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Why does my neighbour park like an a-hole? (Diagram)

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:11

We've only been living in this house a month and it's our first house so maybe we're being UR, idk.

Basically we live in the end house and have two vehicles, one long van and my little car. If possible, DH parks his van right outside our house cause expensive tools etc, and I'll park either next to him if there's space, or a little further away if there isn't. (Or i occasionally park infront of DH's van depending on how bad my SPD is that day, but there is still plently of room for neighbour to get out)
Now the past couple of weeks, CF neighbour has been leaving about a 6ft gap behind her car, so she's quite close to either my car or DH's van, and not using her entire parking space.

This means that DH can't get out of his space properly, and luckily today my car was parked next to his so he could move it to get out. If it had been a neighbours car, he would have had to knock on their door and ask them to move cause he wouldn't have been about to get out, or ask CF to move her car.

So, is she being UR or not?
At first i thought there may not have been enough room for her to get out, but I've seen her leave her space several times with no difficulty when both DH's van and my car are parked in front of her!

And if she is, what can i do about it?
Would i be UR to do the exact same bloody thing she does so she'll have difficulty getting out?
I'm 7 and a half months pregnant with severe SPD at times, also very hormonal and just want to shout at her to park properly (however understand this is not very neighbourly).
We're also not the only house with two vechicles, incase that's an issue.

Any help would be appreciated 😊

OP posts:
MichelleM30 · 28/01/2019 08:53

Can your dh reverse the van in to the space then he can drive out between you and the other car without having to reverse?

Porridgeoat · 28/01/2019 08:53

Your DH needs to park where you park. Either place

Seeline · 28/01/2019 08:54

Are spaces actually marked on the ground?
Are people actually meant to park at the end of the cul-de-sac - that area is often need to turn vehicles round.

Original poster
Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:56

@MichelleM30 DH does reverse in so he can drive straight out, but he couldn't get out this morning without moving my car, as neighbour had parked too close

OP posts:
Original poster
Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:57

@Seeline spaces aren't maked anywhere on the whole road

OP posts:
Onlyjoinedforthisthread · 28/01/2019 08:59

If your husband couldn't get out this morning then he hadn't left enough space behind him to give himself manoeuvring room or you had parked too close to the side of him.

MyKingdomForBrie · 28/01/2019 08:59

You're not being unreasonable. She has clearly decided that you are though, and what she's doing is designed to stop you parking both your vehicles on your drive. Sounds like she's already negative towards you, so it's definitely worth trying a chat going in with super polite super constructive attitude on, but be prepared to be met with negativity!

SlinkyDinkyDoo · 28/01/2019 09:04

Why can't your husband par a little further 'forward' to occupy the space that you sometimes park in. Then he could drive out regardless every day. You can park where you usually park. Or is that still not enough space - no idea how much 'swing' a van leaves!

Jimjamjong · 28/01/2019 09:05

With the 2 bits of backstory where she hasn't been very nice, I would just forget the nice approach. Your DH can also park his van a bit more forward so he isn't stuck in. Parking is first come first served.
If she starts shouting again, perhaps video her with your cell phone so you have evidence that she is trying to intimidate you.
I hope she calms down a bit, with a young baby you will have much more important things to deal with than an untitled neighbor.

EdkenePomtufe · 28/01/2019 09:05

I think your neighbour is parking perfectly legally and reasonably unless there are painted marked and allocated spaces which doesn't seem to be the case.

I think your DH should park about 6ft further forward out of the corner, leaving a gap but not enough gap for anyone to get in and park behind him. Then when he wants to pull out he can easily reverse into that gap and get a decent angle for pulling out into the road.

Public roads can be parked on by any road-taxed vehicle and you are unreasonable to try to control anyone else's parking decisions.

BowBeau · 28/01/2019 09:06

If the neighbour parks in the blue space on the first diagram, it looks like someone else can park in the purple space and block her in? So she is NBU to park where she can get out.

I see there’s a house between you and the neighbour. Where do they park?

Jimjamjong · 28/01/2019 09:06

entitled*

Onlyjoinedforthisthread · 28/01/2019 09:08

MyKingdomForBrie
The OP doesn't have a drive

BitOutOfPractice · 28/01/2019 09:14

Would your DH be able to get out if he were in a normal car? Because I suspect she's parking like that because she's annoyed at having to look at a hulking great van out of her window.

CantWaitToRetire · 28/01/2019 09:14

I agree with PP, the neighbour is probably avoiding parking in the blue space in fear of someone else parking in the purple space and blocking them in. What's the shape next to the blue space? Is that another parking bay?

empa · 28/01/2019 09:15

The person who lives in between you doesn't park outside their own house for a reason.

Think about it.

SoupDragon · 28/01/2019 09:25

All this "she might get blocked in" is a red herring. You don't deliberately park so close to someone else that you block them in, which is what she seems to be doing.

Justaboy · 28/01/2019 09:26

Divgirl2 I'm in the process of moving because the number of people parking their work vans in my street has caused parking to be an absolute nightmare

Tell me about it where my DD lives its a Edwardian street thats got more than its fair share of long wheelbase vans a small lorry and a couple of Camper vans too. Come home much after half six and you have to park a street or so away:(

What makes it much worse if that when fully parkjed theres no bloody way you could get a fire engine down it or an ambulance even, in a normal passenger car you have to go very carefully.

What compounds it further is that theres a school at the end of the road. Why! O damm! why does every one have to have a chelsea tractor to bring their children to school?

Just why!

DippyDuck123 · 28/01/2019 09:27

Agree with @blueskiesandforests.

Sorry @Whitescarf because you've been the CF parking across the front of your DH van she is now parking defensively to prevent herself being boxed in/ difficulty getting out... or just plain annoyed the rules don't apply to you (sorry about your SPD though!).

Go chat with her and agree not to park in that manner?

goingtotown · 28/01/2019 09:29

You have only been there a month & she’s not used to a large work van being parked outside. Maybe your DH is the CF.

mobyduck · 28/01/2019 09:29

I always think people with giant work vans should just fuck off out of residential areas and park in a lorry park somewhere. Just my view.

ittakes2 · 28/01/2019 09:30

Its likely she is trying to avoid being boxed in - if you park the way your drew your first diagram looks like she would be boxed in. You said you won't box her in...but it doesn't mean other people's guests etc haven't. Just go talk to her and say your hubby's boxed in this morning is there a reason she is parking so far back. Although to be fair - you are saying your hubby has a longish van so maybe he is taking up more room than a normal car and this is part of the issue. She might just be parking where she always has!

DippyDuck123 · 28/01/2019 09:33

When OP parks in front which is side on to her DH van she is not in an allocated space!! she has made her own up which is possibly causing problems for the Neighbour to get out/boxed in. If everyone did the same as OP it would be carnage Hmm

ImPreCis · 28/01/2019 09:50

Never mind both of you, what about the poor buggers in what I assume is a house, in the middle of both of you. No chance of parking outside their own house, and, according to your first diagram, they get to look out over your husbands van and next door neighbours car, and sometimes your car too!
I suggest that your husband parks in the far left hand space, then you can all get at least one car in front of your own house, no one can block him in and no one has to look out over his truck. It is also further away from houses so no one else is woken up at stupid O’clock by the noise from a large Diesel engine.
This may also be aimed at the CF in my road who takes up three spaces with a huge tatty van that takes 8 attempts and tinkering around under the bonnet to start at 5 in the morning! Every fucking morning!

GabsAlot · 28/01/2019 09:52

i would agree with others shes prob been blocked in before so parks forward so it doesnt happen

seing as noone has designated spaces i dont think you can do anything