AIBU about kumon classes for 3 year olds !

[happytits2019]

So I’m a really laid back parent but I feel all of a sudden I’m probably too laid back !
My DC attends a fun after school club in a building that runs many clubs including gyms for parents etc
Since her also starting school and meeting local mums I seem well out of my depth.
I will just focus on this class for the moment though.
So waiting for DC to finish her dance class, I was say with 3 women with toddler discussing usual daily lives.
I know the kumon classes are in the room next door.
The little girl and the kumon teacher comes out and she started telling the mum what they learned and was telling the girl to show her mum how she knows how to read numbers up to 50 so to recognise 36 and 49 written on paper etc
The teacher then gave some homework and said please just make sure you read the numbers to her as much as possible as she is doing really well but can be lazy and distracted ( she got all the answers right ) anyway she walks off and the other lady asked how old she was, turned out she was 3 in November !
She asked them whether she thought she was doing enough to prep her for reception as she expects her to be bright.
I knew kumon classes existed and for they were a great idea !
But seems a little intense for a 3 year old.
Then it hit me I don’t think I really prepared dC for starting reception this year (5) she knew basic counting up to like 13, how to hold a pen and recognise her name that was probably about it 😂🤣then I felt incredibly guilty about maybe she is way behind ! I don’t think she would even know what the number 36 read as on paper at 5 ?

Oh and ffs I name changed and just realise it reads has happy tits 2019 rather than happy it’s 2019 🤣🤷‍♀️

Also typed that in the dark with a toddler laid across me flapping in all directions so a few typos

“ thought “ !!!!

Oh happytits

Yes that sounds intense. I’m surprised a 3 year old that young had the attention span!

Don't care about your post but happy tits! 😂

Seriously though let tiger mums be tiger mums! You do your thing and they can do theirs.

I would imagine kumon at 3 will have one of two endings. Either it will make absolutely no difference academically in the end and nothing else will be affected, or it will make absolutely no difference academically in the end and poor child with have mental health issues later on.

Happy tits

At her age, it's about social skills and enthusiasm for learning.

As long as you're supporting her eg lots of looking at books together, encouraging her natural interest and inquisitiveness you're doing ok.

It seems a bit OTT to me. But as long as it's not an onerous experience for the child, I don't see the harm.

I work in reception class and what we ask for is that children are toilet trained, can get dressed and zip up their own coats and can recognise their own name (there are obviously other things but I'm generalising).

Arethereanyleftatall has nailed. I would just add to that certain outcome that the poor child will also miss just being a child whilst ridiculous parents project their desired outcome for their child.

Haha that makes me feel slightly better.
I feel like recently I have been thrown in to a different universe ! Not kidding 😂
We don’t really fit in around here but until my DD started school and ballet I could kind of hide away but at the moment it’s makinf me question how little I do with her 🙈

I don’t know really
Having read the 3+,4+ etc thread about trying to get children into private pre-prep schools, it seems to me that there is a market for this stuff...

That seems very intense for a three year old. My three year old has just started nursery at the local school, and is starting to recognise letters and sounds, and counting to 15 ish, but that's all. I'm not interested in pushing her hard at this stage. I think up to 6 or 7 it's more important that they develop their social skills and learn to enjoy learning, rather than be pressured into it. That's just my opinion though. I have no idea if there's any evidence to show that this kind of intense early teaching is beneficial, but if there was I might change my mind.

Love the name change

Kids whose parents pay for kumon maths at age 3 and teach them to memorise digits are not more likely to grown up to be einstein. Maths isn't memorising digits.

There is plenty of well respected educational research which suggests that we should let children play until they are 7. Relax and be happy if your dd is happy. If you have to pay for an maths tutor for your 3 year old then I am sorry but you are just lazy. Surely most adults have enough maths to support their 3 year old!!

Loving Lola there is a massive market for it in our area !
I know one child who’s mum has taken an interest to become friendly with me who has her DD 3 ( 4 this year ) in 12 different activities a week.
I am exhausted with just weekly dance lessons 😂🤣

I am fascinated with the private school obsession ... would Kumon for 3 year olds seriously be taken into consideration?

I really have no idea but I’m context we live in a suppose “ well of area “ where they have the funds to this.
The school my daughter got in to by default because they are lovely and was the only ones that would accept her 😂are a academy linked with and run by the owners of 3 very well known private schools ( think royal family )
So I suppose funds allow ( I haven’t actually looked at how much it costs but a half an hour ballet class here is about 10.00 a class )

I know one child who’s mum has taken an interest to become friendly with me who has her DD 3 ( 4 this year ) in 12 different activities a week.

Sounds like you have it right OP, don't lose sight of that just because you are surrounded by these idiots. If all it took to make our children geniuses was to force them to be good at everything by literally filling every minute with something purposeful and educational wouldn't that be common knowledge by now. In reality these kids will perhaps have slightly better life chances because they go to private school but that's down to parents' income not kumon or ballet or baby yoga or little ruggers etc. etc. etc.

Yes Gareth tbh I couldn’t afford it even if I wanted to 😂my DD does one ballet class a week and occasional tap class but she loves them much more than I do.
She is behind developmentally due to other reasons which probably makes me worry more !

One of my children wanted to try Kumon aged 10, he lasted 3 months, it is so repetitive and marking his work was my weekly toil, avoid and relax :)

Haha border good to know !

If your child quite likes maths and you want them to hate it try kumon
(i am a maths teacher btw)

Happytits has really tickled me!

Max I wish it was true 😂they haven’t been quite south since 2014 !

this is what the corrupt school/education system is doing to kids this days,home education all the way

education system have been fucked for years now and its getting worse and worse

they are no longer babies anymore,the system expects so much out of them by 3/4 that the parent think the kids must know everything by reception and put them in classes like this,and teachers actually taking on 2/3 years old are helping this system get worse

reading all the bad school posts on here im so glad we are out of this system and my kids get to be care free kids,not expected to be memory machines

they are taking them in school nursery around here at 2,bloody 2 and yes they are learning basic ks1

kids cant be kids any more

My DS can recognise numbers up to 100. He’s two and a half. We taught him using foam numbers in the bath. Helluva lot cheaper than Kumon and with the bonus of washing him at the same time 😂.