To the mums who had their babies as teenagers...

[namechange097]

I've name changed for this so there's no link with my other threads.

Has anyone had 2 children by age 19/20? How did you cope financially, home wise, work wise etc?

The only person I know to have 2 by 19 was my GM who died a few years ago so can't query anything with her!

Not looking for nasty comments, just anyone who can offer input for the question!

anyone?

Sorry all the people I know who had babies as teenagers still only have 1 child now 10 years later. Think having one so young and how hard it was put them off having more. Hopefully someone will be along soon.

I did. Partner worked, I was a stay at home mum. We were skint but happy. Rented a little 2 up 2 down. I had loads of energy to run around after them, kids were close in age and played together a lot when they were little.

@drinkygin thank you for your reply!

My brother did. They have 5 now! They were 15 when they had my first niece and 17 when they had the second. They’re 28 now, both have good careers, very much still in love and have 5 beautiful children.

@NotUmbongoUnchained 5! Wow, that's amazing! Did they have their own home as teens (if you don't mind me asking)?

No probs. Feel free to pm me x

I doubt you'll get a lot of posts unless you offer at least a little insight into why you want to know this, otherwise everyone is going to think DM journalist!

Hello :) only one child here but thought I'd post..

I had my daughter (now nearly 9) two weeks after my 17th birthday. Single mum, moved out at 4 months pregnant into sheltered accommodation. Went to college for A levels 4 months after she was born, she went full time nursery (I had this paid for by college/unsure if this is still available) moved away into private rent with new partner, ended up in lots of debt and frazzled my credit score & was a single mum again.

By the time she was 5 I'd done 3 years in college whilst working part time, then got an apprenticeship. I now earn 40k a year & have just bought a house, I am 25 & she is nearly 9 :)

It can be very hard work, especially if on your own & things take a little longer maybe in terms of education & working but many people do it & I am sure you can too.

Ps. Trying for second baby now & I am 10000% more worried about money etc now than I ever was when I was younger!

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I did. I lived at home with my first and then when I found out I was having my second, my parents gave me some money to buy a house.
I was lucky to have parents who could help financially and emotionally. I went to university later on, and now I have a good career. I had my 3rd baby at 30 so a 10 year gap... it was much much harder and more tiring.

@CheshireChat definitely not a journalist of any sort I can promise you, it's my personal circumstances (hence the name change).

Why do you want to know? @namechange097

Hi, I had 3 by the time I was 19 (twins). We both had a fair bit of savings which helped us with our house and DH got a job, I’m a SAHM. Our boys are 2 and 1 now, but we’re coping well. We don’t have loads of money but our kids are happy and healthy and have everything that they need, so what more can you ask for

Why are you curious op?

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@donttakethebiscuit 3? Congratulations!! Thank you for your reply.

I had my first aged 19 and second by 21. I was a Sahm for 2 years and now work part time but have my lovely DP working hard to support us

Why are people so weird.

OP Obviously asking as she is in this situation, is potentially in this situation or is thinking of being in this situation.

I had one at 19 and second mid 20s. Coped just dandy! Loved being a mum. Now I'm 46 I free to do what ever I like but I do hanker for another if I'm honest and babies /kids were my forte. I have a career and freedom and lovely holidays now ....I try to enjoy the freedom it brings but I would love another bub....😍

A friend had her first and only at 16, lived in a hostel for a while. She’s now a solicitor and homeowner having studied whilst she worked and her daughter is preparing for her GCSE’s

OP Obviously asking as she is in this situation, is potentially in this situation or is thinking of being in this situation.

You can't have been on MN that long then...

I got pregnant at 14, had him at 15.
Long story short, worked hard, went back to school when he was 4 weeks old. Good GSCEs. Supported by my parents. College. Top grades. Supported by benefits. University. Top grades. Supported by student finance. Got a job in the profession I qualified in. Saved a house deposit. Bought and renovated my own home. Met DP, he moved in, and some 11 years on from my son, I’m expecting my second.

@babycatcher411 congratulations on your second pregnancy!!! Sounds like you've done absolutely amazing!

Hello! I got pregnant with my first child on my 18th birthday and found out I was expecting my 2nd on my 19th birthday so two babies at 19. It was really hard! I didn’t know as much as my friends weren’t mums with advice, I didn’t know about mumsnet... I didn’t have much money as I gave up working. I would do it all again tho! My children are 9 and 10 now and we are all so close x

Yeah, there's lots of DFail journos that lurk on here so people get twitchy.

Good luck OP.