Anyone else get sick from fear of going to work?

[Workfear]

Every Sunday now I'm up late feeling nauceous because I have to go to work for another week. The work itself isn't a problem, it's my boss and the team to an extent.

It's just issues all the time, and petty ones at that. Complaints, nothing is good enough. I'm expected to work 4 times as hard as others, and still told to hurry up basically, yet if others screw up its like 'oh it's fine, nothing we can do anyway'. And the others screw up all the time, I honestly very rarely make a mistake.

There's always comments about my work, just snide little things that are annoying, it's nothing they can even reprimand me on. If anything, I could tell them to go do one and make my life easier, but I don't to help the team. Last year was very stressful and I almost went to the GP and asked to be put on sick leave.

I am looking for other work too, but that can't instantly happen of course so stuck for now. Just sick of feeling sick every week from anxiety just because my boss is an asshole.

Anyone else get this every week? We can help each other maybe, dunno how other than rant haha.

I've spoken to 3/4 different managers about this. They give pretty much the same response, that they will get me help eventually. Thats been the same thing for over 3 years. I've been off sick a lot from migraines etc all caused by stress and got an informal warning for it from hr, despite having explained before that work was causing me stress. I'm really not onto a winner if I try to complain, I won't win. So not allowed sick days anymore.

Been there and done that! No advise but i really do feel for you, it's horrible.

Work fear, this happened to me many years ago. I would be nauseated and really sick at work. Went home, felt fine. The day I WOKE UP crying, (I mean I had been crying in my sleep!) my husband told me I had to quit and I did. It was scary but I found another job within weeks. Apparently my body knew what my mind couldn't accept - that place literally made me miserable!

And guess what? It took FOUR PEOPLE to do the job I was doing!!!!!!!

I don't know the circumstances but regardless of the fact you think you do the work of four people they clearly don't. If you are frequently off sick how can you be? Honestly our perceptions of ourselves are sometimes not quite right. I have managed people for years and encountered some who think they do a fabulous job when actually they don't and everyone else is holding them up, or they say they are being bullied because their manager is pulling them up on issues that they have every right to pull them up on. There's obviously an issue here- either they don't think you are pulling your weight and don't therefore value you or you are being bullied. Either way you need to get another job so you are happy and they are happy with you. It's not worth it.

*Yes I had a job like this once.

I had never suffered from anxiety before and I didn't realise at first that the constant nausea was stress related until, after a particularly bad day, I had to pull over in the car to be sick. I wasn't sick but realised at that point that it was the toxic, nightmare of a job*

This. I had no idea how physically stress could manifest itself in me. I too have had to pull over to be sick with anxiety. That was 20 years ago but I still remember it well. In the end I left without another job to go to too and it was the best thing I ever did.

Good luck with finding something else OP

I have been there and quit in the end, your mh is too important.
I'm looking for pt work now, hoping it will fit in with my counselling appointments.

I had this in an old job. It broke me to be honest. I'm restarting life in my 40s because my 20s and 30s were a mess due to the toll that job took on my health, mental and physical.

I now have a job I love, with a good employer and I thank my lucky stars every day for it.

Yes I feel like it all the time and I only work part time, it's horrible, I want to give up nursing but don't know what to do instead but had enough of work related dread and fear. Hope things get better OP

Well I know people don't believe me that I don't do more work than others and that's fine, the managers don't either. Even though my work adds up to 4 fte. They actually at one point tried to add to my workload with work I wasn't even qualified or legally allowed to do. I refused that.

But good news is I THINK I've been accepted through to the final assessment stage for a job I've applied for. At least they've sent me the training programme I would have to do if I was successful so dunno why they would do that if I wasn't still being considered but it may just be an automatic thing to all candidates. But still good news, and I haven't been rejected yet for another job I applied for. I also found another job to apply for today.

What fast day??

Kitchen closed on 538

Gosh how embarrassing sorry wrong thread. Am sure you are all fascinated with what I am having for tea

Iamblossom

It's fine. what's the white stuff?

Jacomax, was that child female per chance? 11 years old?

I threw up every single morning for 12 years. I hated every evening except Fridays. Even Saturday eve was bad because Next time I went to bed it would be Monday the day after. It broke me. Properly broke me. I now only work 1 day a week. I still throw up on that day. When I get to work and get into it, I'm actually good at it and it all melts away but I can't get past the anxiety and fear of making a mistake or even being perceived to have made a mistake even when I havent. I have a very high pressure high responsibility job. I love what it could be. I hate what it is.

Poached eggs 🤣

Didiplanthis I can really relate to this. For years I only ever liked Saturday's and wasn't actually physically sick often but felt very nauseous every morning.
I feel shaky, sick and full of nervous dread about work tomorrow right now. I am so tired of it all. I don't want to feel like it.

Didiplanthis wow that's bad. I'm sorry your anxiety is that bad, do you see anyone about it?

Poached eggs 🤣

Ah.

Nurse123 - Is your user name an indicator of job ? HCP here too. It sucks. Yes I've got help for anxiety. It took a long time to acknowledge I needed help though and I wasted many years of my life being miserable because it took so long - Hindsight is marvellous !

I too hate my job and have a horrendous boss. I have been looking elsewhere but salaries are low and I have no one to help me with the bills. I dream of having a holiday or meals out, things to look forward to. I have reoccurring work related anxiety and the place has destroyed my confidence. Added to this I have enormous personal problems, frankly it's amazing I am semi-functioning. I am determined to beat this though, it's no way to live.

Didiplanthis, yes it is an indicator of my job. I do still want to help people but the ridiculously high expectations, level of responsibility and politics make it so stressful.
Is it due to anxiety that you only work one day per week? I have been thinking of doing the same.

I went through this. Was being given a bigger and more complex workload than my colleagues, but without the admin support they had, and no consideration for that fact. I tried to keep going because I was struggling to find another job at the same salary, but it was making me physically ill and I ended up signed off with stress and on medication and I just had to leave. It really dented my confidence, I felt like maybe I was just rubbish at working and being a competent adult!

I started temping until I saw an interesting trainee role advertised, the money was rubbish but I got it and started a new career that I absolutely love, and ended up earning more than I used to anyway.

I hope you find your way out soon.

I've been there, boss was basically a massive bitch to everyone including me, made worse by the fact I had left a job in a great company working with lovely people, I had really taken it for granted how much the people you work with matter.
I was crying or trying not to cry every day on the way to work.
Anxious, stressed, I spent 9 months counting down the minutes to tea break, lunch, home time and Friday afternoon.
Felt like I was wishing my life away.
So I got another job and left.
Never looked back, my only regret is not telling them that bitch was the reason, I wasn't the first and wont be the last, but I think they knew anyway.
It really knocked my confidence in myself, even though I could do that job with my eyes closed.
I'm about to start a new job which is much harder, faster paced and more intense, hoping my confidence will return.