AIBU about kumon classes for 3 year olds !

[happytits2019]

So I’m a really laid back parent but I feel all of a sudden I’m probably too laid back !
My DC attends a fun after school club in a building that runs many clubs including gyms for parents etc
Since her also starting school and meeting local mums I seem well out of my depth.
I will just focus on this class for the moment though.
So waiting for DC to finish her dance class, I was say with 3 women with toddler discussing usual daily lives.
I know the kumon classes are in the room next door.
The little girl and the kumon teacher comes out and she started telling the mum what they learned and was telling the girl to show her mum how she knows how to read numbers up to 50 so to recognise 36 and 49 written on paper etc
The teacher then gave some homework and said please just make sure you read the numbers to her as much as possible as she is doing really well but can be lazy and distracted ( she got all the answers right ) anyway she walks off and the other lady asked how old she was, turned out she was 3 in November !
She asked them whether she thought she was doing enough to prep her for reception as she expects her to be bright.
I knew kumon classes existed and for they were a great idea !
But seems a little intense for a 3 year old.
Then it hit me I don’t think I really prepared dC for starting reception this year (5) she knew basic counting up to like 13, how to hold a pen and recognise her name that was probably about it 😂🤣then I felt incredibly guilty about maybe she is way behind ! I don’t think she would even know what the number 36 read as on paper at 5 ?

Oh happytits grin

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Sounds like the 3 years old is only being 'taught' what any child with an attentive parent would learn! We had our grandchild for a couple of weeks when she had just turned 2, she would read out the aisle numbers in the supermarket because she was talked to.

Monty I know she is behind has we had assessments she is actually very smart in her thinking but has significant speech delay, she can’t draw a basic shape and doesn’t know her alphabet
However she did not have a normal start to life so it was to be expected.
I’m not worried :) but did worry maybe I wasn’t doing enough but the truth is I do all the normal parenting stuff just like read etc.

My step son is very bright at maths, used to go to the older classes for maths and eventually won a scholarship to a private school, but he was still learning to recognise numbers and do simple addition and subtraction alongside everyone else when he was 4.
I do think excessive memorizing of flashcards at age 2 is a waste of time as it's more about the temperament of your toddler. My 4 (5 in September) year old has only just started paying attention to memorising letters and numbers but he has always been good with puzzles and things like that which I see as more important at this age.
Also I remember at a school I taught at a girl moved from the Netherlands in mid year 1 who was clearly very bright but couldn't really read and write at all because school starts later in the NL. It was amazing how quickly she sped past her classmates in these skills! Despite not being drilled on flashcards since toddlerhood.