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AIBU to not go to work today

67 replies

MissMilly88 · 01/02/2019 07:34

Hi all, I'm 27 weeks pregnant and there's been heavy snowfall where I live. I work as a teacher 30 miles away and my school is open as they haven't had much snow. All my local schools are closed due to the amount we have had. The trains are running at the moment though. AIBU to not feel comfortable walking the 2 miles (mostly) down hill to my train station. I did it last year when I wasn't pregnant but I feel I should probably be more cautious now. It's my first pregnancy so I'm always second guessing if I'm being sensible or unreasonable?

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Neverunderfed · 01/02/2019 07:36

I wouldn't go.

Cbatothinkofaname · 01/02/2019 07:36

Well presumably you’ve contacted the school already as there’s no way you’ll be in time - it’s gone 7.30 already. What did you tell them? Did you say you’d be in late?

MotorcycleMayhem · 01/02/2019 07:36

Call a taxi to the train station.

CountessVonBoobs · 01/02/2019 07:37

I'd go. I never had any problems walking in the snow when pregnant. I walked to the hospital through heavy snow at 37 weeks pregnant for my induction.

EhlanaOfElenia · 01/02/2019 07:39

Our school is open - but in their snow preparation letter they warned us that a lot of their teachers lived where there was more snow expected where some of the teachers lived so a decision would take that into account.

So a SENSIBLE head teacher would be taking that into account.

But you need to let them know ASAP so they can get a supply in, or merge classes or whatever solution they come up with on a snow day.

ClanoftheCaveBear · 01/02/2019 07:39

I wouldn’t do it pregnant if you have to walk. It’s not worth risking falling over.

Sirzy · 01/02/2019 07:40

Can you get a taxi to the station?

IceRebel · 01/02/2019 07:40

Call a taxi to the train station.

This is what I would do. Although as a PP has said 7.30am is rather late to not have informed the school of your decision, they will more than likely be expecting you in.

Original poster
MissMilly88 · 01/02/2019 07:42

I've already contacted them and emailed all of my students (I teach 16-18 year olds). No taxi will get to where I live as I'm on top of a hill which doesn't get gritted due to not being on a main bus route. I was asking more for reassurance that I'm doing the right thing. If I wasn't pregnant I'd already be on the train, I never take time off work so it feels a bit strange to not be going in!

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Cbatothinkofaname · 01/02/2019 07:49

Sounds like you’d already made your decision then!

Neverunderfed · 01/02/2019 07:50

I would do the same.

shaggedthruahedgebackwards · 01/02/2019 07:53

Is the road icy/slippy?

If yes then YANBU

If its simply that you don't want to walk 2 miles then sounds like you just fancy a day off!

Lazypuppy · 01/02/2019 07:54

YABU, but looks like you have already made your mind up.

randomsabreuse · 01/02/2019 07:59

I am pretty gung ho even when pregnant but would not be walking down a steep ungritted snowy hill. I might not pregnant with good shoes/yaktraks but the likelihood of a big fall would be too high when pregnant. Also getting back up late pm when it freezes even worse.

Icy roads are the worst. I walked up a snowy hill on Wednesday carrying a 3 month old in a sling. I do a lot of hill walking and was careful - the worst bits were on the closed access road - clearly not gritted

CurlyMango · 01/02/2019 08:00

You knew you weren’t going when you wrote this. Did you just need validation? Or have there not been the responses you desired?

StrongTea · 01/02/2019 08:02

Not so much the getting there but getting back. I’d not go.

Puggles123 · 01/02/2019 08:02

Don’t go in, it might be really icy later as well when you’re coming home; its only 1 day, and in honesty, probably plenty of teaching prep etc to be doing at home if you feel guilty!

Original poster
MissMilly88 · 01/02/2019 08:13

Thanks all (to those being kind anyway) my first post on mumsnet and possibly my last. I was messaging for validation, is that a crime? Anyway, I'm in the middle of marking tests and replying to student emails, have a lovely day.

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missfliss · 01/02/2019 08:18

Don't worry OP you'll get plenty of virtue signallers here who climbed Kilimanjaro when 38 weeks pregnant and have no sympathy for anxious people who aren't the same.

AIBU is a brutal place - don't even give those posters a second thought xxx

Callywalls · 01/02/2019 08:22

Please don't feel bad about not going. My dh is a teacher and his school has remained open and he has been able to get to work as we only live round the corner, but a lot of the teachers live further away and have not been able to get there. No-one blames them, everyone understands why and there is no bad feeling towards the teachers who have not been able to make it in. He has set off again this morning (five mins walking) and really expects there to be just a skeleton staff again today. Please look after yourself and don't feel guilty not going, you are obviously a dedicated teacher and like you say, there is always loads of work to do at home when you are a teacher. Be kind to yourself.

TheRealShatParp · 01/02/2019 08:23

I don’t blame you for not going in, OP. Seems reasonable to me. Sounds like you have plenty you can be getting on with at home anyway!

BastardGoDarkly · 01/02/2019 08:27

You've done the right thing op.

Put your feet up Flowers

(And check out MN classics, you'll laugh the day away)

EmeraldShamrock · 01/02/2019 08:28

I would not go either, if a taxi won't come to you then it is not safe to walk if you're pregnant.
Whack the heating on and relax. Brew Cake

CurlyMango · 01/02/2019 08:29

Wrap up on the sofa and enjoy the extra time.

Helplessfeeling · 01/02/2019 08:34

YANBU- not worth it if you slip on an icy pavement.