To cry over a haircut 😭

[ISaidDemiMoore]

I went in for a bob type hair cut and came out with the back and one of the sides completely cut short short. My hairdresser is usually so so good and I honestly don’t know what must have come over her. I showed her pictures of exactly what I wanted and I had plenty of hair to work with. Now, every time I look in the mirror or touch my hair I want to cry. It didn’t look so bad at the time or maybe I was just in shock so I made all of the right noises and comments when it was finished. She even asked me if she’d cut it too short and I was like, noooooo it’s fine. Why did I say that? I even went back the next morning because my fringe wasn’t quite sitting right and I asked her to trim a bit off and I STILL didn’t say anything. In fact I was telling her the opposite and how easy life will be with this new hair cut. Seriously what is wrong with me, maybe I was still in denial and trying to convince myself. Problem is, she is a lovely lady. She’s probably in her late 40’s or early 50’s and has a daughter about my age, always asks after my kids, remembers their names and what they like and she is just generally so friendly. So I feel like I can’t say anything. Would saying anything or emailing the salon actually be worth it, aside from just making her feel shit? But then I think, I feel so shit, I’m left with this hair I hate and she has no idea. It looks ok from the front but awful from the back. I wouldn’t have minded this much but in a couple of weeks I’m having a reunion with some old friends and I wanted to look good and feel confident.

What should I do? Is it worth contacting the salon or do I just try and get over it. Especially as I’d already said it was fine 🙄

This happened to me once. I asked the hairdresser for a trim (she’d cut my hair into the style I had which I loved and wanted to maintain) and I came out with a crop cut up round my ears, short at the back and a fringe to my eyebrows. I didn’t cry but my mum did.
Was a mess but it grew out. I didn’t complain to the hairdresser but I never went back.

spirited yes going heavier on the eye make up is definitely helping. I think that’s another reason why it didn’t look so bad those first couple of days, I had more make up on. Now it’s back to the grind of being at home with the baby and rushing around getting my eldest to school etc, I catch a glimpse in the mirror and it just isn’t even me.

I wonder what happens in these instances where the style asked for is so different from the reality!

Absolutely love your new cut! It's fab.

Most hairdressers are shit. I've stopped trying to get "haircuts" and just have my hair long as they always find new inventive ways to fuck it up. Once, I asked for a long bob, one length all over (postpartum hair loss) and ended up with a tribute to Kurt Cobain, longer in the back and with layers around the face. When I went to another hairdresser to fix it, she said: 'I can see how that happened - one length all over is very difficult to do'. Jesus wept, I would've thought that was part of hairdressing 101! Another time, I asked for a bob that was longer in the front and ended up with choppy, thinned out, wispy layers that flipped outwards like a duck's tail at the back and were impossible to style into a bob. It took me two years to grow that mess out. There was a big chunk missing on one side from her over-zealous chopping.

I think you have a right to get the haircut you asked for and you would have had a right to ask for a refund, but I honestly don't think a haircut you don't like is ever worth getting really upset about. It will grow back and it's highly unlikely that anyone will treat you differently because of it, but if they do, they're a prat and should be ignored.

foxtiger of course the op has a right to get upset. Hair is on your fucking head!

I'm not sure how a hairdresser mixes up a bob with a pixie crop....

Having said that, it will grow out OP and I'd leave it well alone. Take multivitamins and keep your protein levels up to help it grow.

And find a new hairdresser. Ask around for recommendations. Once your trust has gone, it won't come back.

Interesting how many no longer use a hairdresser. Do you all trim your own?

I've been there @ISaidDemiMoore! I asked for a graduated bob and the hairdresser cut a severe fringe that was about an inch above my eyebrows and a straight shoulder length bob (absolutely not what I wanted)

The cheeky cow then blamed me when I said it wasn't what I wanted, told me I "must have low eyebrows" and refused to either fix it or refund

Unfortunately you can't fix a too short hair cut(to make it what you originally wanted) and waiting for it to grow is the only thing for it.

Yadnbu and totally justified to have a cry!

Ahh, OP, I feel your pain. I had this twice. The first time I had short, spiky, messy hair, which was about the same length all over. I just asked for a trim but what I got was a cut really short at the sides and back, piled up on the top, with two long spikes of hair down on my cheeks. I looked like Prince Charming. Literally all anyone said when I went back to work was 'oh!'.
Second time I had shoulder length hair and asked for a long graduated bob. Explained that my hair tends to spring up because it's curly so they'd need to cut it longer than they thought. They didn't. My hair sprang up. It was by my ears. I literally looked like I had a mushroom on my head. You live and learn.

You could be ne this week.

I had shoulder length hair. I said “don’t take anything off the length. Just make it neat and maybe add a few layers in”

What I got is an ear length shaggy thing. No idea what it actually is. But it isn’t very me. There are two weird longer bits that stick our under my ears which he twiddled and twiddled like a moustache.

I am of the opinion it’s onky hair but I also don’t know how he got it so wrong. Several people have told me it’s njce though so it is growing on me. The styling of it was awful though.

It is awful when it goes wrong OP. So I sympathise

Interesting how many no longer use a hairdresser. Do you all trim your own?

Every so often snip the split ends, my hair is long, no fringe. Easy to manage.

@Fishdoggy I keep it long and get a couple of centimeters trimmed off at the hairdressers every 3-4 months. Hard to get that wrong.

RoboticSealpup same here. Trim my fringe myself.

I really feel for you OP. I’m sure it looks ok but nonetheless it’s not what you wanted.

So many hairdressers are a lethal combination of don’t listen and plain incompetence. I lost faith in them years ago.

I seem to have spent many many years of my life growing out horrific haircuts. I’ve also sat there and said it was ok and cried at home. I hate hair salons, I feel vulnerable and on edge. Sat there with my crumpled picture and feeling a complete berk. Why anyone thinks going to a salon is enjoyable is beyond me.

Sometimes when it’s been cut too short it’s the initial shock that makes you feel so panicked. In a few days when you have had a chance to do it your way and get used to it it might begin to feel a bit more part of you.

However the trust is now gone. She simply didn’t listen, you even showed her a picture ffs. There’s no way the two styles are similar. It makes me so cross. I really feel hairdressing needs better regulation.

Take multivitamins and keep your protein levels up to help it grow.

That's not going to make any difference.

I really feel hairdressing needs better regulation.

Yes to this.

One thing that bothers me is that all hairdressers seem to be “expert” in al cuts. No! If they specialised in one style and you went to that person for that style, wouldn’t it be better?

i would have been furious OP, you did not ask for a short cut.

I would ring the hairdressers and say how unhappy you are with this, you MUST and ask for your money back.

It is not acceptable to do this when you have not asked for it. However it will grow out soon no no long term damage done.

Hairdressers can be arsehol;es in my opinion, I often wonder why they do destructive things but when they do I make sure they know straight away they will never see me again.

I'd also put a shitty review on their website.

My hairdresser once cut my bottom length hair that was my pride and joy to just below the shoulders without my permission or knowledge when I asked for 1 inch to be taken off. She said she didn't understand what one inch was - I said it's not three fucking feet in front of everyone in there and demanded compensation of £200 or small claims court. I got it.

On another occasion a hairdresser ignored my instructions of a very small fringe trim and cut it so it was 2 inches long. I looked like a clown for weeks.

I’m a hairdresser with 9 years experience and yes you should defo contact the salon if your not happy it’s not okay to ask somthing then get a completly different style!! Try tucking the short side around your ear and get abit if lift in the longer side that might help x

Like in all professions, I guess some people just aren’t very good and some are vindictive. A “meangirl” hairdresser can’t last long though, surely, because some of those clients will really really tell her in no uncertain terms owhat they think of her work...

‘Meangirl Hairdresser’ never herd of that one 🙈

Ha I've got the opposite problem! Went for a drastic haircut today too...wanted it more like your picture 2 but got your picture 1. Maybe we should swap heads!!

I had a bad cut recently. Had been to the hairdresser loads but he went rogue. It looked ok when he did it as it’s blowdried well, but after a week or so looked awful and I had an emergency re-cut somewhere else a couple of weeks later. Was more the back than the front though.
I’ve had versions of bobs for ages and it’s amazing how wrong some hairdressers get it

I think hairdressers should be open and honest about their abilities.

There should be recent honest reviews, good and bad, with the photo evidence to back it up. A Tripadvisor for hairdressers. I would like to see how good they are at the sort of cut I want before I go.

I don’t care if they’ve won some artsy colouring award for a photo shoot and a gorgeous model. That’s not how real people need their hair to look every day. I want to know if they really do listen, really can cut with skill and without assumptions that you want tons loped off without even asking.

People say ‘find a hairdresser and get a good cut’. But it’s totally pot luck trying to find one and tbh many many of them do not know what they’re doing.

Mine grows at a glacial pace so growing out disasters takes forever and knocks your confidence horribly.

Yes, previous work in a portfolio, like cosmetic surgery.

kaylsbirks probably because I just invented it! They’ve got to exist though, right.