To think pregnacy is miserable

[wheresthehope]

Just that... Don't get me wrong this is a much wanted pregnancy but I feel horrid and I am only 5weeks!
My DP and I were ttc to 18cycles with a mmc in June 2018 but this time I feel much worse!
My boobs ache, my nips are on fire and I feel like a bloated whale!
But I couldn't be happier!!!

@Smotheroffive The heartburn is the worst bloody thing! I'm sponsored entirely by Gaviscon and wake up multiple times in the night and have to down it. I actually bought so much Gaviscon the other day I set off the security detectors in the supermarket as I didn't realise it had tags on when I went through self-service, and any dignity I had left was gone as the security guard rifled through my bags, pulling out a heap of heartburn medication and a pack of donuts.

I'm actually praying it disappears the second she shoots out of there so your post gives me hope!

Ooo, feeling that pain! Celebelly* I actually never knew I could take anything through mine, so it was water or milk for me bloody continually its been the same with drinking tea, despite being a love of my life, during pregnancy vomit inducing! The moment baby born, can't wait for a cuppa!

I hated the first 12 weeks with the tiredness and sickness but loved being pregnant after that Hope it gets better for you too!

Gaviscon is beginner level stuff, get some ranitidine off the GP or gone one extra and get omeprazole. By the end of pregnancy number one I was on ranitidine, by the end of number four I was on the maximum available dose of omeprazole and still had reflux.

I had hyperemesis, sciatica, recurrent UTI, hormone headaches, GERD, restless leg syndrome, lower back spasms, constipation to the point that I hated everyone, and insomnia. The only thing that got me through it was the knowledge it wasn't forever!

I agree with you, I felt miserable and sick for most of my pregnancy, but it was completely worth it in the end! Congratulations and hope you start to feel better with it soon!

I'm on Rantidine and that and the Gaviscon help enough that I don't need the harder stuff for now! For someone who never had heartburn ever before, it's been a baptism of fire (literally).

Yeah pregnancy is pretty awful and I say that as someone who has also had two MMC’s which were obviously far more miserable but still...

With ds1 and ds2 I had a miserable first few months, an absolutely lovely middle bit, and found the last couple of months tiring but bearable. Ds3, I didn't even know I was pregnant for a while and sailed through the first bit but became increasingly debilitated (SPD, coccyx pain, oedema to the point that fluid leaked through my skin and made walking really hard, sheer fucking exhaustion, heartburn that actually made me cry) from the midpoint onwards. The last one was an emotional rollercoaster too.

Why are people having to justify tough pregnancies by saying they’ve had losses? It is tough, losing a baby must be devastating but I can’t see how having a loss means you need to cherish every moment.

DS1 was the nausea/ exhaustion first semester. SPD/ carpal tunnel second semester. Months of longing to vomit for relief, and barely eating due to the gag reaction. Losing weight while visibly gaining bump. Lying down to rest between lessons and crashing out for two hours as soon as you got home. Then the pelvic pain and reduced mobility. Sobbing in agony in the final supermarket visit at 34 weeks. Ending up housebound unless driven door to door because I could no longer get behind the steering wheel and unable to walk more than a hundred metres or so. Stuck in the house alone, barely able to use my legs and unable to feel my fingers. Too knackered to read because the pins and needles and pelvic pain woke me hourly. It was such a joy to indulge in two hours sleep at a time with a newborn.

Second time was better. Average nausea with a bit of sickness, faded away at the end of the first trimester, then there was this really weird few weeks that felt reasonably normal. SPD returned, but I knew more about managing it and kept mobile on crutches. No carpal tunnel thank god; I think keeping moving helped to stop the odema brewing up.

Pregnancy can be an utter misery. I agree that at the start it can be harder with the secrecy and lack of sympathy. DH and I rarely argue, but we had a stonker when I was 17 wks as he just couldn't grasp how utterly empty and drained I was after months of near starvation when the textbook said I should have been feeling better a month earlier.

Do you mums think a early ultrasound is a good idea or leave it till 10-12weeks ish? I worry about not seeing a heartbeat again but what if I do get one around 7-8weeks and do get to see it? Will it make the worry easier?!

I think anything to ease your worries will be helpful. Its no good you worrying your days away; if I was worried I would do it to out my mind at rest, but it can get obsessive, so then you'd have to accept its all as good as it can be. I guess at the end of the day, there won't be much you can do, if anything, to make the pregnancy stay or go but try to do other things to keep your head occupied whilst these early days need getting through. Good luck!

My first, I felt like sleeping constantly, my boobs hurt and every smell made me feel sick. I was never sick, but hoped I would be to stop the feeling. This was all up until I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks. Then a week after I found out, all the symptoms stopped! Just disappeared! And I sailed through my pregnancy.

My second pregnancy, which we had only that month started trying for. Again I suddenly felt the overwhelming tiredness and every smell made me feel sick, and boobs hurt to high heaven. I knew straight away. Tested and I was 5 weeks pregnant- had caught our first week of trying. Got to 7 weeks and the symptoms went.

The strange thing is I had a few losses between these two (between 5-7 weeks). Yet I never had the pregnancy symptoms on them that I had on my two full pregnancies. 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is my 4th pregnancy (one early loss, then DS, then 2nd trimester loss) and this is by far the worst I’ve felt... with DS I had hyperemis until around 20 weeks but from around 24 weeks until right up to his due date I felt fantastic!
My most recent loss I barely even had nausea!
Currently 31 weeks with DS and I can honestly say there hasn’t been one day of this pregnancy that I’ve felt amazing for... constant sickness and nausea early on then PGP, sciatica, insomnia, anxiety, massive angry piles, swollen sore fingers, anaemia, leg cramps... and chasing around a toddler all day, DH comes home and I just want to cry!

Oh I forgot the excess body hair and leaky boobs that are doing wonders for my self esteem 😂

Totally get why people would be annoyed by the moaning. My sister had a still birth and my best friend lost her little girl when she was a month old - prior to being pregnant myself, I used to think it was weird when women would moan having watched those two suffer so much .... fast forward to now: I am the ULTIMATE moaner. Pregnancy is so hard.

My baby is to my knowledge healthy and kicking away and I really do know that I'm the luckiest human alive, that does not make the constant vomiting and SPD pain any easier though.

Power to you OP, we're here for you x

Thanks ladies!

I feel you! I’m 17 weeks with our third and it just keeps keeps getting worse. I hate pregnancy. It just sucks. The minute one symptom stops the next starts.
So sickness eased off last week. This week shin splints and back ache that means I can bearly walk.

But even though it is truly shit it’s sort of worth it in the end.

7+3 here and feel absolutely fine, too fine. Sore boobs but nothing else. I am frantic with worry that it means pregnancy not progressing and will end badly.
I’d love to feel pregnant, don’t feel anything yet. Finding it emotionally exhausting with worry though!