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Original poster

To ask if people in your real life are talking about Brexit because no bugger is in mine!

127 replies

JaneHare · 15/01/2019 12:28

Considering the media say we're a country divided, it doesn't look like it to me!

No-one I work with is talking about Brexit or tonight's vote. My family don't discuss it; leavers and remainers spent a perfectly cordial Xmas together. My friends look at me like this Confused if I bring it up. I'm not hearing any discussions in the hairdressers or the shop or the pub.

How about in your life?

(And if you don't want to discuss Brexit on this thread, you're free to leave)

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Tighnabruaich · 15/01/2019 12:29

We talk about it all the time in our office. And husband and I discuss it at home.

RB68 · 15/01/2019 12:31

I think everyone knows it is too decisive and explosive to be talking about at work really - but in my life am sick to the back teeth of it. DH really into his politics and even though I agree with him he will happily rant at me for hours about it and drive me to distraction - having a week off at the moment as he is away ha ha

RB68 · 15/01/2019 12:31

divisive not decisive

BillyAndTheSillies · 15/01/2019 12:32

We talk about it at work a lot because we have a lot of people working for us who are EU Nationals (construction company).

DH and I discuss it a lot because of EU procurement around the industry we work in (but both voted remain).

We discuss it with my parents but never gets discussed with IL's.

Comes up in regular conversation with some groups of friends but not others.

Confusedbeetle · 15/01/2019 12:33

Nobody wants all the bollocks that goes with the discussion. We have leavers and remainers in the family and friends. The subjuect is no longer mentioned. Everyone is weary of it. MN will keep the vitriol going though

Ribbonsonabox · 15/01/2019 12:34

Yes virtually everyone I speak to day to day at least mentions it here.... we all have similar views thankfully tho.... would be a different story if we lived near my husbands family who are all staunch brexiters... not many brexiters round here tho dont know one person who voted leave here

domton · 15/01/2019 12:35

Yes. Not all the time but yes! It's the biggest political event in years, and the impact on the country is enormous whatever happens. I find it odd when people don't discuss it. I have a friend who refuses to. Absolutely bizarre I think but each to their own I suppose, as long as I dobt have to understand it.

Do you actively choose not to or it just doesn't come up? Did you vote?

ThomasHardyPerennial · 15/01/2019 12:35

I made the mistake of talking about it with my extended family during christmas Grin. Dh and I talk about it a lot at the moment, because whatever happens will have a knock-on effect to the industries we work in.

Alconleigh · 15/01/2019 12:35

Constantly. At work, with friends. It's the most important thing facing the nation, and a colossal fuck up. Hard to avoid talking about it. It's not the only topic though obviously!

Ribbonsonabox · 15/01/2019 12:36

Oh and I sympathise with being ranted at by husband... mine bangs on and on and I'm like 'why are you shouting at me I agree with you?!?'

Ontopofthesunset · 15/01/2019 12:36

We talk about it all the time - actively engaged teenagers, friends who are involved in politics, friends who live overseas. We don't talk about it obsessively but it comes up every day some way or another. Today of course it will; this vote is significant in terms of what happens next.

PerceptionIsReality · 15/01/2019 12:37

We talk about it daily. But then we are immigrants living in EU27 and we moved here partly because of the Brexit vote. Also have a number of family members that I now have little to do with as a consequence of their vote and what it revealed to me about them.

I can’t imagine not caring about this.

pigsDOfly · 15/01/2019 12:38

I think I've done most of my ranting, but most people I ranted to are remainers, like me.

Most of the leavers I know are people I'd just rather not get into heated arguments with as it could cause a rift in the family.

The only leaver I do say anything to tends not to respond, rather suspect he doesn't have anything positive to say, and it's rather difficult to have a discussion with someone who doesn't respond to anything you say on the subject; strange really because normally he's someone who has an opinion on everything.

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord · 15/01/2019 12:38

Yes, loads. I work for a media company though and 17-year-old DS is interested.

Lucisky · 15/01/2019 12:39

It just gets me so annoyed. The government seems so inept. Yes, we do discuss it, but not for too long at a time or we'd both have steam coming out of our ears. I also get annoyed by the hysterical tv coverage. Good job I know where the off button is.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 15/01/2019 12:39

Yes! Furious, divisive family arguments all the time. Can't wait for it to be over.

LakieLady · 15/01/2019 12:40

Not only talking about it, but watching the debate and keeping The Grauniad's live update page open.

This is probably the most significant domestic political event in my lifetime (I'm 63, so that's quite a few years). I think anyone who isn't talking about it is either not politically engaged or doesn't give a shit.

Mistigri · 15/01/2019 12:41

I wouldn't say that people talk about it all the time, but all my friends do talk about it (many like me are immigrants and their rights are being trashed).

At work, my team isn't directly affected in terms of there being a direct Brexit impact on our workload, but it comes up regularly in team meetings now, and most people are refusing to organise travel across the UK border around Brexit time. I will not be booking any travel to the UK office after mid March, until the situation is clearer.

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 15/01/2019 12:41

DH and I talk about it, but for the sake of family harmony, not too much.
None of my friends even mention it - too focused on the other stuff we've got going on.

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JaneHare · 15/01/2019 12:49

Do you actively choose not to or it just doesn't come up? Did you vote?

We all voted. Roughly 30% remain 70% leave.

I do try to discuss it but leavers and remainers alike (in my family) are convinced the German car manufacturers will come to our aid because "they need us as much as we need them" or "the Costas wouldn't survive the summer without us Brits and our money"

I know those comments make both my and DH's family sound thick, but they're not - honest!

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Ihaventgottimeforthis · 15/01/2019 12:52

I think about it all the time, talk about it with DH frequently, which is mostly mutual ranting.
Some close friends, we discuss it. Other 'school mum' type friends I don't, because there have been no signals that they give a shit.
I'm in mild despair really.

megletthesecond · 15/01/2019 12:53

Not at work or the school gate. It's too controversial.

My family are all remainers so I can talk about it with them.

ladybee28 · 15/01/2019 12:54

I live in the EU and have an equal number of local and UK friends, so it's constant here.

As soon as anyone local finds out I'm English, it's the first thing they ask about, and all the Brits here are really worried.

Lots of scaremongering and false information flying about though, so I'm trying not to engage too much.

Seniorschoolmum · 15/01/2019 12:55

No. Either people are sick of the subject or they realise it is an easy way to damage a relationship.

Dongdingdong · 15/01/2019 12:55

I try to avoid talking about it with friends. I find it's such a depressing subject that no one particularly wants to talk about it anyway, as it just spoils the mood!

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