AIBU to have sanitary products on display?

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And by on display I don’t mean on a golden stand under a spotlight but on a shelf in my bathroom.
We have had friends and there DC (dd 8 and ds 6) to stay this weekend.
I have a box of tampons and packet of sanitary towels on a shelf in the bathroom. I went in and noticed they weren’t there, after hunting found them in the cupboard under the sink with the cleaning products, I put them back on the shelf. Just assumed it was DH who has form for throwing things in the nearest cupboard when ‘tidying’. Went back to the loo later that day and noticed again they had been put in the cupboard.
I went back in the lounge and said to DH, can you stop putting my stuff away in the cleaning cupboard. That’s when friend pipes up ‘oh I moved them I don’t think it is appropriate for them to be out especially where the DC can see them’. I was quite perplexed by this, but carried on the rest of the weekend, sanitary products hidden away as to not scar the children.

AIBU to think this is a totally bizarre way of thinking??? Firstly it’s my bathroom, can have things out if I want and find it rude that someone would put them away but secondly to think it is inappropate for children to see them, especially as she has a DD who is 8!
It’s a silly thing but the more I think about it the more flabbergasted I am!!

Also not sure why you have decided sex related items are only to be kept in the bedroom?

I'm just explaining how my home is organised.

As it happens I don't have much on display in my bathroom either (including sanpro). But if you can bear to have loo roll out, I don't see that sanpro is any different.

I think it's reasonable to keep condoms out of sight because that's information about your sex life that you might not want to share. But women of a certain age have periods. Why hide that?

LaurieMarlow people of a certain age in relationships also have sex...

Lol. She would hate my boys. They all know what a period is.

I dare you to get your batshit friend some of these for her next birthday: tampon macarons. They even come with a little blue shoelace sweet as the string: www.ohlala.co/shop-macarons/bloody-good-period-tampon-macarons

(I’ve had some, they were very nice!)

And I’d make a table centrepiece out of all the sanitary products in the house!

Loo roll is different to sanpro though.

Loo roll is used by everyone, several times a day.
Sanpro is used by only one family member for 5 days a month, so doesn't need to be out constantly.
OH uses fungal nail paint for his toenails ( grim I know), once a week, he is the only family member that uses it, so again it doesn't need to be out.
It is stored in the cupboard with the sanpro.
Along with bulk loo rolls.

YANBU.

But tell her not to worry, because you are sent to a basic hut outside of your village anyway during your period to avoid shame besmirching the good name of your family.

Silly. One of my parents mothers made sure she always at them on display as she wanted her boys to know woman used sanitary products.

people of a certain age in relationships also have sex.

Yeah and you can deduce certain things from the presence of condoms (still fertile, not ttc, possibly not on other contraception) that you may not want others to know.

I actually wouldn't have an issue if anyone saw a box of condoms in my house, but I think it's more reasonable to hide these than sanpro.

YANBU, I mine on toilet window ledge. And they are displayed in a little basket in my church's toilet too, surely if it's ok to do in church it's socially acceptable.

Honestly I think if you argue for it being fine for sanpro to be on display you can't argue against condoms being out. You can deduce alot by them too (not pregnant, still fertile etc.) Neither is anything to be ashamed of but equally most people know there is no need to have either in plain view.

Yanbu they are a normal product and if children do ask theres always an age appropriate way to explain things building it up with more info as they get older. They aren't going to be damaged by knowing what a tampon is. Mine are usually on the bathroom windowsill I've never given it a second thought

Older people (50+) can be embarrassed IMO

Give me a fecking break!

My point is neither periods nor sex are something to be ashamed of, but you don't leave your condoms around in plain view.

Because you dont go the loo muliple times a day to have sex.
Because sex is between partners, not anyone elses business, its not a medical/personal hygiene necessity. Therefore its practical and private to keep sex stuff in your bedroom wtf would you keep condoms and sex toys etc on view in a bathroom?

You are being deliberately goady.

I used to keep a packet of tampons and a packet of towels on the bottom shelf of my bookcase at work. They were left there so that any female member of staff could help herself in an emergency (in theory there was a vending machine in the ladies' loo, but it never worked)

I'm intrigued by the "attract germs" comment

Aren't we all?

“Older people (50+) can be embarrassed IMO”

Oh bore off.

She was rude to move them in your bathroom & she’s weird hiding them from her kids.

I don’t have them ‘out’, they’re in the bathroom cupboard, if I need a fresh tampon or pad, I take one out when I go in the bathroom - I don’t find that onerous. But I don’t have the nail clippers, germoline, plasters or anything else ‘self care’ out either. It’s more than just being tidy (although that’s a good part of it, I can’t stand clutter) it’s about privacy for me and what I feel is ‘more plesant’ for others I don’t need all and sundry to know I’ve got my period or the variety of things I use when I do and I don’t expect visitors really want to see it either. But they’re welcome to help themselves from the cupboard if they need to.

I don’t give a toss what anyone else does in their bathroom ‍🤷🏻‍♀️

@Ifangyow That's just reminded me of a formula 1 driver, who used to put sanpro in his helmet during hot races to catch the sweat!

Older people 50+ are embarrassed!
To whoever made this comment I hope when you reach 50 you'll remember this and realise exactly how twattish this comment is.
Op your friend is a fool and very rude to rearrange your stuff.

I'm also interested in the attract germs comment.

What a cheek!!! Your house your rules,mine aren't out simply for the fact I have a built in cupboards under my bathroom sink,my dd'sknow exactly what they are for & they are 9 & 11 but they've known for years X my ds who's three has seen them in various boxes in the cupboard,he did decide to get two Tampax out take them apart & push them around the bathroom floor thinking they was little mice😂I just smiled told him he had far more lovely toys to play with & popped them in the bin...didn't see the big deal so I didn't make one out of it X hence he hasn't bothered to touch them again😀

My sanpro (washable panty liners because I'm ancient and infertile) is in the cupboard but that's only because the cupboards are the only place to put things in our tiny bathroom, and it's actually easy enough to reach into it from the loo while sitting.

Though I do have a box of tampons and a box of panty liners clearly marked for guests and wouldn't hesitate to put them out if I had guests who might need them and feel uncomfortable going into the cupboards. Ridiculous to get prim about it - the bog roll sits out on a spike as it doesn't fit in the cupboards.

And just as the above is in the room in which it is used, the condoms are stored in the bedside drawer in case of getting lucky and to protect them from chewing dogs.

siameasy. Just curious, how old are you?

I’m nearer 50 than 20, but I forgive you. I remember when 50 seemed ancient! 🤣

The closer it gets, the younger it looks 😊

Just looked at my 50+ husband who buys me, his 50+ wife, my San Pro when he goes shopping at the supermarket each week. Nope, no embarrassment from him.

Sanitary towels were a huge no in my household growing up, something to be hidden away out of sight.

I think it had something to do with me, age 5, turning myself into a robot by covering myself head to foot with them, my mother was not thrilled 😀

Both my kids have grown up with my heavy periods. One boy one girl. I don’t hide and know they know when I have blood as they call it. My daughter will not ever get a surprise in her pants she knows all about it and I hope my son has empathy. He has seen me in great pain.

Anyone who is 50 was born in 1969. On average they started having periods in 1982/1983. That is 1982/1983 not 1882.

She got a daughter and is having this attitude towards periods? I feel sad for the little girl.

Rampant rabbit and glow in the dark condoms front and centre for next time. Don't forget the gimp mask on the back of the door.