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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not stop DD when she.....

59 replies

Chirpygirl · 01/07/2007 09:50

runs into our bedroom at 6am in the morning and starts poking, patting and shouting at DH until he wakes up and acknowledges her, even though he is currently on late shifts and needs a lie in?

I suspect DH thinks I am but she asks for Dada the second I lift her from the cot and I don't like to refuse my PFB.....

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Carmenere · 01/07/2007 09:51

Not unreasonable but mean.

FlamingTomatoes · 01/07/2007 09:52

YABU

Ulysees · 01/07/2007 09:52

oh I'd hate that, need my sleep.

JodieG1 · 01/07/2007 09:53

YABU

GodzillasBumcheek · 01/07/2007 09:56

It's nice that she loves her daddy but you could let him get his sleep too - you'll suffer and so will dd if he ends up sleep deprived. I've been sleep deprived (haven't we all), it's not nice!

geekgirl · 01/07/2007 09:57

are you joking?

dyzzidi · 01/07/2007 09:58

Thats a bit evil if you ask me! is this a wind up?

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Chirpygirl · 01/07/2007 09:58

Ooh, IABU? Shit. He does go straight back to sleep and has been snoring away for another 3 and a half hours while I am down here mainlining coffee.

And his late shifts mean he works 2-10, not like a real late shift.

Any better?

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geekgirl · 01/07/2007 10:01

YAB v.v. U

in this house it would eventually lead to very serious marital strife

Skribble · 01/07/2007 10:02

I couldn't handle that, but my DH would go straight back to sleep though.

I think any child running about at 6am needs a reality check though and if this is a regular thing I think you need to stop it now or PFB will become SLB .

francagoestohollywood · 01/07/2007 10:02

so you are the one who has to actually wake up at 6 am? He's still asleep? No, you are not being unreasonable.

FlamingTomatoes · 01/07/2007 10:02

Better if he goes straight back to sleep, but if someone did this to me it would really piss me off, sorry. It's really hard to stay active on a late shift when every cell of your body is screaming at you to reast at 8 at night - worse if you were woken at 6am, I imagine!

TrinityRhino · 01/07/2007 10:03

dh never gives me a fucking lie in but I've never been mean anough to do that
dd2 begs for her daddy every morning but he just sleeps til past noon all the fucking time

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Chirpygirl · 01/07/2007 10:03

No, not a wind up, I am just pissed off at going to bed at same time as DH and getting up with DD when she wakes at 6 but he gets a lie in, even though preggy hormones mean I am exhausted.
Plus if I don't let her she cries and throws a tantrum.

Didn't realise quite how mean you all think I am being, feel bad now.

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DoubleBluff · 01/07/2007 10:03

2-10 isn't that late. Means a normal night shift.
When I work lates it is until 2am.
Would not be happy with a 6am start then.
He should be up by now lazy bugger!

francagoestohollywood · 01/07/2007 10:03

But yes, 6 am is a bit extreme, even for a PFB

GodzillasBumcheek · 01/07/2007 10:03

Have you actually asked him then? MN is not a substitute for communication between you and your dh!
Sorry that sounded a bit sh*tty, but it's true! Only dh can give you the real answer! Only smarties have the answer.

DoubleBluff · 01/07/2007 10:04

Mean he gets a normal nights sleep , and doesn't warrant a really late lie in.

TrinityRhino · 01/07/2007 10:04

I don't think your being mean btw

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Chirpygirl · 01/07/2007 10:04

She has woken at 6 last few days cos one of the neighbours keeps slamming his van door under her window, she normally wakes at 7 which is why it is killing me.

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geekgirl · 01/07/2007 10:05

oh, I see

I think you should try to take turns with getting up

FlamingTomatoes · 01/07/2007 10:06

A good plan would be to have him get up with her at 6 am twice a week, and let you loll in bed until 10. Then you won't feel so cross that you are not getting a break, and you won't feel like letting your dd wake him, and he won't feel resentful that he gets woken at 6am every morning, he will be less tired, and you should get your lay ins.

Youi didn't mention before that you are pregnant - this changes things IMO

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Chirpygirl · 01/07/2007 10:06

Cant ask him, he's still asleep! git.

I got a bit concerned with all the IABU, glad some people agree with me!

And if he worked a proper night shift I wouldn't dream of it but he is in bed by midnight!

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FlamingTomatoes · 01/07/2007 10:08

You should be taking turns to get up with her, but not disturbing each other's sleep too much - sleep is precious.

You could now quite reasonably go and wake him up and leave your dd with him while you have a sleep though.

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Chirpygirl · 01/07/2007 10:08

He works 6 days a week so it's not fair for him to get up on a work day. I always did it but now I am 6 months gone it is starting to grate!

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