To send the dc to her mum's?

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I have a friend who is pregnant with her fourth child. She is a single parent, this is relevant.

She went into hospital yesterday morning to be induced as she has gestational diabetes. The baby still isn't born.

She has had 3 quick inductions beforehand, this one is obviously more difficult.

I volunteered to look after her 3 dc while she went into hospital, one is in their early twenties so it's just the 12 and 4 year old.

She would have had the 2 younger dc stay with her dm while she was in hospital but the 4 yo hates his gran for some reason, and I thought my friend would be home by Friday evening. This is now not going to happen.

I'm staying in their house. I miss my own home and dc. WIBU to ask their gran to pick them up on Saturday afternoon, and keep them until my friend leaves hosp?

They sound like over indulged spoiled brats. Twelve year old won’t go to your house, four year old doesn’t want to stay with granny and stupid mother is bringing yet more children into this mess

I’d tell the children they’ll both do as they’re told and then ship them off to granny’s and wipe my hands of the lot of them tbh

Ditto.

Since when do 4 and 12 year olds rule the roost? Ridiculous.

Still no baby. My poor friend! The 4yo was crying for her this morning but I cheered him up by saying we'll go to the Entertainer tomorrow. I spoke to my friend and very nicely told her that Sunday evening is my limit, that's nearly 6 days and I have work on Monday. She sounded a bit disappointed but I really can't be away from my home and dc longer than that. I'm obviously still seeing them but I want to be back for bedtime etc.

Just make them stay at yours from Saturday.

They should see their mum, especially the little one. Take them home with you, don't split them up

Why are the kids dictating what happens? Just pack up their stuff and take them to yours! No need to worry your friend by giving her a time limit, she really can't force the baby out!

I can really understand your feelings OP, but as a mum, and knowing how it feels to be at the end of your pregnancy and wanting your baby to arrive, surely you don’t want to be worrying your friend about what’s happening at home? I bet she’s feeling a lot worse than you, without this added worry.
But the reality is neither child should be dictating. If they have to come to yours then they are told that’s what is happening. Likewise if they have to go to grandmas then so be it.
For what it’s worth, I hope it does go quickly for your friend from here in, and there’s no further complications.

They have a grandmother, it's not like you're dropping them off with Social Services. Your priority is your own DC and staying until Sunday is more than generous.