To be uninvited and fuming?!

[PartyPooper86]

NC as this could be outing! An acquaintance of mine - let's call her 'A' - is having a big birthday party this weekend. She is very good friends with my best friend 'B' so I was going along with her. Bought an outfit, gift , changed some plans, was looking forward to seeing 'A' again and from what 'B' told me, she was looking forward to seeing me.

Today 'B' gets a message from 'A' to say I can't come to the party. The reason? An 'ex' of mine (Who I was seeing for a month, 2 years ago and who is DP with 'A's best friend) said he will not go if I'm there. 'A's best friend also said she won't go if her boyfriend/my ex isn't going so therefore I have been uninvited to ensure they go. I haven't spoken to or seen this 'man' for 2 years and had no plans to speak to him other than a polite hello if we were in close proximity. Things didn't end on the best of terms but not the worst either considering it was only a month long 'romance'.

I get that 'A' can invite who she wants but I can't quite believe the immaturity of it all and the fact she didn't message me herself. So AIBU to turn up to eat the buffet,drink the drink and leave to be annoyed by this debacle?!

NC fail

And your friend is happy with this?!?! If so she’s a crap friend!

Decades ago i was dumped by a mental case (evidence to follow).

I married and had lovely dc and mostly happy.

Of course fb checked a few years ago. She looked very sad to be with my ex.

Now she looks VERY happy!

He's now her ex too!

Life moves on and bad people seldom get better but quite often keep moving through nice people and destroying/hurting us.

These are not friends. Move on and find a new circle of adults you can trust x

I hope you're not going to give her the present still ?

WinnieFosterTether I wasn't 'planning' interaction but would rather say a polite hello and be the bigger person than give daggers and look like a 15YO.

I think your best off going out with friend b than going to this party. Sounds crap anyways lol 😜

Knittedfairies

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Obviously you are the adult here,, You went out together,,it finished and life has gone on. Only it sounds like its a big problem for him. In one way it's a pity that you aren't going because you could show just what a classy lady you are and how little he means to you.
Have a great night out with your friend.

Oops

@WinnieFosterTether

I think not ‘saying hello’ to someone you dated, even for a month would seem pretty weird. I think a polite hello shows you’re not being weird, and there’s no problem.

It's not the 'saying hello if you bump into each other'. It's having thought about it and planned it.
My friend's DH is friends with someone I dated. If I was going to their event, interacting with my ex wouldn't have crossed my mind enough to have a plan. That and the being fuming, just made me wonder if OP was a bit more emotionally invested than she's implying.

This made me smile 😀

@WinnieFosterTether . I didn't plan anything. When my friend asked if there was a problem I said no then thought to myself well I'll just say a polite hello if I see him/Make eye contact.. No planning. No emotional investment (other than being annoyed at the situation).

Ah, ok. I can see why it's so unexpected and annoying then.

Hun let it go, they all sound like a bunch of twats.

Keep the dress, use the present you bought and book yourself into a hotel for the night.
Get a lush bathbomb, a face pack and order yourself some room service.

You're worth it.