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Or a greedy fat cow - bit long sorry

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Ellieboolou27 · 31/01/2019 22:05

I’m so angry right now, husband not fucking so darling at the moment has made a few digs over the last few months about how much weight I’ve put on. I know I’m big, the biggest I’ve ever been (size 18 and 14st). I’ve had weight issues all my life and was bulimic in my teens / 20’s. Been a steady 12/14 but since having my second dc I’ve got very big.

Now I’m finally getting on track, eating properly, exercise and trying to set an example to our kids 3 and 6yrs.
Husband, who always buys to excess comes home yesterday with 4 Easter eggs and 12 bars chocolate (4x multipack) and says they are for our kids! I said they don’t need all this and I being greedy and a chocoholic do NOT need the temptation in the house, so I gave them to a friend to look after, the eggs only as he wanted the chocolate for lunches.

Tonight he comes home and says “oh I see you’ve eaten all the eggs” I said no I’ve given them to x to look after to which he replied “yeah like fuck” then muttered under his breath I’m a fucking greedy fat cow.

I’ve just left him a note saying how shit he has made me feel as if he genuinely cared he would try and support my weight loss and not get Easter eggs months in advance. I’ve gone to bed feeling like I never want to eat again Sad chance would be a fine thing

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cstaff · 01/02/2019 14:32

Your husband is being an ass and deserves a talking to tonight. You do not deserve that when you are trying so hard - believe me I know how difficult it is.

Regarding the chocolate - a few years ago I lost a few stone and the only way to do it was to bar chocolate from my house as there was no such thing as having one biscuit or bar. Once I knew it was there I just couldn't get it out of my head and it sounds like you are similar OP so well done on sending it to your friends. Out of sight out of mind.

Ellieboolou27 · 01/02/2019 14:44

His not overweight and very muscular and tall, his 50 and I’m ten years younger, he looks early 40’s.

I was a stunner when we met over 15 years ago, never very big but curves and size 12/14, I’m now size 18 and it seems I’m disgusting Sad

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Pashazade · 01/02/2019 14:54

No you're not. It's difficult after you've had children your body is not the same. But you need to calmly discuss that you don't understand why he is choosing to sabotage you. If he dislikes your current size so much surely he would want to support you getting back to your former weight. Hugs. I'm lucky my DH has never stopped fancying me nor me him in spite of the weight but we are now working together to loose our excess. Keep doing this for yourself. You will get there.

TillyMint81 · 02/02/2019 10:13

Please stop speaking about yourself like that. You're not disgusting. Our bodies change after we have babies and our priorities change too.
You're trying to change things for yourself and he isn't helping at all. Firstly he's reinforcing the cruel comments to say to yourself and secondly he's putting temptation in your way.
He's also not setting a great example to your children buying such large quantities of chocolate for them.
Thanks

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