AIBU to have sanitary products on display?

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And by on display I don’t mean on a golden stand under a spotlight but on a shelf in my bathroom.
We have had friends and there DC (dd 8 and ds 6) to stay this weekend.
I have a box of tampons and packet of sanitary towels on a shelf in the bathroom. I went in and noticed they weren’t there, after hunting found them in the cupboard under the sink with the cleaning products, I put them back on the shelf. Just assumed it was DH who has form for throwing things in the nearest cupboard when ‘tidying’. Went back to the loo later that day and noticed again they had been put in the cupboard.
I went back in the lounge and said to DH, can you stop putting my stuff away in the cleaning cupboard. That’s when friend pipes up ‘oh I moved them I don’t think it is appropriate for them to be out especially where the DC can see them’. I was quite perplexed by this, but carried on the rest of the weekend, sanitary products hidden away as to not scar the children.

AIBU to think this is a totally bizarre way of thinking??? Firstly it’s my bathroom, can have things out if I want and find it rude that someone would put them away but secondly to think it is inappropate for children to see them, especially as she has a DD who is 8!
It’s a silly thing but the more I think about it the more flabbergasted I am!!

Now I'm the Tenapause, other products take their place.


I use a moon cup but do have some tampons and pads on a shelf (on display I guess) incase one of my visitors gets caught short. I thought this was normal? Yanbu OP!!

I have them on display permanently so that if any visitors come round and are caught short they can help themselves.

Yanbu she is though .Totally rude of her .Ours are in a wicker basket in the bathroom where my DD can easily access them .She is weird ,what does she do in the supermarket ,cover their eyes.I would never dream of moving stuff in someone else's house regardless of my views. Their house their rules.

Your friend is rude and crazy
Id be rather annoyed someone rearranging my bathroom cos they cant be assed talking about bodily functions
Id blatantly in front of the kids ask why she feels the need to move my pads and tampons

@GetUpAgain I have them on display permanently so that if any visitors come round and are caught short they can help themselves

See, now thats a real friend.

My mother had a little open basket of pads and tampons on the windowsill of her loo as long as I can remember. She was still replenishing it for her daughters, dils, grand daughters, great granddaughters and visitors until she died at 93.

I only pur mine away because the kids think it's funny to take them out the packet and play with them. Apart from that yanbu. My dh hides them and finds it embarrassing... different culture. I put them back.

It doesnt matter what they are no-one has the right to move something in someobe else's house, how rude!

She got a daughter and is having this attitude towards periods? I feel sad for the little girl.

This was my first thought.

She is the one who is inappropriate: a) for having the cheek to comment on how someone else places items in their own bathroom and b) for being uptight about a perfectly normal female bodily function, especially in front of an 8 year old daughter.

To move anything in someone elses house is so so rude,I don't care what it is,its yours...what a ridiculous woman!

My mum was like OPs friend. Sanpro had to be hidden in a cupboard under loads of stuff. I was warned to keep it out of sight because it wasn't very nice if men could see it.

She never explained periods to me, just threw me a book and told me to read it. It was a bit late because some of my friends were already menstruating, so I knew about it.

She didn't bleed very heavily and so never believed me when I explained I couldn't get through even one lesson at school without problems. Didn't want to talk about it.

There was a ridiculous situation where I was unwell and on my period and had to ask my dad to get me sanpro (because the stuff my mum bought for us wasn't sufficient. I didn't get pocket money so couldn't buy anything for myself). Dad and I were like "we'll keep this a secret from mum". He wasn't bothered at all.

These attitudes are harmful, I struggled for years because I couldn't talk to her about things. It's this old attitude where women are expected to hide the fact they are bleeding and in pain every month. Totally weird.

Your friend is being weird and that attitude is unhealthy. The fact that shortly she will be teaching her DD that menstruation is inappropriate and shameful is really sad.

Tbf I do keep my sanitary stuff away in a cupboard because I like to have clutter free sides I can wipe down quick and easy, but if I'm having guests, I get my sanitary stuff out! I don't want anyone being uncomfortable in my house.

I would of had to confront her it's your bathroom and she should respect your wishes where you have things in your house even if it was sanitary products.

My DM was the same when I was little it was like something to be ashamed off. She used to hide he sanitary products and if I caught her going to the bathroom with one in her hand I was about 3 and just would ask her what it is she would snap at me as if it wasn't something I should be asking.

I have them on show in my house as its nothing to be ashamed off and my son and daughter have asked what there for so I've explained in a child friendly way.
My MIL is great with things like this she always has them on display and said to me if I ever need any there in the bathroom in the basket in plain site. My mum would never dream of it. She never even told me about periods or anything. I asked her once why wasn't I told more she just said because she wasn't told by her mum.
I said I wouldn't be like that with my daughters if I ever had children.
Periods are a pain in the arse as it is than having to think its wrong to have them in the bathroom on display. There is nothing wrong with it.
I got sick of forgetting to get pads from my bedroom where I had to keep them. Sit down to have a wee and to change and then oh shit I've forgot it. So have to wedge a bit of loo roll in me knickers so I could run out to my bedroom. I then thought stuff it I'm keeping them in the bathroom in the draw. She must of come round a bit coz her were in there too after a few weeks.

Her poor daughter.

That's really odd! I leave my sanitary products out so if a female guest needs them she can just grab them. What a life to be terrified some sanitary products will scar her children.

Not read the entire thread because I'm a terrible person, but a) she sounds bonkers, and b) does she have one of those dollies with a big skirt to cover her loo roll?

I think the friend is a bit mad and very rude for moving your stuff

BUT

I don’t keep mine out. I dont want a reminder of periods when I’m not bleeding. That’s not that unusual surely?

I love the idea of over 50s being embarrassed by pads etc .
Most senior ladies houses that I work in have enough Tena packs to build Donald Trump's Mexican wall. And the men come a close second.

Yep. Over 50s, incontinent the lot of them.

Pfffft Tenaladies! I just sit on a seatless dining chair with a bucket underneath it Take a Break top tip style when I'm at home, and slosh about in rubber knickers when I'm out.
Saves on dithering whether to display my hygiene products or not.

YANBU your friend is a CF.

My mum is like this because the men shouldn't have to see them. Apparently it's not fair on them. Right ok then. Poor little men being reminded of female biology.

I legit love the San Pro selection box I've created in the drawer next to the loo, so convenient! 😄

Chocodrops. Wish there was a like button for your goodie drawer

I think it's odd to have them on an open shelf when expecting visitors. I wouldn't display my mooncup, lube, canestan cream, leg wax or cloth pads, because they're personal. Nobody wants to be reminded of your periods when they use your loo.