Please help...desperate

[thelittlestsausage]

Sorry for posting on here...I feel so desperate l just need other people to tell me this is fine.

I'm 18 weeks, 2 mcs previously. I'm so ready for this baby and saw him yesterday in scan kicking his legs and sucking his thumb. I talk to him every day. I imagine what he will be like and I've bought far too much stuff for the nursery already. My family are over the moon. Dh is ready to be daddy.

Tonight I came home and went to the toilet. Slight watery pink bleeding. Exactly how my two mcs started. I've been lying in bed since. I'm terrified. I can't lose another baby and especially as I've seen this little one is already my baby boy, I've counted his toes on scans, I've felt him do little flips.

Feeling lost.

🙏🏻

I had so much bleeding with my second pregnancy from literally week 4 to week 30. Never really got to the bottom of it, cervical erosion was thought to be the culprit. Was terrifying and I had to go and get checked so much but it’s better to be under the hospitals care right now. Good luck OP.

I really hope all is well xxxx

Aw OP I totally understand your panic. Multiple losses are so hard

Light blood/brown blood sounds like a cervical erosion to me.

Have you had any cramping or contractions? Bright red fresh blood or clots?

Do you know where your placenta is? Very low lying placentas can cause bleeds.

Just take it easy with physical activity and obviously no sex!

Does your local hospital have an early pregnancy clinic? The one in my old town had one that was open every morning and you could self refer ie just turn up.

Your maternity notes should have the numbers for who to contact depending on how many weeks you are.

Thinking of you OP. x

Those sayinggo in and be seen, it’s not always possible. Even if admitted to the ward you won’t necessarily get a scan for days.

Fingers crossed for you OP. I so hope this is a sticky one xx

It may not be any help to you but when I bled at 16 weeks midwife told me to calm down (it's that easy right?!) Because miscarriage past this point presents much differently to earlier ones. Just thought with your mention of it being how your others started her lil nuggetay offer something
Although I know nothing much will until you get to the end. Sending positive thoughts and wish you the very best 💐💐

Also yes the risk of MC after 12 weeks drops to less than 1% so multiple first trimester MCs has little baring on second trimester MCs which are usually due to reasons like incompetent cervix and fetal abnormality.... so try not to panic (easier said than done I know!) that your previous MCs are sort of “irrelevant” from a medical point of view at this stage - that’s what my Consultant OBGYN/fertility specialist told me

I know you are all right :-/ it's just convincing myself not to panic ☹️ Rang unit again and was again told not to panic and to ring again if it gets heavier or starts fresh again. She said I'd have severe cramps etc if miscarrying and at this stage it would feel like contractions.

To pps who have asked I've never had placenta being low mentioned during scans...just that it was a chunky one (whatever that means!) no more cramping other than stretching pain I've had for weeks and some slight back pain but again I've had that for about a week (have a manual job so put it down to that)

So I've come to bed hoping and praying all will be okay.

Forgot to say I've text my community midwife too, she is really good and I'm hoping when she reads it in the morning she will sort me a scan or something x

I’m so sorry you’re going through this but just wanted to be a voice of reason. Please, please, please do not rely upon a home Doppler unless you are trained to use one. If you’re worried insist you go in and be checked do not leave it overnight because you think you heard him.

@Rooberoobe thank you :-) dh is a radiographer and is certain it's baby :-)

But I totally understand your concerns as I've heard awful stories about people thinking they've heard baby and not.

I remember my Gyn specifically warning me about light bleeding around this time . It sounds more likely to be nothing than something bad. Anxiety is a horrible thing though. I would try mindfulness. Good luck OP.

OP,

I was bleeding during my first pregnancy too - it lasted for two weeks and was so worrying. The doctor said it was old blood clearing out, all was well and that little baby is nearly 15!

Go back to bed with a warm drink, blanket. You probably won’t sleep well with worry but you will be rested, and that’s important.

Roober but she’s only 18 weeks, in the nicest way possible there is nothing to be done medically at this stage until 24 weeks.

I know once you start counting the kicks etc you absolutely must not rely on home dopplers for reassurance if worried but at this gestation they won’t be rushing her in for scans and examinations because there’s nothing to be done.

Usually the most sensible thing to do overnight is rest rather than rushing around panicking and spending half the night awake and uncomfortable in a&e or wherever

Op me too. That’s why I was worried as also midwives are trained to hear signs of distress not just a heartbeat. It’s awful feeling so helpless.
Hopefully your community midwife will call tomorrow and be able to fit you in for a quick appointment to check tomorrow.

Abso I understand that. However in my post while thinking about the OP I was also thinking about anyone else that maybe reading. They could be at a later stage thinking the same as OP and used a Doppler for reassurance without any medical knowledge.

She's not relying on the home doppler - she's taking all the medical advice she can AND using the doppler for reassurance.

OP I have had two healthy pregnancies and a miscarriage, and bled in all of them. Sometimes you can have a little pocket of blood that eventually works its way out. Maybe the poking and prodding of the scan yesterday dislodged something like that? It's really likely that you and your baby are both going to be ok.

OP - have you phoned your EPU? it sounds like you need to talk to a doctor not a midwife.

Fingers crossed for you x

I had some bleeding with all 3 of my babies. I hope and pray that all will be well with you and your precious baby.

@thelittlestsausage just wanted to say I'm rooting for you and hoping it is nothing to worry about. I had two miscarriages which started with light spotting type bleeding and during my pregnancy after the two mc I had spotting/pink discharge (sorry TMI!) at a similar point and was very much of the thinking that it was happening again but after a week or so of taking things as easy as possible, it settled down and everything was fine. Will jeep everything crossed for you 🤞🏻

I hope all is well x

Try not to worry. I know that's easier said than done... I had the same with DS. He is currently about to turn 20...