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Why does my neighbour park like an a-hole? (Diagram)

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:11

We've only been living in this house a month and it's our first house so maybe we're being UR, idk.

Basically we live in the end house and have two vehicles, one long van and my little car. If possible, DH parks his van right outside our house cause expensive tools etc, and I'll park either next to him if there's space, or a little further away if there isn't. (Or i occasionally park infront of DH's van depending on how bad my SPD is that day, but there is still plently of room for neighbour to get out)
Now the past couple of weeks, CF neighbour has been leaving about a 6ft gap behind her car, so she's quite close to either my car or DH's van, and not using her entire parking space.

This means that DH can't get out of his space properly, and luckily today my car was parked next to his so he could move it to get out. If it had been a neighbours car, he would have had to knock on their door and ask them to move cause he wouldn't have been about to get out, or ask CF to move her car.

So, is she being UR or not?
At first i thought there may not have been enough room for her to get out, but I've seen her leave her space several times with no difficulty when both DH's van and my car are parked in front of her!

And if she is, what can i do about it?
Would i be UR to do the exact same bloody thing she does so she'll have difficulty getting out?
I'm 7 and a half months pregnant with severe SPD at times, also very hormonal and just want to shout at her to park properly (however understand this is not very neighbourly).
We're also not the only house with two vechicles, incase that's an issue.

Any help would be appreciated 😊

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pinkdelight · 28/01/2019 08:34

As soon as you said 'long van' I thought I bet she's annoyed by that, whether by the van itself or by the combo of van and your car taking up space. Maybe there have been times when there hasn't been space for her car and she's attributed it to you taking up a lot of room. I've lived next to van owners before and they can be irritating. Not saying it's rational and maybe your DH's parking is always beyond reproach, but parking can make people a bit nuts. She's also allowed to park where she does, just as you two are allowed to take up space, and maybe she just prefers not parking down the dead end hemmed in by the grass. You could try appealing to her better nature, but be prepared for her to say she can park where she likes.

FabulouslyFab · 28/01/2019 08:35

I think you are BU.

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:35

Actually to the side of his van, i wasn't parked too close to his van, there are other car's that were beside mine.

If neighbour had parked in her space fully, dh wouldn't have had a problem coming out of his space this morning.

If someone else had parked there instead of me, which is usually the case, he would have had to have asked someone to move as he wouldn't have been able to get out.

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blueskiesandforests · 28/01/2019 08:36

The second diagram is totally different - in that one she hasn't reversed into an actual parking space in a car park. I was envisioning something different in the first diagram with the houses.

Are the proportions right in the second diagram? If so her parking is odd and worth speaking to her about, but equally your DH's van would be at no more risk if he used a middle bay in which by the look of it it would be impossible to get blocked in - he doesn't need to park off down the street, which is what I assumed at first.

Fluffyears · 28/01/2019 08:37

He could get out but would take s lot of steering to do it. I was once parked and had two cars either end if me with literally an inch at either end between the vehicles , due to them parking like fannies I had to spend 15 minutes edging slowly out of the space. It’s a pain in the arse but it can be done. You don’t own the road and as long as she is legally parked you can talk to her and explain it makes things difficult but you can’t force her.

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:37

Spaces are public, no designated parking at all. Although the neighbour I'm talking about in the diagram came and shouted at DH once cause my car was in his space and she said it's designated parking, but i checked and there definitely isn't designated parking.

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kaldefotter · 28/01/2019 08:37

Your 2nd diagram is completely different to your first one. If you've been parking your car between the van and her car (as per 1st diagram), it looks like you've boxed her in or made it difficult for her to get out.

In turn, she's parking further forward, to avoid being blocked in, and now that's making it difficult for your DH to get his van out.

It's looking more like you're being the CFs, sorry OP.

Have a chat with her, assure her you won't park between the van and her car, so you won't block her in, but ask if she can park a little back to let the van out more easily.

Maybe take cakes. I don't think you've set off on the right foot with the neighbours, OP.

blueskiesandforests · 28/01/2019 08:39

I've just twigged - when you park in the place that you've marked on the first diagram as "occasionally park here" you are not in a space. It's not your DH it's you whose the CF! You must be blocking your neighbor in if diagram 2 is accurate. That is what she's trying to prevent!

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:39

Yes the proportions are right in the second diagram!

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pinkdelight · 28/01/2019 08:39

"But we don't box her in if she reverses into her full space"

But someone else could. Or you could - how would she know you wouldn't? You've only been there a month and box your own van in. Maybe she's parked in that spot for years. There seems to be a few fair reasons why she's doing this that are inconvenient to you but don't equal a-hole.

Bringbackthestripes · 28/01/2019 08:40

I imagine she has parked like that to stop you parking in front of the van making it tight for her to get out of her space. You are probably making her life difficult with a big van and a car if she has been there longer and never had problems before.

But we don't box her in if she reverses into her full space
So you are making it so that she HAS to reverse into her space?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 28/01/2019 08:42

Actually I think kalde is wrong. They have a sort of cul de sac and she and another neighbour use the internal end spaces, you and your DH use other spaces and,given the length of the van, him using the end one makes sense (he won't be poking out into the middle of the road/turning space.

If she parked in the designated space she would not be blocked in, unless she too had a long wheelbase van! She is being a tad precious and probably making a point - you know it's a residential area, works van blah blah

Go and have a chat with her and tell her that she is blocking the van. Ask her why she does that and of there is a better solution than you all pissing each other off and starting a stupid Parking War!

Chocolate1984 · 28/01/2019 08:43

It looks like she parks like that to stop getting blocked in.

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:43

@Blueskiesandforest - that's what i first thought, but I've seen her come out and reverse back in several times which both the van and car in front of her and she's done it very easily!

But i also don't park in front of his van often at all, I've only done it a couple of times.

@kaldefotter - we haven't got off the right foot at all, our first interaction with her was her threatening to call the police cause she was convinced we'd stolen her parcel (we hadn't and she later found it)

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TruffleShuffles · 28/01/2019 08:43

Can you not park your car where your DH parks his van and he park where you have your car in the second picture?

Claudia1980 · 28/01/2019 08:43

Well if you park behind your husbands van then you will block her in, so I’m not surprised she parks where she does.

Divgirl2 · 28/01/2019 08:43

Sorry but I don't think she is BU. She could easily get blocked in judging by the diagram, and you've just moved in with a big giant van and a car. There's very few places that are set up for every house having one vehicle never mind people having two.

I'm in the process of moving because the number of people parking their work vans in my street has caused parking to be an absolute nightmare. There's 6 currently (short street) and my car is in the next street over (which is a nightmare in itself with a baby, poorly DH, and enough ice on the roads to please a penguin).

If you have a front garden get it turned in to a drive way. Problem solved (not an option for me unfortunately).

Claw001 · 28/01/2019 08:45

Parking isn’t designated. There is no ‘your’ spaces and ‘her’ space!

Does neighbour block you in? So you can’t get out? If so, knock and ask her to move? If she does it regularly, have a word.

londonrach · 28/01/2019 08:45

Agree diagrams makes it look like its hard for her to park. You like you blocking her in. Check your deeds as vans and caravans arent always allowed. My neighbour found that recently when the management agency gave him 7 days to move the van.

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:46

@Divgirl2 - not an option of us either.

And DH can't park his van where my car is normally parked, there wouldn't be enough room for the cars to get around him

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:47

@londonrach I've already checked the deeds, van's are definitely allowed, and we're not the only house with a work van either

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BeautifulPossibilities · 28/01/2019 08:47

She's out of her space as much as your DH is out of his?

mobyduck · 28/01/2019 08:49

Can you get your front garden gravelled over so you can park on it?

Holidayshopping · 28/01/2019 08:50

If the people who lives in your house before you had two normal-sized cars, would she have been able to park as she does ok? Is it because you have a massive van that she has to change how she parks?

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Whitescarf · 28/01/2019 08:51

But it looks like we're being UR, I'll try and have a chat with her

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