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AIBU to not go to work today

67 replies

MissMilly88 · 01/02/2019 07:34

Hi all, I'm 27 weeks pregnant and there's been heavy snowfall where I live. I work as a teacher 30 miles away and my school is open as they haven't had much snow. All my local schools are closed due to the amount we have had. The trains are running at the moment though. AIBU to not feel comfortable walking the 2 miles (mostly) down hill to my train station. I did it last year when I wasn't pregnant but I feel I should probably be more cautious now. It's my first pregnancy so I'm always second guessing if I'm being sensible or unreasonable?

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MaverickSnoopy · 01/02/2019 08:35

I would have done the same in your position if faced with a 2 mile walk downhill (but then I fall over a lot without snow so would be certain to fall). I wouldn't want to risk going in and more snow coming and then struggling to get home.

Generally I'm a hardy person and face all situations, but not in this situation.

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 01/02/2019 08:36

YANBU

Raven88 · 01/02/2019 08:36

Your personally safety comes first. If I was your colleague I wouldn't expect you to be at work.

SubparOwl · 01/02/2019 08:36

I think it's very reasonable. I fell when pregnant and had a bleed, was terrified.

supersop60 · 01/02/2019 08:36

I'm not pregnant, and was considering not going in to my 25 miles away school. I've just had a call to say the school is closing after all.
YANBU OP.

supersop60 · 01/02/2019 08:38

I've just remembered that about 30 years ago, the local authority said that teachers should turn up at their nearest school, if they couldn't get to their own school!

Cbatothinkofaname · 01/02/2019 08:41

Supersop I remember that too!

Btw i don’t think anyone was being remotely unkind to the OP, or virtue signalling. It was just a bit odd to post as if she was asking advice about whether to go, when she’d already contacted her students and school. (Former teacher here so I’m well aware that teachers are often in school by 7.30, or en route at the very least )

Santaclarita · 01/02/2019 08:43

Don't feel bad. Go with the notion that those saying they would go are probably lying and are settled on their couch ready for this mornings TV shows to start. Grin

You're pregnant and a fall at this stage could potentially be bad. As someone else said, you'll always have those that say 'well I climbed everest while 34 weeks pregnant and rescued someone too so you can go to work'. They like drama. Ignore them.

Plus you teach 16-18 year olds. They should know how to revise or work on coursework by now by themselves.

TadaTralala · 01/02/2019 08:44

Ignore the Martyr Mums on here - look after yourself and your baby

cuppycakey · 01/02/2019 08:45

YANBU. I am in a similar situation and not pregnant and no way am I risking going in. Can mark work from home, sofa, pyjamas, cat.

Glitterblue · 01/02/2019 09:00

YADNBU. I would have done the same. I have a friend who fell in the snow whilst pregnant and her baby was stillborn. I had no choice but to walk 2 miles in the snow when I was pregnant (trying to get home) and it was no fun, it's different altogether from walking in the snow when you're not pregnant. Sound like you've got plenty to be getting on with anyway so stay cosy, enjoy the day off and ignore some of the other comments!

Serialweightwatcher · 01/02/2019 09:04

Take no notice of the 'perfect' people on here - they're not and they're not worth you not coming here again - sod them! I wouldn't have gone - it's not worth the risk ... take care of yourself because you're the priority Flowers

Yabbers · 01/02/2019 09:05

You email all your students to tell them you are off?

XXcstatic · 01/02/2019 09:09

I'm an employer (admittedly in healthcare, not a school) and I would never expect a pregnant member of staff to come in in those circumstances. If you slip and land on your abdomen, it could be very dangerous for the baby.

WorraLiberty · 01/02/2019 09:11

YANBU but I'm wondering what you're going to do next week if the snow has melted and frozen over?

That can be more dangerous than freshly fallen snow and can last for ages.

HeyJupiter · 01/02/2019 09:14

You’ve made absolutely the right decision!

Polarbearflavour · 01/02/2019 09:15

You have to put yourself and your baby first, that’s way more important than a job! Do you think your work would care if you fell over and hurt yourself?

Just waiting for the comments from the martyrs. “I hiked in Outer Mongolia when I was 37 weeks pregnant and gave birth on a mountain. I then went straight into work.”

EhlanaOfElenia · 01/02/2019 09:15

@Yabbers -I would assume they have a class messaging/email system which the OP has used.

Cbatothinkofaname · 01/02/2019 09:17

Good grief - some posters are desperate to see ‘mummy martyrs’! No one has claimed to do anything ridiculous. How disappointing for you frothers!

PolarBearDisguisedAsAPenguin · 01/02/2019 09:18

YANBU. I’m pregnant (we must be due around the same time) and I’m not going out in this weather at all. A fall can kill your baby and it’s not worth taking the risk - and yes, lots of people take risks in pregnancy and at other times without a problem but having already buried one of my babies, I am not doing anything other than erring on the very safe side of things.

TabbyCat44 · 01/02/2019 09:18

Yanbu, I wouldn't

haverhill · 01/02/2019 09:23

Yanbu.

Polarbearflavour · 01/02/2019 09:25

Cbatothinkofaname - nobody is “frothing.” On most posts like this, there is always somebody being a martyr.

AutumnColours9 · 01/02/2019 09:25

I would stay off

LegoPiecesEverywhere · 01/02/2019 09:28

Yanbu.