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To be furious over what has just happened?

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 09:46

Out Walking our dogs and my 6 month old baby in carrier. I have four dogs and look after one of my friend's dogs while she's at work occasionally. My four are quite large, the biggest being big German shepherd size and the smallest is a pug (friend's dog).

Before I get flamed for having too many dogs, two were mine, two my DH's before we met, so obviously we now have four. We aren't the kind of people to get rid of dogs just because we had a child - dogs are family too and we treat them as such.

We live in the countryside, very quiet rural area.
Coming to the end of our walk over the fields (where I never usually see any other walkers) I see another dog approaching - muzzled Siberian husky with a bloke.
At this point I already have four on leads ready for the road back to our house and bent down squat position to put pug on a lead.

I thought man would stop when he saw me bent down but he carried on approaching. I was struggling to get wriggly pug back on lead so I called out to him "can you just wait there a sec so I can get this one on the lead?" - No response and continues towards us.

Still trying to get dog on lead and my dogs are now getting a bit twitchy and unsettled that this bloke is approaching them, so one of mine barks.
Just to add here, our dogs are all very well behaved but they are protective over me and DD and will act accordingly if they feel threatened.

Man takes no notice, I call out again and say "can you just give me a second?" Ignores me completely.

He decides to squeeze by my dogs and I with a stupid smirk on his face. He can clearly see I'm struggling and baby is now crying and the others are pissed off. One of mine pulled forward and I dug my heels in and sat back so as not to land on my daughter.

I shouted at him and called him a fucking arsehole.

If he could have waited one second, I'd have been out the way and that wouldn't have had to have happened.

FFS Angry I just despise people at times.

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diddl · 15/01/2019 15:24

I love the idea of putting up your hand & expecting people to stop.

I think that I'd have smirked at that!

irunlikeahipoo · 15/01/2019 15:27

OP seems to be like the numerous dog owners that my DH meets when out walking our dogs
Can’t control them properly or effectively but then gets snotty when their dogs kick off and there is a problem .
I won’t say what my DH would have called if you called him a stupid asshole but it begins with C and ends in T for walking 5 dogs and a tiny baby that you obviously can’t control ( not controlling the baby obviously )

Our dogs are always on a lead as they are big and can appear to some people to be aggressive but as long as they are on a lead we aren’t breaking any laws as we have full control over them

dustarr73 · 15/01/2019 15:49

Wonder where @DippyDiplodocus is gone.Probably walking her dogs

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 15/01/2019 15:50

There’s no point in DippyDiplodocus coming back. She’ll just come up with more excuses why she’s not in the wrong.

IknowTheBoswellJoke · 15/01/2019 15:52

She's probably being dragged over the horizon while still shouting about how right she is.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 15:54

I can't really see what else there is to add? Some of the post are completely ridiculous and I can't be arsed even replying to them.

I've said my bit. I've answered questions, said things will be different in the future. What more is there to say?

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 15:55

Apart from I still don't know what a "quaint/cutesy country wife" is, if anyone would like to elaborate?

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Charlie97 · 15/01/2019 15:56

@DippyDiplodocus in fairness you did come across extremely defensive and your initial story did change significantly...... which typo or not, made it look like you were changing the goal posts.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 15:57

Ok

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ILoveMaxiBondi · 15/01/2019 15:58

Well you could quote which of my posts helped you “see” I was getting “quite upset” Grin

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 15:59

Have you really got nothing better to do? 😂😂 if I find the time to scroll back, I'll do it, just for you. But later.

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ILoveMaxiBondi · 15/01/2019 16:04

About as much as you have pet Wink

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 16:08

Yeah well, if this post has taught you anything, it's that you shouldn't "demand" strangers to do things. They'll probably just ignore you.

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joanmcc · 15/01/2019 16:08

Wasn't a bumbling drama, just putting a dog on a lead. If you think that's drama, you need to get out more.

And if you think it's justification for swearing at someone in public, you need to be out a lot less.

Worzilgummidge · 15/01/2019 16:13

Maybe he was smirking at the silliness of walking several dogs with a child in tow. I would also.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 16:15

Same advice for @irunlikeahipoo 's DH then @joanmcc - her husband calls people cunts in public.

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Worzilgummidge · 15/01/2019 16:16

You should not have swore at him op and I'm surprised you wasn't dragged off screaming into the sunset then he would have had plenty to smirk about. Grin

joanmcc · 15/01/2019 16:18

And if he did I would give him that advice. But he hasn't confessed boasted about committing a public order offence here.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 16:19

No, his wife has instead.

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 16:20

Why, what are you insinuating @Worzilgummidge ? Think you're playing right into the hands of the "you're only saying it cos he's a man" crowd. Tut tut.

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sillysmiles · 15/01/2019 16:31

Giraffesinscarves
Those people make a rational choice based on what is right for the child and the animal, they are not just thinking of themselves

People who get rid of their dogs because they've had a baby are assh*les

Wordthe · 15/01/2019 16:35

If she wants to walk five well behaved dogs with a baby then what’s the issue
there are laws limiting the number of dogs that can be exercised at a time, this tells us that it's enough of a social problem for legislation to be needed

ILoveMaxiBondi · 15/01/2019 16:35

it's that you shouldn't "demand" strangers to do things. They'll probably just ignore you.

Confused was that directed at me? I haven’t demanded you do anything!

StuffYouAllInTheCrust · 15/01/2019 16:41

I love how many on here are posting again and again with more outrageous suggestions as to why the OP was in the wrong.

She didn’t ask for her life decisions to be dissected, she didn’t ask if she was BU walking 5 dogs. If you really think that not allowing someone a bit of common courtesy is so acceptable you need to go off and give your heads a good wobble Confused MN is going to the dogs (pardon the pun)

Oh, and to the one comparing her dogs to unruly children - really? So if someone was driving past her in a car and she shouted stop as the child was about to step out in front, she should fully accept that they don’t HAVE to stop as she should have to child under control? Ok..... Confused

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 15/01/2019 16:42

Same advice for @irunlikeahipoo 's DH then @joanmcc - her husband calls people cunts in public.*

Irrelevant, OP. We are not discussing anyone else but you here, considering it is your behaviour that led to this thread.

You are not a child. When called out on wrongdoing (and swearing at someone in public is a criminal offence) you should take responsibility, not deflect blame like a toddler would (“But X does it so tell him off too!”).

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