to think if you want lots of people at your wedding don't make it inconvenient for them

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A colleague is getting married this year on a rather remote Greek Island. She was in tears earlier because a lot of her invitees have said they cannot come.

I do feel sorry for her as she obviously thought it was a very romantic choice of location. But it's several hours by boat from Athens and only two boats go a day. Also, obviously, it's expensive for people to attend and will also require a lot of jiggling re annual leave, childcare etc.

AIBU to think that if you are going to get upset if relatives or friends can't come to your wedding, then you really should take them into consideration and be more realistic when choosing a venue?

I have a friend who settled in NZ 20 yrs ago. She chose to get married in Lake Como which we were able to make a weekend of it.My cousin, on the other hand, chose to get married in Sydney, Australia. We’re very close actually but I had a baby and a toddler at the time and we simply didn’t have the funds let along the inclination to travel that far. Only her parents attended from our side of the family despite quite a lot of pressure placed on her sibling, my parents & myself.

At least, pick a location which is relatively affordable/convenient to get to/stay and preferably where budget airlines fly to. She’s not very pragmatic is she? She’ll live & learn. 😀

I think that it's fine to have the wedding you want whatever it is, but if it's expensive/abroad then you shouldn't really expect a large turnout.

Yanbu, it’s too much to ask of people.

I wouldn’t go I don’t have the time, money or childcare to attend something like that. If people wan5 to hold weddings abroad that’s there choice but you can’t expect others to pay.

YANBU. I do feel sorry for her too, but she has put her dreams ahead of practicality. There is no way I would go to a wedding that involved a plane ride and 2 boat rides just to get there, no matter how lovely it is.

My friend got married abroad, she invited everyone that she wanted to invite, knowing that some of us might not go.

Of course you can have a destination wedding, just don’t expect everyone to come. She’s being a bit of a drama llama.

SgtFredColon what GoFigure is referring to is that the op sounds very much like the script for Mamma Mia

Why is it always the people who want the inconvenient, expensive to attend weddings plus a cash gift who are the same people that also expect everyone they invite to attend and take great offence that someone might not want to remortgage their house to attend their hen night?

Has she told her mum about inviting all her dads yet?