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Why does my neighbour park like an a-hole? (Diagram)

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:11

We've only been living in this house a month and it's our first house so maybe we're being UR, idk.

Basically we live in the end house and have two vehicles, one long van and my little car. If possible, DH parks his van right outside our house cause expensive tools etc, and I'll park either next to him if there's space, or a little further away if there isn't. (Or i occasionally park infront of DH's van depending on how bad my SPD is that day, but there is still plently of room for neighbour to get out)
Now the past couple of weeks, CF neighbour has been leaving about a 6ft gap behind her car, so she's quite close to either my car or DH's van, and not using her entire parking space.

This means that DH can't get out of his space properly, and luckily today my car was parked next to his so he could move it to get out. If it had been a neighbours car, he would have had to knock on their door and ask them to move cause he wouldn't have been about to get out, or ask CF to move her car.

So, is she being UR or not?
At first i thought there may not have been enough room for her to get out, but I've seen her leave her space several times with no difficulty when both DH's van and my car are parked in front of her!

And if she is, what can i do about it?
Would i be UR to do the exact same bloody thing she does so she'll have difficulty getting out?
I'm 7 and a half months pregnant with severe SPD at times, also very hormonal and just want to shout at her to park properly (however understand this is not very neighbourly).
We're also not the only house with two vechicles, incase that's an issue.

Any help would be appreciated 😊

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namechanger2019 · 28/01/2019 08:13

Where is the diagram? 🤣

Original poster
Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:14

Whoops wouldn't attach!

Why does my neighbour park like an a-hole? (Diagram)
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Jimjamjong · 28/01/2019 08:16

Speak to her first. I think she probably is annoyed that your DH has a big van but possibly if you go speak to her and tell her you have mobility issues (perhaps bring a cake round too), she will be a bit nicer. People get very hung up on parking and particularly near their house but if you are nice she might be nice back.

howhowhow · 28/01/2019 08:17

Have another look. Be sure that how you and your husband park won't be causing her an inconvenience (or even a view of a big van). If you are sure you are doing nothing wrong go an speak to her nicely. No need to shout or be rude just explain your predicament. You might even find out what her issue is. I get you are pregnant, I had Spd too but it's not a trump everything card. You sound seriously stressed and would do well do be a bit more zen Smile

blueskiesandforests · 28/01/2019 08:17

Does the van block her view making pulling out russian roulette with passing traffic?

Our neighbors have a stupid ling wheel base very high van which they insist on parking on the road outside our house instead of on their driveway, which they use for a small car although it's easily big enough for the van. The van makes it impossible to see properly to pull out of our drive and would make it impossible to see pulling out if parked close to it on the road.

There's only one can in our entire village and it has to be parked exactly where it blocks visibility! I hate it! High vans are a real annoyance in residential areas, she may feel you're the CFs.

ForTheLoveOfDoughnuts · 28/01/2019 08:17

It looks like if your neighbour parks further back they will be blocked in?

blueskiesandforests · 28/01/2019 08:18
  • long not ling, van not can...
TrixieFranklin · 28/01/2019 08:18

I don't see an issue really. If she parks as far back as possible she could easily get blocked in.

TheDowagerCuntess · 28/01/2019 08:20

Don't go shouting at her. If she has a reasonable explanation - even if she didn't realise - you just come across as unhinged.

Just go over and chat like a normal human being, friendly like, and sort it out, woman to woman.

Worth a try, right.

Auntiepatricia · 28/01/2019 08:20

I’m a bit confused, so today your car was blocking him? How did that happen?

EnidAlexandraRollins · 28/01/2019 08:20

Difficult to be 100% from the diagram but I suspect I would park where your neighbour parks with the gap behind me to avoid the risk of being blocked in.

MichelleM30 · 28/01/2019 08:20

So she's not technically blocking him in, it would be you if you are squeezing into the small space she is leaving. Is she parked further back you could park further back allowing the van to get out. Is that right?

I would just chat the door and politely ask if they could park further back allowing you all to park and get out easily. If you ask nicely they probably will if they are decent but they may well say no.

blueskiesandforests · 28/01/2019 08:21

From the diagram I can't see anything wrong with where she parks.

Is there a house in between you and the neighbor whose parking you don't like? (I won't call her CF because I don't think that she is and suspect your van is the problem).

Where do the occupants of the house between you park?

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:22

The van doesn't block any view at all, it's directly opposite her and against a fence, the only way for her to get out is by coming out to her left and around the corner out of the road, so she's got full visability.

And sorry it's not a very good diagram, but she's definitely not blocked in if she parks in her soace properly!

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TheDowagerCuntess · 28/01/2019 08:24

What's in between your house and her house?

babysleep4 · 28/01/2019 08:24

Probably sick of he sight of a massive work van. Can't he park elsewhere?

Anonanonanariston · 28/01/2019 08:25

Assuming the rectangle next to the 6ft gap is another parking space, I would do as she does. If she parked in the 6ft gap, someone parked in the space next to her, if someone parked in the gap in front she would be blocked in. Likely happened before so now she parks forwards to avoid it happening again

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:25

I'm not actually going to shout at her, I'm not a maniac.

But i haven't explained this very well, my car was parked beside DH's this morning, not infront of it like in the diagram, but i do sometimes park infront of it. This isnt a problem, dh just moves my car and then goes and gets on with his day. But my car was in the space next to him which he then had to move, because neighbour had parked so far forwards he couldn't get out!

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kaldefotter · 28/01/2019 08:26

From the diagram, I don't think she's being a CF. Where she parks, there's grass behind and to the side of the car. If she reverses right back to where you want her to park, she's at risk of being boxed in, by you or someone else. Given that you and DH have just moved in with a huge van and a car, her parking seems normal.

Have a chat with her about parking, reassure her that you won't box her in, but definitely don't go into the conversation with a high-handed attitude that she's being a CF.

TheClaifeCrier · 28/01/2019 08:29

Probably sick of he sight of a massive work van. Can't he park elsewhere?

Yes, mustn't have the working classes visible now must we? Hmm

kaldefotter · 28/01/2019 08:30

Anonanon has a good point... is that a parking space beside the blue box? If so, she could be boxed in really easily if she reversed in to where you want her to park.

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:31

A diagram of this morning... dh couldn't get his van out without moving my car which was next to him.

Why does my neighbour park like an a-hole? (Diagram)
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Original poster
Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:32

Yes it is a parking space next to her, which another neighbour uses.
But we don't box her in if she reverses into her full space

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Onlyjoinedforthisthread · 28/01/2019 08:32

By beside it do you mean in front or behind or actually to the side? Surely you are blocking him on too why did he park so close to your car or you do close to his can that he couldn't get out? It sounds like your parking is as bad

Claw001 · 28/01/2019 08:34

You say her space and your space, are your spaces marked out? Belong to you and her? Or is this a public, anyone can park anywhere?