AIBU to not go to work today

[MissMilly88]

Hi all, I'm 27 weeks pregnant and there's been heavy snowfall where I live. I work as a teacher 30 miles away and my school is open as they haven't had much snow. All my local schools are closed due to the amount we have had. The trains are running at the moment though. AIBU to not feel comfortable walking the 2 miles (mostly) down hill to my train station. I did it last year when I wasn't pregnant but I feel I should probably be more cautious now. It's my first pregnancy so I'm always second guessing if I'm being sensible or unreasonable?

I wouldn’t walk 2 miles in the snow/ice at 27 weeks pregnant, no.

I would take the day off if that was my only option to get to work - were there any other options? How is DH/DP getting to work?

I'd go. I never had any problems walking in the snow when pregnant. I walked to the hospital through heavy snow at 37 weeks pregnant for my induction.

There's your martyr Cbatothinkofaname.

So walking in the snow while pregnant is being a martyr? Yikes!

If the op didn’t feel it was safe to walk 2 miles downhill then fine (I wouldn’t either in her circumstances)
But other people might feel differently- doesn’t make them martyrs.

My point was that it’s daft to post in AIBU canvassing opinions on whether to go to work, when you’ve clearly already informed your workplace that you’re not going. Nuts!

I agree Santaclarita

Maybe not so much a Martyr as I guess she HAD to walk to the hospital anyway , but yea, those type of posts and people grind my gears too

I'm not a martyr. I like walking and I didn't find that being pregnant made it any more difficult. I did the school run on foot this morning with a 9kg 11mo strapped to my front. I prefer not to drive in the snow unnecessarily but if I could only do my job by going in and to go in I needed to walk in the snow... I'd walk in the snow.

YANBU. You were right not to go in. Some people are such martyrs... There's no prizes for being irresponsible when pregnant

I fractured my elbow walking to work in the snow and took a month of paid sick leave. Yeah, that was really worth me attempting to go to work! Did my employer care that I tried to make it in? Nope!

She didn’t go and had already contacted her school and students, so no need to fret about the fate of the OP!

Yanbu. A decent employer would understand. I had a similar situation where I worked in an admin role. We had snow but work 30 miles away didn’t. I buckled the wheel of my car trying to get in. Arrived lunch time and had to make time up. A year or two later the snow was more widespread and people closer than me didn’t try to get in. Yet sI managed it whilst pregnant. This was after a very scary five hour drive home the night before.They didn’t have to make the time off so I pissed off extremely early for my midwife appointment that day.

YANBU

My kids school was open and I chose not to send them

@MissMilly88 I think you have done the right thing. There is no way I would walk down hill let alone 2 miles whilst heavily pregnant (at 27 weeks I was huge)
You and babes safety is much more important, and like you said you are always reliable and walked in the snow last year when not pregnant.
I'm 40+4 😣 and no way am I going out in this as it's far too dangerous...if you fell on your belly it could be very dangerous, let alone getting back up!
You're working from home anyway so not like you're being idle and watching daytime tv and using snow as excuse like a lot of people do!!

Good luck with your pregnancy x

Ah thanks everyone. It's just so out of my nature not to go in, even with lots of sickness in first trimester I went in and just muddled through. I suppose I just wanted to check I wasnt being OTT about the walking. My brain says 'chuck your wellies on and walk' but I know I need to be sensible and I don't want to slip! I've found it hard having to 'slow down' and do things differently since being pregnant as you can tell!

It’s not worth the risk. It’s one day. You did what felt right and that’s ok. :)

I've not been heavily pregnant in ice and snow but am babywearing with my 3 month old. I am VERY selective where I'd walk carrying him - steep tarmac/concrete/cobbled slope (Or steps) in snow/ice = no way. Grassy/rough hill walk in snow boots was fine. I am being much stricter about shoe choices as well - no slip ons or wellies - proper walking boots, trail running shoes or snow boots unless the pavements are completely dry and ice free.

I'm very careful about urban snow after properly stacking it on a pavement in my early 20s - the pavements are generally worse than the roads!

Of course YANBU. I wouldn't want to walk two miles in the summer when 38 weeks pregnant, certainly wouldn't fancy it in deep snow. They'll be plenty of people out there telling you how they climbed up Snowden at 49 weeks pregnant with a ten month old in an Ergo baby strapped to them and had enough energy to give their DH a blow job once they reached the top. I personally wouldn't believe them. I hope you enjoyed your day in the warm

I was messaging for validation, is that a crime?

It is in AIBU, yes. The point of this forum is to ask whether you're being unreasonable, not to request to be told you're not.

Op you made the right decision and you were not being unreasonable not to go in. The safety of your unborn child is the most important factor to consider here. If it snows again, do the same.