly hovering tidying up and fretting about untidiness

Huge lol, that's a bit of a leap isn't it. From tidying the room to constantly hoovering and fretting 🤣

Somethingsmellsnice · 01/02/2019 12:38

You think that is bad. A friend's son about that age told me my bum was really big. It wasn't really - it is just that his Mum is teeny weeny!

At that age they are very literal.

Mumminmum · 01/02/2019 12:39

My dad tried to shame me into tidying my room more often when I was little (5 or 6)by referring to how clean some of my friends rooms were. Their mums all cleaned up their rooms. Which I knew. So I told him that it wasn't fair that he compared me to children who didn't tidy their rooms themselves. He didn't really have a comeback for that.

Knowing their mums they might have pretended that it was my friends who had tidied the rooms themselves. "Oh yes, my children are soo nice and gifted and ..."

RenterNomad · 01/02/2019 12:41

DD's friend (also 6) told me the other day, "I really like your kitchen because you've only got one spider." Bless her, she thought it was a compliment!

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 01/02/2019 12:42

Ds had his new friend for tea a while back. We live in a really old shabby house (rented and we love it), the stair carpets have seen better days (decades), the friend snagged his sock and thrust it in my face insisting I stitch it straight away as they were new!
They are 10. I mumbled I needed to make tea!!
His dm never mentioned it!!