To thing my need for rest in hospital should trump another patients need to have 10 visitors

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Basicly in hospital with kidney infection which is slowly getting better. I have had almost no sleep last night as the women in the next bed had 9 visitors till 11 last night and then had her telly on really loud till 2. She then called someone and was on the phone for a hour.

I asked a nurse last night to talk to her and ask her to be quiet only to be told she can’t do anything as it’s the ladies right.

This morning at 10 all the visitors turned up again and different people have come and gone all day. There have been people practically sat in my cubical and one even tried to sit on the end of my bed.
When DH came to visit me I was in tears as I am so tired and obviously feel ill so he and a word with the ward sister and most of the visitors were told they had to leave. The sister also said that the women will be told to keep the noise down tonight
Well the night staff are on and all the visitors are back. One has almost fallen through my curtain. I have talked one of the nurses who said “the visitors are not doing any harm”. I can tell it’s going to be as bad as last night.
I lost my rag about five minutes ago and shouted to the visitors to shut up and go home and give me some peace. They laughed at me.
I am on the verge of demanding they take out my drip then getting dressed and walking out. I need to sleep so badly. I am sat here with tears streaming down my face. Nurses have seen me but no one cares.

Do you know what wrong with the lady OP? Do you know she doesn’t have a serious condition which won’t get better?

I shared wards (2 or 3 beds) with teenagers and young people who were dying and who knew they were dying. The vast majority Managed to be mindful that the person sharing the room with them didn't really want to be there either. So "she might be really unwell" doesn't wash.

OP is obviously getting some much needed shut eye. Had to complain about the no if visitors the 15yr old had who was in the bed next to my very ill mum.

Then a different ward sister came in duty. What a difference.My neighbour's 87 mum was in hospital recently and the hours had been reduced with a stricter routine.

Sounds a pain but at least you know there are a lot of people who genuinely care about you. Count your blessings.

This line resonates: Some people are just selfish fuckers. I had a scheduled op in the autumn and was shocked by the lack of manners other patients have. TVs on loudly, endless loud phone conversations and then entire families visiting all at once and getting in the way.

SingleDadStill, what an idiotic post. Clearly, her physicians found op ill enough to be admitted to hospital. Kidney infections are serious and can be life threatening.

Op, I’m happy you are in your own room. I hope you get your rest. Do not mind the crabby sisters. They must understand they have failed in their duty to you.

Had to complain about the no if visitors the 15yr old had who was in the bed next to my very ill mum.

Your poor mum - 15 year olds shouldn't be on adult wards though for this reason. At 21 I found wards quite scary.

I don't think cubicles are the answer though- post surgery I had to chase after nurses more than once for other patients because we all looked out for each other.

Glad you got your own room tonight and hope you get home soon

I think you could have asked if you could draw your curtains around for rest and also tried headphones. Side rooms are usually reserved for the sickest or end of life. I think you have been a little unreasonable to be honest.
Get well soon though

Do you know what wrong with the lady OP? Do you know she doesn’t have a serious condition which won’t get better?

Maybe she does, maybe she doesn't. Does SHE know that there are people on the ward who may be seriously ill, or is she too busy having. a laugh with her visitors?

In your scale of illness you’re really ill (yet almost ready to be discharged)....in my experience hospital for a kidney infection is a little bit dramatic

Are you a doctor? Obviously she needs hospital treatment, so not dramatic. Kidney infection can be serious.

cba to address your other points.

I’m just out of hospital after a 10 day stay. The visiting hours were very tightly monitored, and no more than 3 visitors per bed. Also no children under 12, unless they were the child of the patient.

We could use iPads etc., but only with earphones. There were no TVs on the ward at all.

One night was very noisy with a medical emergency - obviously no-one complained, except one patient who then had the light on at their bed, all night, every night. I was so glad when she was discharged.

As I said, flame away...my premise is that anyone who enters a public place won’t always get on with others around them whether it’s work, hobbies, school, shopping, etc.

Sometimes you just have to hold your tongue and count your blessings.

I’m not doubting a kidney infection can be serious but as the OP said themselves they were waiting for a prescription and to be discharged so they’re clearly not in a life or death situation.

So far better to suck it up for a little while, get discharged and go home with a peaceful life than to start dragging others (hard working NHS staff) into their pity party because they’re a bit tired and run down?

SingleDad aren't you a wonderful caring human being.

I am yes...for people who have real problems...for first world problems like being kept awake whilst waiting to be discharged from a busy NHS hospital ways however, my caring/sympathy meter starts to waver

*ward not ways. I might be wonderful and caring but I still don’t spell check before posting

Seeing as how sleep deprivation is used as torture, is it any wonder patients get to the end of their tether when on wards with inconsiderate fuckers? Ill people need rest, and yes, that means restricting visiting and insisting on quiet at night.

I can’t imagine that people who are twatty enough to stomp in at all hours making a racket are the kind of people who would also be conscientious about hand washing etc. No wonder there are so many cases of infection in hospitals.

Side rooms are usually reserved for the sickest or end of life. I think you have been a little unreasonable to be honest

It's not OP's choice to be put in a single room, Letitgo2018. The nurses could have dealt with the issue by throwing out the noisy visitors. Indeed, they should have, given that presumably other patients were still affected.

This brought back horrific memories of the post labour ward and the family opposite who let their 2 older children run and shout up and down the ward while they cooed over baby no. 3.

I had developed an infection during labour and I had had a c-section. I had barely slept. I was so tired I was hallucinating. That was the start of horrendous PND that nearly caused me take my own life.

The midwife made a token effort to tell them to shush after I complained, but that was it.

Hope you're having a nice sleep now and you feel better soon. Last of sleep is proven to impact recovery from illness. Once you're up to it I'd definitely be putting in a PALS complaint.

Lack of sleep*

@SingleDadStill

What a twattish comment. Please tell me where these private hospitals are, which look after those, with a kidney infection. I suspect they are in London. Not everyone lives there you know. I qualified for private delivery through international health insurance having only just arrived back in the U.K. I wasn’t prepared to go to London to give birth. I had a failed home birth and a shit time in a noisy 6 bed ward miles away from the food and unable to walk more than a few metres.

Singledad stop behaving like a twat, honestly your comments are stupid.

That's very inconsiderate and I'm surprised the nurse said it was the patient's right. Sick people needing peace and rest are in bed alongside her! When I was in hospital a few years back we each had a TV and earphones so no-one else could hear it. Talking on the 'phone was done outside in the corridor. I don't remember anybody at all having ten visitors in one go and certainly not staying until 11pm.

Complain - but first maybe you could have a word with her, it's possible she doesn't realise the distress she is causing.

whilst waiting to be discharged

She is not waiting to be discharged, she is waiting for a drip to finish, very different things, she is hoping to be discharged after the drip

I think @SingleDadStill wants to be flamed.

Instead I’ll ignore the comments as they demonstrate a complete lack of empathy.

Im not defending what the OPs been through and I do agree wards need to be quiet but I wouldn't support very shortened visiting hours either. Ive had several elderly relatives who have basically been nursed through hospital stays by family. Until you have the sort of nursing resource that will actially spend 6 x half an hour a day spooning tea into dementia patients or ensuring people have access to suitable food (try getting a gf meal in hospital sometime) then visitors save lives.

I’m not doubting a kidney infection can be serious but as the OP said themselves they were waiting for a prescription and to be discharged so they’re clearly not in a life or death situation

What a dumbass comment. If she was being dramatic then she wouldn’t be on an antibiotic drip, would she? Do you think hospitals just admit people for no reason?

So glad you have been moved. That's shocking! I had similar with one patient when I was in the maternity ward. She had 11 visitors at one point and I couldn't actually get to the toilet without walking through a crowd.

Then phone calls all night to her DP. It's so selfish to behave like that and makes a mockery of hospital being a place to recuperate