Maid of honour wedding costs..

[JustBeenNosey]

I'm maid of honour for my best friends wedding in June.

I must say, it's the easiest MOH job ever, because she wants everything to be her way and perfect.

The Hen Do is looking at about £100 for an overnight stay and spa thing..
The makeup trail is costing £40 and the girl isn't even that good!
The bridesmaid dresses that we have to pay for that's she's just sent in the group chat range from £115-£225!!
The rooms at the place where they're staying are £100 per night - splitting it with another bridesmaid the night before but me and my bf have recently split up so the second night I will be paying on my own.. so £150 for the rooms.

AIBU to think that not everyone has all this spare money to throw away?!
And AIBU by telling her that I and probably some other people won't be able to afford all this?

Just an idea but could you set a budget that you are comfortable with, and let the bride know she needs to keep the costs under that, or pay the difference.

If the wedding is in June she's cutting it a bit fine for made to measure dresses surely?

@snitzelvoncrumb if she finds dresses she likes but are expensive, I'll tell her I can't afford it. The more I'm thinking about it, the more I'm coming to realise that she probably is been abit unreasonable in making us pay for this stuff 😖

Oh well, I've told her my concerns and I suppose I can't do much more than that now 🤷🏼‍♀️

I paid for my bridesmaids dresses I think they were £50 from TFNC.
I also paid for their rooms the night before the wedding.
I didn’t pay for makeup as we all did our own. 1 of my bridesmaids had their hair done with me and they paid for their own. The others just did their own.
£15 drinks?! I spent less on my wedding and had a free bar. Luckily everyone in our friendship group has free bars at weddings.

@3WildOnes obviously £15 drinks is an exaggeration but drinks are typically expensive at weddings 😂
I'll be taking a bottle of vodka to keep in the room to keep topping my drinks up with hahah

There’s a website called bliss extra that does made to measure dresses in about 40 different colours for about £90-100, I was just looking at them as prom dresses x

Sometimes I wonder if these people are real!
If you ask someone to be your bridesmaid/ MOH you pay for their dress and hair (If you have a specific look you want) end of !
As for makeup I have never heard of a BM having a trial! Surely thats only necessary for the bride.
If she's a proper friend you should be able to have this conversation with her and if not then you really shouldnt be a MOH

@HostessTrolley thank you! I'll have a look

Takes the piss, I paid for everything re my bridesmaids bar the hen night (which was just a standard piss up) which included hotel the night before, make up, hair , dresses, jewellery and even shoes.

June is ages away ...you can back out .you can say no.

I'm also bridesmaid for best friend in June -
Dresses she's paid for -
We have paid for shoes £5 from primark but will have to buy others as there not comfy
Hen do £450 including accommodation for two nights that's 20 mins away from home-
So far travel to dresses for trying oh that's £100 as so far away.
It all adds up!

@Pinkroseuk oh Jesus! That's a lot. She was looking at something else for an overnight stay which was £200 and then a day spa the day after for £100.. I went away for a hen do last year for 4 nights in Portugal for £400!

Yes I have to decide by next week if I stay over or just drive there and back -
It means the hen do or a holiday for us this year so will probably end up driving and not doing the cocktail making!

@Pinkroseuk I know that I wouldn't be staying over but I'm a tight arse 😂😂

No i am too! Think it will be a holiday with hubby!