AIBU to feel resentment about a bridal shower

[Cerulean60]

I'm a bridesmaid at a friend's wedding. The hen weekend is costing £250 per person (which I felt was too much but I gave up arguing because everyone else seemed to think it was fine). Bride is now having a 'bridal shower' too. Is it just me or is this just about asking your friends to buy you more presents on top of a wedding gift, wedding expenses, hen do costs etc?

Obviously I'm honoured to be a bridesmaid but I've been engaged a while myself and haven't even started planning my own wedding yet because of the money (I'm not broke, I just don't have spare cash for a wedding so need to do some serious saving).

When it comes, my own wedding plans will definitely not involve a bridal shower, expensive hen weekend or other strange demands! I sometimes think the world's gone mad.

YANBU. At all.

I think she needs a cold shower.

Yanbu I would have declined from bridesmaid duties at that point.

What the fuck is a bridal shower?? That's the hen party the daft bint

Just take a box of confetti!!

I would not go to a bridal shower in the UK. Just decline the invitation, OP.

YANBU, that is very, very grabby!

I wouldn't be going for anything, I avoid baby showers too for the exact same reason. Simply designed to extract gifts from what I've seen. Never do they suggest not to take gifts.

YABU. You could have declined bridesmaids duties, declined the weekend and declined the bridal shower.

Other people shouldn't have to lower their plans to suit your budget.

@PinkGin24 - I'm not asking/expecting anyone to lower their plans?