To be fucked off with husband

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Aibu to be upset that my husband has just referred to his ex as My insert name ie My Sarah. We are married and have children just for background. He has no children with ex.

Do you know many other Sarahs?

Do you know another Sarah? Perhaps he was just trying to be clear.

Hmm depends on context, day you were chatting away about bumping into 'sarah' and he said which one, Sarah from church or my Sarah? I think that's ok, he's asking for clarification. If he was eulogising about the wonderful time he had with 'my Sarah' or how 'my sarah' would always make me a hot water bottle and tuck me in at bedtime etc HIBU

That would fuck me off a bit to be honest. It's quite an intimate way to refer to someone I think. Certainly my friends and family would only use "my such-and-such" to describe a very close friend, family member or partner.

In the nicest possible way I think you’re looking too much into it OP

Sorry for not being clear. We were talking about old times and visiting people that are passed. He said -'I wanted to take my Sarah to see my grandfather but she wasn't allowed'

Is your husband Phil Lynott?

Definitely need the context.

Who is Phil lynott??

I get it 100% . I’d feel a bit hurt too , but unless he has form then he was probably just being unthinking . Nothing wrong with telling him how you feel though .

Huge overreaction then. It's absolutely fine to refer to her as that.

HildaZelda

Phil Lynott was the lead singer of the band Thin Lizzy, he wrote a song about his daughter called 'My Sarah'

I'd be a bit hacked off if my DP referred to an ex-gf as 'My' anything tbh.

Clueless beetroot Thanks. I'm not normally neurotic so appreciate your reply

Overreacting for sure.

Now I get it I am properly pmsl

Hildazelda

Weepingwillow5 thank you. He knows I'm asking on here. I think he didn't think but so...... It's a properly shit thing to say

Hmm not sure one of my friends always refers to family by ‘our...’ e.g ‘our sarah’ I think some people do it without thinking.

If you really think about it it's not that different to saying.. 'My ex' and perhaps whilst thinking my ex he ended up with my and the name??

I'm dyslexic and I probably have said similar in the past. Think you are thinking too deeply into it.

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Context is everything I think. If you are happy and secure, I’d treat it as embarrassing slip. If not, it’s bound to make you feel weird.

Try slipping in ‘my ....’ about your ex to see if he reacts!

Huge overreaction. You're married, it's not as though him saying that means anything.

Who is Phil lynott??

Oh fuck, I feel old!

Wow. That would annoy me. But maybe as a pp said, he might have been replacing Sarah with 'ex', i.e. instead of my ex, my Sarah.

Still sounds weird.

@BeachtheButler 😂😂😂, they're all young pups on here !
I feel your pain 😜😀

He was talking in the past tense though, so I wouldn't read too much into it.