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To be furious over what has just happened?

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DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 09:46

Out Walking our dogs and my 6 month old baby in carrier. I have four dogs and look after one of my friend's dogs while she's at work occasionally. My four are quite large, the biggest being big German shepherd size and the smallest is a pug (friend's dog).

Before I get flamed for having too many dogs, two were mine, two my DH's before we met, so obviously we now have four. We aren't the kind of people to get rid of dogs just because we had a child - dogs are family too and we treat them as such.

We live in the countryside, very quiet rural area.
Coming to the end of our walk over the fields (where I never usually see any other walkers) I see another dog approaching - muzzled Siberian husky with a bloke.
At this point I already have four on leads ready for the road back to our house and bent down squat position to put pug on a lead.

I thought man would stop when he saw me bent down but he carried on approaching. I was struggling to get wriggly pug back on lead so I called out to him "can you just wait there a sec so I can get this one on the lead?" - No response and continues towards us.

Still trying to get dog on lead and my dogs are now getting a bit twitchy and unsettled that this bloke is approaching them, so one of mine barks.
Just to add here, our dogs are all very well behaved but they are protective over me and DD and will act accordingly if they feel threatened.

Man takes no notice, I call out again and say "can you just give me a second?" Ignores me completely.

He decides to squeeze by my dogs and I with a stupid smirk on his face. He can clearly see I'm struggling and baby is now crying and the others are pissed off. One of mine pulled forward and I dug my heels in and sat back so as not to land on my daughter.

I shouted at him and called him a fucking arsehole.

If he could have waited one second, I'd have been out the way and that wouldn't have had to have happened.

FFS Angry I just despise people at times.

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Productrecall · 15/01/2019 09:49

How do you know he heard you asking him to wait? I wouldn't automatically stop and wait just because someone ahead of me was bent down fiddling with their dog....

TwitterQueen1 · 15/01/2019 09:50

You need to give your head a wobble.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 09:50

Unless he was completely deaf, I don't see how he could have not heard someone shouting to him from a few meters away. I did make eye contact with him and put my hand up. Maybe he was blind too, eh?

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TheShiteRunner · 15/01/2019 09:51

You sound like you weren't really in control of the dogs tbh.

Birdsgottafly · 15/01/2019 09:51

Yes he should have hung back, but you shouldn't be walking that many dogs with a baby in a carrier.

Fwiw, I prefer big dogs, they are easier to manage. It's the pug/Frenchie types that you've got to take more care over.

Four dogs 'protective' of you, isn't always going to end well. It's other people that you've got to cater for, like when driving.

You might have to rethink your walks. Which you will anyway when you've got a toddler.

Birdsgottafly · 15/01/2019 09:52

Could he speak English?

malovitt · 15/01/2019 09:52

Did he have headphones in?
The AirPods style ones are impossible to see if you have a hat on.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 09:52

Well no, that's the point. I would have been had I got them all on their leads and was stood up, given the chance Hmm

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pandechocolate · 15/01/2019 09:52

I'd be annoyed too. It's just courtesy as a dog owner (which a lot of dog owners actually do not have).

He might have thought, well why does she want me to wait, mine is muzzled and her big ones are on a lead. But it wouldn't have hurt him to hang on for two seconds.

Dutchesss · 15/01/2019 09:52

Your dog almost pulled you over while you were carrying your baby and you're blaming someone else? YABU.

ChrisjenAvasarala · 15/01/2019 09:53

If you need any other dog walker in the area to stop and stay away whilst you put the dog back on the lead, then it shouldn't be loose in the first place.

What if all 5 had been off the lead? How long would he need to wait whilst you collected them?

And none of your dogs should be barking and pulling on the lead just because someone is walking in your direction.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 09:53

I wondered if he couldn't speak English but I don't know as he didn't say anything.
Didn't see any head phones.

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whatsthepointthen · 15/01/2019 09:53

I would have ignored you aswell tbh.

You shouldnt be out with that mang dogs and a baby.

MadMum101 · 15/01/2019 09:53

You sound very self absorbed.

Were you in an enclosed area like an alleyway as it reads like you were on the edge of a field.

Morgan12 · 15/01/2019 09:53

Aye she's out way a baby in a sling walking 5 dogs and the man approaching with a muzzled dog can see she is trying to get the small dog on the lead (because he has eyes!) So he just keeps walking and smirking instead of waiting maybe 30 seconds.

But give your head a wobble OP.

Ffs this place sometimes!

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 15/01/2019 09:54

Some people are knobs. There could be a reason for it - maybe he didn't hear you, maybe he was in a rush, maybe he thought you needed help and didn't want to, maybe he was just an arse...it could be anything.

I wouldn't stress it. It's just one of those moments, walking five dogs is never going to be totally stress free all the time, especially with a 6mo in the mix! When we had four dogs for a while, I found it much easier to walk them in twos, but it does mean you spend a lot longer outside... but you don't have to rely on anyone else helping, so it's less stressful.

DippyDiplodocus · 15/01/2019 09:54

Should I just not walk them then and keep them cooped up inside?

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Dixiechickonhols · 15/01/2019 09:54

AirPods in would be my guess.

HTKS · 15/01/2019 09:54

I wouldn’t have thought someone bent down putting a dog on a lead was an automatic “hang back and give space” scenario? I do consider myself to be a polite dog walker. If one was a puppy trying to get to me to say hello then possibly. Otherwise if you’d successfully had four dogs sitting nicely on leads and were getting on a fifth I would probably just continue walking towards you. Obviously if he heard you he was being a dick but perhaps he didn’t quite join up all the dots in the scenario?

thaegumathteth · 15/01/2019 09:54

You’re massively overreacting

pandechocolate · 15/01/2019 09:55

Although after re-reading, I will add

Still trying to get dog on lead and my dogs are now getting a bit twitchy and unsettled that this bloke is approaching them, so one of mine barks.
Just to add here, our dogs are all very well behaved but they are protective over me and DD and will act accordingly if they feel threatened

If your dogs are reactive to people approaching them to walk past, you should put something on your dog to indicate as such (a 'give me space' bandana or harness), or a muzzle if you wanted to be extreme.

missyB1 · 15/01/2019 09:55

He sounds like a twat, he probably thought he was quite the big man making life difficult for a woman with a baby. I'm glad you shouted at him as he clearly is an arsehole.

MadameButterface · 15/01/2019 09:55

Some men are just arseholes and like to bully women when they get half a chance.

SnuggyBuggy · 15/01/2019 09:55

He does sound like a bit of a twat

ILoveMaxiBondi · 15/01/2019 09:55

Unless he was completely deaf

Why on earth couldn’t he be deaf? All evidence suggests he is.

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