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ParkingšŸ˜”

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Escumator · 31/01/2019 08:50

Ok.. so school drop off parkin is tight first come first serve kinda thing
.The road has houses with drives dropped kerbs etc so limited. However one lady is pissing me off.
A person who.lives in the house takes there car off her drive and parks in one of the limited spaces and waits for her friend to come then moves her car so her friend always has a space. Petty i no..but wtf if he friend cant get up early.like the rest of us this isnt our problem isit?? Petty i no. Bad morning.

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thecatsthecats · 31/01/2019 09:48

This seems like such an insane level of faff (my friends would be think I'd gone insane if I suggested or agreed to this) that there surely has to be a bigger reason for it?

I mean, otherwise it must take longer for thie 'nice friend' to save her a space than it would for her just to walk.

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Escumator · 31/01/2019 09:48

At school pick up when i park my jealous self 3 streets down and walk in the rain with no friends on the street. I will be sure to yake a picture then!!! Grin

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CallMeVito · 31/01/2019 09:49

SkylightAndChandelier
I kind of agree BUT in quite a few cases it's the parents who chose to put their child out of catchment. Then the next child arrives, and they are given a place in the nearest school, as it should be. Then they moan because they go to separate schools, well it was their decision to chose a different school in the first place.

There are also many parents who refuse to walk. It takes me less time to walk than it takes for some neighbours to drive and park, and at this time of year if the car was outside, even more time to de-ice it. They still will never walk to school.

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 31/01/2019 09:50

She can park where she likes

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Escumator · 31/01/2019 09:51

It would be more considerate from lady one to offer lady 2 (wont call her lazy because everyone else seems to be offended) a space on her drive at drop off and collection times. And less hassle for all.involved to... or am i wrong

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Waspnest · 31/01/2019 09:51

Perhaps the lady is worried that inconsiderate twats parents will park in front of her drive blocking her in so she parks on the road to avoid that? She has then agreed with a friend that as she leaves the friend can take that place. I don't see what's wrong with that (although she's being VU if she actually parks on the corner as you've shown).

CallMeVito · 31/01/2019 09:52

Apart from jealousy, I really can't see what the issue is. Blocking drive is a slippery slope, idiot drivers will start doing it to every house.

There's a car parked legally. Who cares who parked here and why?

I bet the OP would find the solution amazing if it was HER friend saving her a parking space.

Gruzinkerbell1 · 31/01/2019 09:54

Loving the diagram, 10/10

Seems like a lot of effort for Lady 1 to go to every day for her friend. I really couldn't be bothered. I live near a school and have a select few people who know they are welcome to park across my drive at drop off/pick up. I could not be bothered to go rushing out to reserve them a space every morning! It's bonkers.

CallMeVito · 31/01/2019 09:55

yes, it sounds like a bit of a faff, but it's their problem.

Why is it inconsiderate? The owner of the drive could chose to park permanently on the road, she could have a 2nd or 3rd car parked on the road. It would make no difference. Home owners don't own any consideration to school parents other than parking legally and drive very carefully when there are children around Grin

Betty777 · 31/01/2019 09:55

maybe her friend is a single parent/has mental health issues/depression/just lost someone close to her/has had a tough year and is close to the edge, etc etc

It will annoy you less if you think it might be something like that and she's actually doing a good thing :-)

I drove to school for the first ever time today - couldn't get a park AT ALL - there were literally none as all the roads are dead ends and cut off by train lines so nowhere else to go (i.e. all residents permit only) Then at the last moment I spotted a nanny/DC school friends that I knew and palmed him off to them to drop at class. Success! Wont' be driving again........

BusySnipingOnCallOfDuty · 31/01/2019 09:56

I have to drive my youngest to school. The only school she could get into was far away. And now we live the other side of town to where we did originally.

Even without the sticker on my bumper saying not all disabilities are visible, and my blue badge, people don't notice, or don't care that I need good access to where I'm going.

I have to park as close to school as possible. The community center next door allows use of their car park. There are disabled spaces. Which non disabled people park in, with respect for other non disabled people to park in next to them. They basically all squish up.

So I've managed to get into a disabled space once.

People get there so early to camp out for spaces, that I've discovered that arriving as most kids have gone in already and risking a late mark, Is easier for us.

Sad really.

I could do with a kind woman like the one who saves a space for her friend.

Sirzy · 31/01/2019 09:57

There are also many parents who refuse to walk. It takes me less time to walk than it takes for some neighbours to drive and park, and at this time of year if the car was outside, even more time to de-ice it. They still will never walk to school*

This.

Ds goes to a school with a catchment if less than a mile. He is disabled (blue badge holder) but most mornings we walk if he can (15 mins for him 5 for me back) but people who live closer than me walk.

He canā€™t walk back at the end of the day and finishes 20 minutes before anyone else. I generally canā€™t park outside school because of people sat waiting to pick up already Confused

ShartGoblin · 31/01/2019 09:57

I agree that it is bizarre if she has a multi car drive to not let her friend park on her drive... Appreciate that school drop offs are annoying for residents but this resident seems to be making more work for herself for no apparent reason. It's just odd

TheOxymoron · 31/01/2019 10:02

Whatā€™s wrong with parking a street or 2 away and walking the rest?

Seeline · 31/01/2019 10:04

Where does the resident go when she moves to let the school mum park? Does she just go back on her drive or does she drive off somewhere?

If it is the latter, it is probably for her peace of mind too - I bet she has been blocked in/unable to leave her drive on more than one occasion if she needs to leave for work etc at peak drop-off time. Putting her car on the road allows her to leave when she needs to.

IamPickleRick · 31/01/2019 10:08

I donā€™t get your problem. The same amount of parking spaces are available whether she does this or not.

reallyanotherone · 31/01/2019 10:10

Bottom line is thereā€™s nothing you can do. Breaking no laws, public parking on the highway etc.

So what. Suck it up. Catchments should be enforced and driving kids to school should be banned anyway unless there are disabilities involved

Great theory, but would you want your child going to a school with 40 children in one class while another 5 miles away only has 20?

There are too many children and schools arenā€™t being built at the same rate as houses. My child is driven to school 5 miles away as our local schools, all 3 of them, are at 35 children in one class already, and the school she was offered was a good school with 20 kids in the class. Likely because itā€™s relatively rural and the transport links are shit.

Eliza9917 · 31/01/2019 10:13

The residents moved there knowing there was a school on the road knowing there would be parkin issues 2 times a day. If driving to school was banned all my children would be last everyday (except the first).

They could have moved there before people got so lazy.

When I was in primary school, very few children were dropped off in cars, and no one was in secondary. Even disabled kids took themselves to school.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 31/01/2019 10:16

Should she really be parking on the bend like that and why doesnā€™t friend park in the vacant driveway?

This! ^

Is that poor little cat really a stray?

Can you not adopt it? Or inform Cats Protection?

Kennehora · 31/01/2019 10:18

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oldsewandsew · 31/01/2019 10:18

This sounds really petty on their part. I can see why it would irritate you (I have neighbours who shift around cars like this. I have a drive so it doesnā€™t affect me in the slightest, but it does irrationally irritate me!), but I would have to laugh at what a pathetic waste of time this all is for them. Who could be bothered doing that every day!

shpoot · 31/01/2019 10:21

So friend sits there indicating while house lady moves her car back onto drive then takes the spot she left? And you are there to see this happen every day?

Confused. It makes no sense

GinDaddy · 31/01/2019 10:25

This kind of post and issue will never resolve itself while people seethe at the notion that someone could be getting something beneficial for free which they also feel entitled to.

Itā€™s why the P&C threads all end in ā€œsuck it up, itā€™s a courtesy from the supermarketā€ etc.

The reality OP is this - if everyone came down to the street and parked exactly when they wanted, the ratio of cars to available spaces would probably be 5:1 or so.

So the harsh reality is, everyone isnā€™t going to get what they want. Everyone might deserve it, but not everyone will get it.

Your question should be whether you can accept this, and make adaptations (parking in another street, further down, ignoring stuff like this) that will allow you to enjoy your life a bit more.

CantWaitToRetire · 31/01/2019 10:28

Having seen the diagram I think the thing that shocks me the most is that people are allowed to park on a bed directly opposite a school. I'd have expected there to be zig zags there to help protect the children.

Another one loving little stray cat on the diagram Smile.

CantWaitToRetire · 31/01/2019 10:28

*On a bend, obviously, not on a bed!!!