Siblings’ different treatment

[SweetSouberry]

Long term Lurker First Time Poster. Everyone in real life agrees with me but they would wouldn’t they?
Brother-in-Law is firstborn’s Godfather because we caved to MiL. He has never shown any interest in either of the kids MiL gets presents for them from him and no reference is ever made to being Godfather.
So he is now engaged to a woman who seems genuinely lovely on the odd time we’ve seen her.
So an invitation arrives for my eldest and not his sibling from her inviting him to a West End show. She takes her Godchildren to a show every January and this year has asked BiL’s Godchildren as well.
I was stunned that one nephew was invited and not the other. My youngest is really upset. I texted asking if I could come as well with youngest (I would pay). BiL says it’s just Godchildren and not siblings,
There is complete logic in this so why am I so upset to the point that I cried today in front of mothers on school run like a drama queen?

I would use the opportunity to spend some quality time with DS2 and take him out for a special treat.

I’m amazed by the answers that suggest this poor woman has done something wrong by inviting one child! Please don’t throw this invitation back at them after complaining about godparent disinterest...

You’re setting up a world of pain for yourself in future if you don’t teach your children that being fair doesn’t mean identical treatment. Let your elder child enjoy a treat from his godfather (after a lot of non-treats, which may be why he’s rubbing it in) and perhaps encourage younger child to have a different treat.

Please don’t stalk them to the show—take younger ds another time if it’s really important to you.

Lovely your younger ds’s godparents include elder son —do they feel any pressure to do this if you’re upset when they’re separated? have you tried suggesting that they do something with just their godson as a treat?

Learning that sometimes it’s your sibling’s turn and then it will be yours another time is a really important life lesson. I’d say thank you, and accept.

I have a suggestion OP.
You could call younger DC’s godparents and see if they fancy doing some thing with you and younger DC that day.
Then both DC get to spend the day with their godparents and you get to spend time with your friends.
In hindsight, could you/older DS have handled this better so that younger DS didn’t feel sad?

I would say it's nice for a DC to do something without younger siblings being there.
I think the need for every single thing to be the same for all your DCs is crazy. They are different children, different ages, different friends, different lives.
But I would compensate the younger one somehow - McDs or something.

I would allow DS to go and if it's a show that DS2 would like to see take him separately

I've never heard if a godchild day out but what if they all have siblings? She'd be overrun.

I agree with those saying it's nice for children to have treats without siblings on occasions.

I am disappointed with 10 year old who is rubbing brother’s face in it.

That needs to be nipped in the bud right away.