To cry over a haircut 😭

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I went in for a bob type hair cut and came out with the back and one of the sides completely cut short short. My hairdresser is usually so so good and I honestly don’t know what must have come over her. I showed her pictures of exactly what I wanted and I had plenty of hair to work with. Now, every time I look in the mirror or touch my hair I want to cry. It didn’t look so bad at the time or maybe I was just in shock so I made all of the right noises and comments when it was finished. She even asked me if she’d cut it too short and I was like, noooooo it’s fine. Why did I say that? I even went back the next morning because my fringe wasn’t quite sitting right and I asked her to trim a bit off and I STILL didn’t say anything. In fact I was telling her the opposite and how easy life will be with this new hair cut. Seriously what is wrong with me, maybe I was still in denial and trying to convince myself. Problem is, she is a lovely lady. She’s probably in her late 40’s or early 50’s and has a daughter about my age, always asks after my kids, remembers their names and what they like and she is just generally so friendly. So I feel like I can’t say anything. Would saying anything or emailing the salon actually be worth it, aside from just making her feel shit? But then I think, I feel so shit, I’m left with this hair I hate and she has no idea. It looks ok from the front but awful from the back. I wouldn’t have minded this much but in a couple of weeks I’m having a reunion with some old friends and I wanted to look good and feel confident.

What should I do? Is it worth contacting the salon or do I just try and get over it. Especially as I’d already said it was fine 🙄

I’ve just had a baby too patchworkelmer and I think I’m going to feel the same way 😭

This is the reason I never get my hair cut!!! It happened to me once and I was beside myself! Scarred for life. I hope your hair grows nice and quick for you OP x

I would change hairdressers definitely the next time you go for a cut.

The trust has been broken and you don’t want to go to the hairdressers shitting yourself that it’s not going to be right. 😔

Hope your hair grows as fast as possible!

oh I really feel for you, it is horrid. I tried a new local salon but the girl took thinning scissors and I was nearly bald on 1 side. She died it bright blond all over instead of a few natural highlights. I cried. It looked like she had hacked the sides- even the new hairdresser I go to said that. It took 2 years to grow back.
I went back to the hacker and complained. She refused to listen and said it was what I asked for. A few bad reviews on her pages and I was called to give a refund. It was 2 years until it grew back and the money doesn't make up for it. So sorry OP. Hope you get it sorted.

I always want to cry after I get my hair cut
*Always
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Give it a couple of days see if you like it more as you become used to it

I think the shorter cut is much more chic than what you asked for

I feel for you, honestly. In 2002 I asked for my long bob to be shortened and ended up with what I can only describe as the Medieval Peasant Look. Fringe half an inch long and a bob, but just about on a level with the bottom of my ears. My son's baptism was the next day and there was no way to get it fixed.
I cried too, and I haven't been to a hairdresser since.

Why on earth do people say they love it when they hate it??? Is this some weird English thing? I think it is. I don't know anyone from anywhere else that does that. How is the stylist supposed to know how much she messed up if you never tell her. You have to go quickly though otherwise it will start to grow and not look so radically different from the picture you took. Just be honest ffs. Tell her you were too embarrassed to say anything but you are desperately upset and you need her to know how far from what you asked she gave you.

I think you should homand talk to her.

Tell her that you’re sorry you said you liked it, but you were so shocked you didn’t know what to say and you thought you’d get used to it. But that it’s still really upsetting you. Show her again the picture you took in and say it looks nothing like the photo you showed her.

She can’t ‘undo’ what she’s done, but the very least the salon can offer you is to style it, trim it, whatever needs doing until you get the length back. The VERY least.

Go on, you can do it 💐

Can you get DH to take some actual photos for us (you can colour/blur) your face out in them if you really want to).

From the pic you showed it looks like you're pretty, with delicate features. Pretty people can get away without having to hide behind their hair like us lesser beings!
I actually really like it. It looks layered and textured, but it's more of a crop than a bob, definitely. I do think the bob in the picture is too short and makes the back of the neck look a bit...naked.
You'll probably find it really easy to care for. A bit of gel run through it in a morning, no need to bother with straighteners and you're ready to go.

Papergirl1968 the picture is not of the OP. It's an example of something similar.

Yep, looking at it again, the bob is a bit "pudding basin."
It might not be quite what you expected or asked for but I do think it's lovely.
(And quite proud of myself for sounding like I know what I'm talking about despite looking like I've been dragged through a hedge backwards

Oh god that sound sounds awful miniegg. You were so brave to go back and confront her too. Love the nickname you gave her, pretty tame considering

This is the problem. My hairdresser is so lovely, she’d probably be so upset that I’m so upset! I’m annoyed that she screwed up and I’m annoyed that it means I’m not going to see her again and that I have to find someone else, which is always so hard. My DH, who is pretty fussy about his hair and has never had a haircut he doesn’t like said that he always tells his hairdresser to take it slow when cutting length. I think I’ll have to remember to do the same next time.

Oops, well if it looks anything like that second pic you'll be fine!

And yes Solly, it's clearly a weird English thing, like when someone mistakes your baby girl for a boy, you just go along with it and even give your imaginary son a made up name like Keith rather than correct them.
That thread about baby Keith the other day had me howling.

I had a home hairdresser (3 under threes - hard to get out) who gave me highlights with this new method - squeeze it out of a tube. Fantastic. Looked like it had been squeezed out of a tube. I was being a bridesmaid in a few days.

So after a couple of days, I got an emergency appointment with a reliable hairdresser, DH took time off to look after DC. I took my dress and headgear and the lovely woman redyed it and recut it to go with my outfit, styled it, sprayed it like concrete and it survived a 5 hour journey, a night's sleep and looked perfect on the photos. Always gone there since.

Yanbu.
A hairdresser messed my hair up 18 months ago. I wanted a shoulder length trim and she took 3-4 inches off. Result, my curly hair pinging up even shorter . I wore a hat or wrap scarf all winter until it got some length back.

You’ll have to just let it grow, OP. Sorry. How could she not give you a bob when you showed her the photo?

And this is why my hair is bra strap length and pretty boring. I’ve been where you are now and I don’t have the stomach to go back again any time soon. Like you, I just had to get on and let it grow.

Maybe it’s an English thing? I have no idea, I don’t want to speak on behalf of the entire country, haha! 😂 But I am a people pleaser and I hate confrontation. I’m ok with that, but it makes moments like these so much more frustrating. I remember a few years ago getting a haircut that wasn’t quite right, summoning up the bravery to say politely, it wasn’t really what I asked for and the hairdresser had a face like thunder and became incredibly short with me.

Yeah neither of those pictures are me. I should have been clearer. The second picture is obviously styled and cut beautifully and suits the model really well. It was purely to demonstrate the length my hair had been cut to. It looks nowhere near as nice as that.

Could you get highlights to break it up a bit?

I used to have cropped hair when I was younger and thinner and found myself going a bit more obvious on the eye make up to make myself feel more feminine.

That's poles apart from the first pic - the layers are really long in the first one, and you can see the side are not short at all like the second one. What possessed her to do something so completely different?? Not much you can do about it now except never go there again.

I know the school of thought is to go back and tell them and give them a chance to sort it, but I've always worked on the basis that they fucked it up once so there's no way I'm giving them another go!

In your shoes I'd find a different hairdresser. Tell them what you'd asked for and why you don't like what you have ended up with - be very specific. Ask them to tell you what would be possible in terms of a tidy it up without taking more length away.

I've done this. Sat there with tears brimming but saying 'oh, yes, it's lovely'.

This was about 20 years ago mind, and have not been to a hairdresser since. Not the only story I've heard about cutting hair too short.

Can you spike it up? Like Emma Willis?

I’ve had two bad hair experiences. One where they burnt my hair and it took five years to grow out. I’ve had the same hairstyle (just straight) since because it impacted my college years.

The second more recently where my usual ;been going for a year) hairdresser cut my fringe short like stubble. I have no idea what possessed her except she’d asked which school my son had got into and I told her and she told me her son didn’t get in. I swear that is when she cut!

I have not gone back, I won’t go back. She laughed when I said it was short and said it was in fashion.

I cried and wore headbands to cover it. I tell everyone to avoid the salon (her salon).

My sympathies OP. May it grow quickly. Buy hats, look for extensions, eat food that makes hair grow healthy!