My ILs are horrible. Fights outside pubs, screaming at people in the street, buying stolen goods...
They think my family and I are “stuck up” because we’re not like that.
I don’t want to spend time with them, it’s embarrassing and sometimes dangerous. I tried decking invitations politely but got told I HAD to go, I tried feigning illness and was to I HAD to go. They would come to the house and check and shout.
So I was rude. I mean really really rude and told them what I thought of them and that I didn’t want to spend time with them. It was the only language they seemed to understand.
They haven’t bothered me since.
Probably u of me, but it worked.