To think pregnacy is miserable

[wheresthehope]

Just that... Don't get me wrong this is a much wanted pregnancy but I feel horrid and I am only 5weeks!
My DP and I were ttc to 18cycles with a mmc in June 2018 but this time I feel much worse!
My boobs ache, my nips are on fire and I feel like a bloated whale!
But I couldn't be happier!!!

Actually I didn’t find your thread title amusing, it upset me as someone who has also had a MMC. Hope it goes well for you this time, if not I hope you don’t have to read titles like this in the future

Just I think that's a bit unfair. I've had miscarriages, a complicated term pregnancy and a twin pregnancy that ended in delivery 26 weeks. I think pregnancy is bloody miserable.

@Justagirlwholovesaboy - Jeez a tad OTT and serious.

OP - The first 12 weeks are the hardest as you feel so rough! I felt my best around 25 weeks, then got hard again around 36 weeks.

I didn’t say it wasn’t miserable during pregnancy but she’s 5 weeks??

@Justagirlwholovesaboy certainly didn't mean to offend.
I guess part of it is also the uncertainty and the worry.

Just I feel crap all the way through mine. Feel dizzy and get migraines at the beginning which makes way for horrendous morning sickness. I bleed all the way through which is always worrying. Then I get exhausted from about 9 weeks and it doesn't go, followed by constant period pains and horrendous low mood. Only one of mine went to term the others I had miscarriages and then a preterm birth, the preterm birth was agony as I had a placental abruption.

There's no set stage where you feel like shit. If you're unlucky like I am and don't carry well then it feels crap all the way through.

Wheresthehope - congratulations. And yes I am sorry but it is miserable. All well worth it, but I can still find myself seething with resentment that DH has the amazing DC too, but without all the horrible bits.

You should feeling better around week 16 until week 30 when you start getting very big and heavy.

My only tip is to just sleep and sleep as much as possible

I understand @wheresthehope, maybe I got over sensitive seeing someone complain, you probably meant to make a joke but when your hurting it’s hard when someone jokes about it

Yes, and at 5 weeks it can be bloody miserable; you can feel totally shit, hopelessly exhausted, bloated, sick, wan and wasted.

So, no problem with your thread title atall, you must be able to say if you are having a miserable pregnancy,many do, but it does get better.

Obviously you are thrilled having tried for so long and very sorry for your loss, but you don't have to cover up how utterly yuk it can be.

Ginger tea for sickness, plenty of rest and grazing lightly lots seemed to work for me.

Pamper yourself and put your feet up!

Oh, and congratulations

Just I'm assuming the miscarriage was recent? It gets better I promise.

I think it's because nobody really warns you about how tough it is. All you hear is that oh you might get morning sickness and aren't you glowing..... (glowing being code for just thrown up so cheeks are red....)

Everyone seems to brush over 98% if the other crap that comes along with it from extreme exhaustion to mood swings, nose bleeds to constipation.....

I'm coming to the end at nearly 39 weeks but I don't mind saying that I have hated pregnancy and can't wait for it to be over. I will not be putting my body through this again for the considerable future!

Justagirl I am sorry for your loss too, and obviously it's still very tender for you.. OP doesn't intend any disrespect by it. That's clear.

I hope things improve soon for you

Oo Twiglet will you be letting us knows when it all kicks off? How exciting, not long to go atall, could even be tonight! Are you all ready?
9 months suddenly doesn't seem so long when you've got a baby in your arms!

Good luck

Pregnancy is such an amazing thing... For every woman it can be a totally different experience. I had wonderful pregnancies. I felt wonderful throughout, aside from the last couple of weeks when I thought my tummy might explode, and aside from when I got food poisoning in my 8th month with my daughter. I know how lucky I was. I have friends and family who had absolutely miserable pregnancies and I can't even imagine how hard it must have been.

Hang in there, op. You'll get through it.

@Smotheroffive I'm in early stages lost plug tonight and been cramping contractions started but nothing for last hour.

Nobody really mentions that early labour stage can last days though until you do antenatal classes!

Agree with twiglet that no-one warns you . There you are, supposedly “blooming” and actually feeling, in my case, fat, cumbersome and ugly.

So yes, Op, I understand. But it will be worth it, and the time goes quickly. Congratulations.

@Justagirlwholovesaboy I completely understand where your coming from. I felt like I was never going to move on from losing my pregnancy. I was slightly further along than I am atm (10weeks) but felt different than I do now and part of me is waiting for it to go wrong again.
Thank all you lovely ladies for your sound advice! I cant wait to get to hold my baby at the end of this!

@twiglet please update when your baby arrives! Hope for a smooth delivery for you x

No one warns you at all. I fully expected to be one of those glamorous smiling ladies with a cute bump who loves every minute of it. Instead I was a murderous grump who wished I could hibernate the entire way through.

It is! I had a few mc and still hated being pregnant my friend on the other hand loved it!
The first few weeks are so hard, you are tired, worried, have a million things going around your head, might be being sick and worse part for me was I didn't want to tell anyone till after 12weeks so people just think your not pulling your weight or that your being lazy when you are just exhausted!
Good luck alot of people enjoy the second trimester!

Oooo Twiglet try to sleep, the relaxation will get you going again. Do let us know, and hot water bottle for the small of your back.

I find pregnancy utterly awful. Yes, it's great to have a child at the end, but plenty of people manage to have a child without going through months of hideousness sickness pain and suffering (my husband for one) so I hate the attitude that all pregnant women 'should' feel lucky or not complain.

I actually considered abortion despite it being a much wanted baby my first was so bad. (Hospitalised starting from 11 weeks, hyperemesis, blood clots causing permanent damage to my body etc).

I hope this is just a crappy beginning for you OP and it gets better, but yes, sadly pregnancy can be miserable and you are not alone in thinking that.

I'm 15 weeks and I'm still finding my pregnancy miserable!
On one side I'm excited I'm having a baby and I can't wait for it to come out and to find out the sex and feel it kick
On the other side I'm fed up with constantly feeling like crap and I'm not even that far along!
How will I survive the next few months lol

Yeh, pregnancy sucks. It really does. I had, I guess what would be considered, an uncomplicated pregnancy. Lots of puking though and the last month or so seemed to feel like an eternity! I also had food poisoning when I was pregnant like a PP so that was dire. Good luck for your pregnancy OP

I feel you!

Pregnancy is pretty darn miserable. I’m of work sick and now won’t be going back due to PGP and SPD. I constantly exhausted but can’t sleep, currently given up on sleeping tonight and have come downstairs before I smouther my DH for the random noises he’s making!

I’ve been pretty lucky until about 4 weeks ago and had no pregnancy related yuckiness and was feeling pretty smug (after a terrible first pregnancy) now the last 8 weeks can’t go in quick enough!!

All worth it in the end!

Omg yes it's horrible. It was by far the worst time of my life. I still shudder thinking of the terrible exhaustion and 24/7 nausea and vomiting that went on for the whole 9 months. I cried every day.

But don't lose hope OP! It was worth it. Since baby was born I haven't cried once, except tears of happiness He's a year old and I can say that life since the birth, including every day, night wakes, etc, has been a doddle by comparison. I was practically skipping down the hospital hallway after my cs, I felt so great not being preg any more.